Family & Relationships - 19 June 2007

how do you judge a girl you've just seen ,
give a point by point answer
what will you search for first
what next
how'l you know as much as you can about her personality if you only got to see her for ten minutes....

2007-06-19 21:02:20 · 19 answers · asked by sean 2 in Singles & Dating

i'm 21, he's 16.

he doesn't really bother about school and mingling with some bad company.

he's in constant fighting with my mum.

he's just ok at home, but we hardly know his real life actually, the friends come to house sometimes.

i just want to be close to him without making him feel annoyed.
specifically, i would like him to be more responsible about school.

if his behaviour improves, i'm happier. i'm the eldest sister.

2007-06-19 20:57:59 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i trust my gf so much. tonight she told me that she had a 3 way kiss with her friend and her friends bf. this makes me feel uneasy, she said it meant nothing. we been together about 6 months. should i be worried at all? am i not allowed to display any displeasure on my part because thats the "control freak, jealous bf?" she did tell me about it so thats a step in the right direction. what do you guys think? By the way shes my first real GF, and I'm like her 4th bf, if that matters at all (so this is all new to me....) i'm 20 shes 21

2007-06-19 20:54:43 · 6 answers · asked by college student 1 in Singles & Dating

i am caught in a bad relation for 11 years and have an eight year old child. twice or thrice i tried to quit but my husband begs forgiveness and i try to mend ways with him. but he repeats his behaviour in 2 months time. he is neither leaving me nor letting me live peacefully. i am indepedent and a professional.he is highly abusive and suspicious. he claims his love for me and the child but always paints an unpleasant scene in front of him. I am really depressed.

2007-06-19 20:53:32 · 33 answers · asked by sonu 1 in Marriage & Divorce

normally,each wednesday,me and all my female friends will go out and read books in the library.i was very close to dai,my aggresive friend.i mean ,i laid my head on her shoulder.all my friends did that.
so...next day they told me that we(dai & me) are like lesbian.they even take picture of us and spread it among their friends.its "their" friends.and ,(i dont know if their trying to cover their wrongdoing)they said i better stay away from dai.i knew they hate her for some reason.but,they even put me in shame.how could they do this to me?i never done something bad to them..but why did they do this to me.

2007-06-19 20:49:58 · 17 answers · asked by yuki129 1 in Friends

I have a friend and he's in a really tough relationship and she's hurting him really bad yet when I try to tell him to let her go he seems to deny that I say anything.
How else can I help him?

2007-06-19 20:48:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I have a difficult time w/ being able to "stand it" in my husbands country. I have travelled to quite a few different countries, but the egyptian culture I've experienced there is too emotional and nonsensical that I wouldn't even want to go if I were paid $2,000.00/day; however, I can tolerate it for up to 2 wks. every other year. His family and friends have been kind and respectful to me, but I just can't stand it there. Mexico is more advanced than egypt, it's as if egypt is 5th world since 3rd world isn't as bad. The people are nice, but that doesn't help when I'm so uncomfortable there (there's so much littering and trash + life is far too difficult for the everyday citizen. Never saw as many ppl. with such hollow, depressed eyes either).

2007-06-19 20:44:00 · 9 answers · asked by warpedhybrid 3 in Marriage & Divorce

and since thet are not in alphabetical order it's even harder

2007-06-19 20:42:14 · 3 answers · asked by LiL' E 1 in Friends

I have ex which I been loving for years.
At beginning she was the one who wanted to get back, however after finding that I was interacting with variety type of girl after we broke up it became opposite situation.
Now I am still here been rejected for estimate 2 - 3 times during the period of 6 years. Again, we are meeting occasionally, maybe once a week or two, having great time together. Problem is it is so difficult for me to let her know what I feel because of all the turn over history I dealt with, matter infact I am scared to not even get to see her by letting her know how I really feel. Werid thing is, she never calls unless I dont call her for monthes and always expect me to call and there are reminding word for me to call her. I dont know what she is thinking or what she actually want. And I dont believe she is coming out as a friend after all the serious relationship we had. In other side, I dont think she is comingout because she likes me cuz she never calls. wut isit?

2007-06-19 20:35:57 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

This is probably the most important decission of your life. So don't make a stupid decission, then divorce later. Choose your spouse wisely. They should have the same views,dreams and wants as yours. Work things out together, should not be one- sided. If your self-centered, don't get married. Be responsible for your actions and choices, good or bad. Don't point fingers or nag, it'll only make things worse. Don't go into marriage to change your spouse, they have to want to change themselves. If you care to comment, please do.

