Calling wife "mom"?

Question

Mostly I call my wife by her name, but often, especially around my kids I call her "mommy" (she calls me "daddy" often too)

I consider this a term of affection, as does she, and have no problem with this. (nor does she)

However my real mother apparantly told her at dinner last night that she shouldn't let me call her this. (My mother hated it when my dad would call her mom)

So question:
is it wrong? Bad taste? Bad for a marriage? I get the impression it is anti-feminist. (mom's a bit feministic)
Though clearly my wife isn't my mom, she is the mom figure for my family, so isn't this OK?
I certainly don't want my kids to call her anything other than mom, and me anything other than dad.

Anyway, how proper/improper is this?

P.S. the question ISNT weather or not this is any of my mom's business, because clearly it isn't. Ultimately what we call each other is our decision, and we are certainly going to be using the mom/dad labels in my mom's presence A LOT!!

Answer 1

You were both content with it til someone whos business it is not spoke up. Just ignore her comments and go back to how you were.

Answer 2

It didn't work for your mom, but it does work for you. As long as you aren't calling her "mom" in the bedroom, then go for it. However, I do think its really important for kids to see their parents have a happy and healthy friendship/relationship. You want to make sure you are appropriately affectionate, really enjoy each others company and spend plenty of time with each other without the kids. If your kids are young enough, several times a week you should be putting them to bed because its mom and dad's date night. When they are older, make sure you regularly get a babysitter and go out. You are teaching them how to be a husband and a wife, as well as mom and dad.

Your mom probably means well, but its not her family.

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with calling each other mom and dad. I think 95% of couples after having kids do this. My husband and I do this especially in front of our daughter. If I were you I would tell MOM to butt out. Or you could just continue to do it in front of her. What I would do is REALLY say it alot of times in front of her. Maybe doing that she will realize that she doesn't have a say in how you run your family.

Continue on it isn't wrong.

Answer 4

Personally, I don't think it's that big of a deal. My mom called my dad "daddy" all the time. It's not literal, its just referring to him as the "daddy" of the house. In fact, I think its kind of cute. My boyfriend calls me mommy when we reference my cats!

Answer 5

If your wife hasn't complained then do it all you want. I know a lot of people who do that. Especially new parents who want their kids to call them mommy and daddy and not by their names.

Answer 6

Of coure it's okay. I think it's sweet. My husband and I do that. The only thing it's funny when my parents visit and I say "Daddy" and two people get confused.

Answer 7

Grandma and grandpa did that all of the years they were married til the day she died. Fifty eight years and your right it is in between you and your wife. IF both of you are comfortable with it, then that is all that matters. I don't find it improper at all.

Answer 8

You answered the question yourself when you said you consider this a term of affect and so does your wife.

And you further answered it when you said what you call each other is your decision.

Answer 9

Oh brother! I wouldn't worry about it. lots are people do that.I think it's cute lol.You're mom will get over it.Just because she didn't like when your dad did it to her doesn't make it wrong.

Answer 10

0_o i think it is perfectly fine. i do this WITH MY CATS! i always say aw, is Daddy picking on you. :P i know what my husband's name is. he does the same for me, so i know we will do this when we have children. i have NO problem with it, to each their own.