2007-06-19 20:35:56 · 12 answers · asked by Bone Daddy 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi, My husband and I travel with his job a lot overseas etc. I go along with him sometimes but also sometimes it can be a few months or so before I see him. I'm away with him now and we have had issues before in our marriage but now it seems to be going along smoothly. Except there is hardly any sex, (maybe once every 3 weeks if lucky). I don't try anymore because I don't feel he is interested and I don't want him to try if he doesn't want it. Last night he said I don't act sexy or I don't dress sexy. My underwear are not sexy, I don't know what he wants I buy expensive undergarments and they are never good enough. But he will not guide me to what he feels is sexy, for all I know it might be just plain cotton nickers lol. I miss what we used to have, it's not about the sex it's that I don't feel good about myself and I feel unwanted. Although I'm always kissing him or touching him loving way. What should I do?.

2007-06-19 20:35:51 · 6 answers · asked by angel 2 in Marriage & Divorce

We've been talking about casuaIly sleeping together because we hadn't in our previous relationship and sparks still fly between us. However I can tell he has been questioning his role in my life because his best friend wants me and i dont like his best friend. So he asked me out and I said just as long as he didnt want me for sex... and he said it is too late now it is obvious i do not trust him. The morning after I sent him a text with my deepest darkest secret and told him i trust him with it. It has been four days now, and I have decided to call him because I need him in my life. Except I do not know what to say to someone who thinks I denote friendliness, courtesy, lively, sociability, and an out-going nature.

2007-06-19 20:31:25 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I know many girls when they are young say that. However, do many girls use this line just to reject the approaches of a guy?

2007-06-19 20:29:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Because she doesn't want a 3way? I think theres something missing missing and maybe her therapist cal help her find it or something.

2007-06-19 20:27:20 · 10 answers · asked by ? 3 in Marriage & Divorce

we dated and i kind of fell for him. he didnt. yet i kept telling him how much i loved him. he said it is better if we stayed as friends. he even told me he wouldnt ruin our friendship by leaving me alone. when i thought practically i made up my mind to move on with a different guy. when i told my friend about my new boyfriend he seemed pretty ok. however, for a while he made fun of my new relationship and told me it wouldnt work. recently i spent more time with my boyfriend, but so that my friend dont take me as a player i talked to him whenever i got time. but last week he totally changed. he suddenly felt offended by my words, stopped answering my calls and even blocked my aim screen name. i am ok with the fact that he is my friend, but what happened to him now? why is he acting like this? is my new relationship making him angry?

2007-06-19 20:26:05 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My hubby and I have been together for 6 years, and we have 2 kids (4 and 1 years). I love him, and but lately I've been struggling within myself about our situation. See, he's VERY irresponsible, and has not kept a job for more than a few months the ENTIRE time we've been together. I've always been the one supporting us, making sure the bills are paid, etc. There is a lot of pressure on me to provide, because if I don't, everything will fall apart. I want nothing more than to stay home with the girls, and be supported by him. This is never going to happen. I hate sex, I'll do anything to avoid it, and he'll do anything to HAVE it!! lol. He constantly lies to me (about everything and anything). While I'm at work, he racks up the cable bill renting porn all day. I want to keep the family together, and the girls are very attached to him. But I am so unhappy, I'm miserable to everyone. Lately he's been talking about marriage. :S What do you think?

2007-06-19 20:21:39 · 31 answers · asked by _hello_:D 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Nearly all of my friends are married, they are now about 24-25 yrs old and Most of them are already pregnant.
Now i am already 23 with no Bf yet. I am feeling so weird, well ofcourse i am happy for them. But i am having this strange feelings right now.. I am still not ready to get married.. and they are having babies already. Things around me are moving so fast, i can't catch-up with it. Do you think i am too slow with the world? or am i not matured enough? I am still single and wanted to have more experience with life, but the people around me are already parents.

2007-06-19 20:20:58 · 12 answers · asked by Bruu 2 in Singles & Dating

Is there anyway possible way you can capture a guys heart in the future even though he says he doesn't feel the same about you? I really like this guy and I've liked him for about a year and a half. We were really close in eigth grade because we had a class together but in 9th grade we didnt have any classes together and hardly saw each other. If we have classes this year and see each other more, is there a chance I could capture his heart?

2007-06-19 20:19:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been sort of dating this guy for a little while now and I think that I might possibly be falling, we talked about the future and what it held in store for us and we both want all of the same things in life he then tells me that at a young age due to his family's religous beliefs he was forced into a marrige.. no no its gets better he has more then one wife but he's going to get out of it and he wants to be with me AND ONLY ME what should I do?

2007-06-19 20:15:56 · 9 answers · asked by cocoprincess83 4 in Marriage & Divorce

actually it's a step-cousin.. so, no blood relation.. he wants me, he keeps telling me he loves me, but i am engaged to someone & don't want him at all!! he is strictly a friend only.. he keeps calling me and trying to get me to go out with him.. how can i make it clear that i am not interested without hurting his feelings???? i don't understand why he loves me if he knows already that i am engaged and don't want him!!

2007-06-19 20:15:18 · 13 answers · asked by what's it gonna be?? 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I slept with a married guy and now I've stressed myself sick with guilt. I feel awful and I want to move just to get away from the town (I would hate it if anyone found out) I don't know what to do... should I forget about it and move on (learn from my mistakes) or just face the consequences that I may have ruined my reputation. I was drunk when I slept with him, but I have a had a crush on him for a while....

2007-06-19 20:14:32 · 13 answers · asked by jo 1 in Singles & Dating

i have been with this boy for 5 yrs. since i was in the 9th grade and like any relationship we have had our problems but now its different we are always mad at each and its like the only thing we could agree on is when to have sex and lately i have not been in the mood for that. i perfer to go to work... (lol) i know that sounds bad but thats the way it is but then when we are in the public theres is a big smile like everything is ok. we were seperated for a while and we both cheated and i got over that, but after we got back together we vowed to never cheat again then one day i came home from the hospital and caught him in the bed with somebody else but after awhile i forgave him but that throught is stuck in my head and he is trying to tell me when to get over it and that im tripping when i bring it up. am i too good for him or what?

2007-06-19 20:10:51 · 11 answers · asked by mslady318 1 in Singles & Dating

I am married. To a great husband. We had complications about 2 months ago, we were seperated and debating divorce. (we have been married a year). well during that sep time I met someone else and he was going through the same thing. He understood everything I was going through. We only got to spend one day together. I barley knew him, but I think I fell in love with him. And I am going insane thorugh all of this. What the hell is wrong with me? My husband loves me and I know no one could love me the way he does.....but this other guy.....we had this connection. We dont know what it was, but its there and it doesnt go away. we continue to stay in contact through email and plan to hang out when we get back to the US. (we are in Iraq). I told him I thought I fell for him and he tells me he thinks he could love me but that he is hesitant to love anyone cuz of his marriage failing and stuff. So, I know he and I have no future obviously. But the question I have is whats wrong with me?

2007-06-19 20:05:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

there are different reasons why people say they're in love. and yet nobody can answer if it's a matter of science or just a flow of emotions.

2007-06-19 20:04:30 · 13 answers · asked by Aefer De Luxe 1 in Singles & Dating

i could prob lose a few pounds but im in the normal range for my height, i have hips and boobs..thats my bodyshape. He used to date asian girls , i told him he cant expect me to have the same bodyshape...he said sorry after, but he's sorry because i got upset, he still thinks im overweight. I dunno if i can ever forget...i dont feel comfortable eating a bar of chocolate in front of him anymore in case he's judging me..Any advice?

2007-06-19 20:02:39 · 40 answers · asked by spdy 5 in Singles & Dating

This guy i used to like would always pick on me and tried to get my attention. But acted all shy when it was just me and him and he would keep staring at me. But when he with me and his or my friends he acts like a jerk to me and embarrasses me. And now he talks to other girls who are his friends and talks to them all nice and he is always mean to me. I don't get this guy...is he weird or what?

2007-06-19 20:01:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am a very friendly, outgoing person. I never meet anyone or do anything but go to work. I hate being alone.

2007-06-19 20:00:38 · 11 answers · asked by rainshine 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Is it still cheating? We have been best friends for 13yrs. I've been married to an abusive drug addict for 11ys at the age of 18. my soon to be ex and I have two young sons. He is 2yrs older than myself, married to a woman 14 yrs his senior...they have no kids..they have been married 7 years. We did not leave our spouses for eachother..but for problems in our marriages. We have played around a bit, but I refuse to sleep with him until he has made a solid decision that his marriage is over, because if he choses to stay I don't want to get hurt. We both agree that we should have been together 13yrs ago. So is the playing around part still cheating..even though there is no sex involved. I have never asked him to leave his wife for me or put him in the position to make a choice...because if he does, I want to know it is because he is as fed up with his marriage and wants out as badly as I do mine. I have filed for divorce...but he hasn't yet.

2007-06-19 20:00:08 · 10 answers · asked by Destiny 5 in Marriage & Divorce

This "friend" has always had the habit of saying whatever she has on her mind, good or bad. *you don't exactly want to hear you're a whore just because you kissed a guy do you?* I let it all slide though, 'cause there were a few qualities about her that were nice.
But she started saying bad things about my family. I couldn't take that. I mean, when she wasn't there they were, ok? So... I told her, I really didn't want to be friends anymore. We have different lifestyles, morals, families, veiws... I'm afraid if we tried to be friends any longer we would only end up huring oursleves.
I guess I never realized how much she really liked me though *well, it's not like she ever really showed it often*, but later, I realized from other people's reports, that she's been sulking a lot more than usual.
I never ment to be a *****, I was just tired of beinmg insulted all the time. But I don't want her to totally mean. I feel bad. What should I do? Am I a bad person?

2007-06-19 19:59:29 · 27 answers · asked by kyokat130 1 in Friends

UGH! Okay..wanna hear something really messed up? My boyfriend of 3 1/2 years dumped me for my MOM! Yeah..seriously...MY MOM!!!!!!!! Ugh..what should i do?

2007-06-19 19:59:15 · 21 answers · asked by YoungLove 1 in Singles & Dating