Family & Relationships - 19 June 2007

I was kinda pressured into getting married because I felt obligated because of her level of commitment. I love her dearly but she is different than she was before. I was in prison for 9 months and she stuck it out with me. I married her the day of my releas and we had to move in with her mom so we could save money for a house. She isnt the same. She is a lot different around her mom and a lot different because we live here and without staying with her mom I would be homeless. Should I get out now or try to make this work. We have been married for 1 1/2 months now.

2007-06-19 15:32:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

so it goes like this. my husbands been away for 10months because of a stupid parole violation. and i havent taked 2 him 4 3weeks.so i paid the bill and he calls..and instead of asking about his kids or asking if im okay our conversation was mostly like tell me what you been doing cuz i already know.he expects me to be unfaithful and he thinks too much in his head.
i have no time for bullshit in my life. and these last 10 months i have had 2 basically deliver by myself, make ends meet with no job and 2 kids and a 6 month old baby. i aslo had to deal with my grandma passing and away my mother is getting sick.i know our past wasnt the grestest however im 2 damm old 2 be thinking im 16 with no kids.ya feel me !!
well i guess the question is i've partied my whole life, i used 2 be a "bad girl" did a whole lot of wasting my life away. but now i'm a good wife and the best mother i can be.how do i deal with his insecurity when he comes home next month.i dont want to break down into a freak

2007-06-19 15:31:20 · 13 answers · asked by # 1 wifey!!! 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I just got married and will live with his mom for a while (6 months up to a year) until we get our own place. Several of my friends who I talked to about it say it is a stupid idea, it will be awfull, etc. What do you think? If you have ever lived with your mother-in-law, could you tell me whether it was a good, ok, or bad experience?
I mean, his mom is nice, she seems to like me and I do not anticipate many problems; of course, some compromises will have to be made, but everything will be just temporary. She is a working person, invoved in charity after work, so barely at home. My hubby and I work too, so won't get onto each others nerves too much. Her place has four bedrooms, plenty of space. What do you think?

2007-06-19 15:29:41 · 6 answers · asked by Kaytee 5 in Family

i went shopping with my friend today and she shop lifted, she's not the kinda person you would expect this from, she's actual really nice. the events of it keeps on running through my head and i need help for ideas to stop thinking of it (i've already tried T.V. music and reading a book). i also got some jewelry from that place, and now i don't really want to wear it ,so i need a good way to wear it and not feel julty and i need someway to take this off my mind

ps. we are 12

2007-06-19 15:28:31 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i moved to texas with consent of my sons father, he signed a document that allowed this now he says hes coming over and taking him, can he do this? he doesnt call him, or support him in any way, my son is 4 and doesnt want to g with him what can i do?

2007-06-19 15:26:30 · 4 answers · asked by PiMp DaddY 2 in Family

He stares at me, it looks like his eyes are watery. He'll watch me for long periods of time, and when I asked him why, he said its because I stare at him first, but I dont. He looks sad also......What do his stares mean?

2007-06-19 15:25:48 · 14 answers · asked by funstuff7 3 in Singles & Dating

My wife and I are planning on starting a family inside of year. One of a number of concerns I have is with my mother. She is extremely religious-a fact she often times reminds me of. Typically, when we go over there, she will basically force my wife and I to attend her church. She has also stated on several occasions that she thinks my wife and I (and any kids we have) should attend church. We very well might but think it is not her place to say a thing. One thing I do not want to see is her forcing her religion down my children's throats. An offense like that would likely result in her not being permitted to see her grandchildren unless supervised by either my wife or I. I feel that she should be warned; however, any time I bring up anything that even has a hint of not going along with her religion she immediately take offense. Any ideas as to dealing with this situation?

2007-06-19 15:23:04 · 8 answers · asked by chicago3200000 3 in Family

We have been together for 2 years, but nobody in that family has made any effort to get to know me.
They have kind of disowned him too! They never call him, even for christmas or birthdays. Last Xmas he waited up all night for a call, it never came!
His brother had a baby, nobody has told us about it at all. We found out from a family friend.
They still have contact with his ex girlfriends, they never even talk on the phone to me.
His exe's were uneducated, unemployed trash that cheated on him and hurt him constantly, but they love them. I have always been good to him.
His sister only told him she got married a month after the wedding.
I think they hate me coz he moved from Sydney to New Zealnd to be with me and left them all behind. But they don't even want to know what type of person I am.
I have done nothing wrong, what's wrong with me? why do they hate me?
I don't know what to do.
p.s. My fince has fully disowned them over all this.

2007-06-19 15:22:39 · 20 answers · asked by tim's gal 2 in Weddings

i have adhd and she is always calling me retard it hurts me so much she has turned my family against me i need god back in my life but i feel like a 2 faced that only comes to god when i need help my mom and dad are fighting alot and i think they are going to get divorced i am 15 and my mom tells me what i can and cant wear i know i am a trouble maker but its not fair can u guys give me advice

2007-06-19 15:18:23 · 3 answers · asked by stunata 1 in Friends

im not happy and dont believe i married my soul mate but starting over is hard, can this be done?

2007-06-19 15:13:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my boyfriend left and didnt tell me i aint talked to him in a week he wont be back until agust and i messeed wit some one eles last nite and i feel a lil bad waz that cheatin or not?

2007-06-19 15:11:40 · 32 answers · asked by cece_1320005 1 in Singles & Dating

when my mother in law comes over my house, she doesn't speak or talk to me until i say something first. i have talked to my husband about it, but she still does it. i'm sick of it. and if i don't talk to her she acts as if there's a problem between us. what would be the best way to handle this?

2007-06-19 15:10:30 · 14 answers · asked by tisha p 1 in Family

2007-06-19 15:09:26 · 10 answers · asked by Samantha 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

I have read several questions here asking why someone should wait to have sex. Let me give you some concrete reasons why...

1. It's part of God's plan. He wants us to wait because making love (not having sex) is such a special gift for a married couple to share.
2. STDS, unwanted pregnacy, and the consequences of those two things.
3. Making love is the closest you can get to someone physically. When you meet that special someone and marry wouldn't you want them to be the only person you were ever that close too.
4. Getting married as a virgin shows your spouse that you loved them before you ever met them.

If you are currently not married and having sex/or have had sex it doesn't mean you can't walk away from that. Give that over to God and make a new vow of pureness. When you fall in love and marry you will understand how important it is. Plus you will have honored God by recognizing His plan for you.
I know this was not a question, but I hope it helped those in need.

2007-06-19 15:08:32 · 14 answers · asked by Knight-of-God 3 in Singles & Dating

My guy and dad of 2 children cheated during my 1st pregnancy. I'd met the girl b4 although didnt know her well (she was a friend of my mans lil sister) and we had met at his parents house while she was hanging out with his sister a couple years before the affair. I am 22, man is 25, she is 19. This girl knew he was with me, knew that I was pregnant and she slept with him. She would also call my house and hang up if I answered, hang out with him when I thought he was working and stuff. Anyhow, we made it through the affair, the last time she called him was when I was 2 days overdue with my pregnancy (approx. 4 months after he ended it with her) at which time he told me she called and he said he told her he didnt want her to call him again. I was scared, pregnant and so I forgave him. I HATE her. She is friends with people we know, though i avoid her so we dont meet, I have to hear her name all the time from ppl. Some think I shouldnt dislike her. but she knew what she was doing to me!!!

2007-06-19 15:07:37 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

im 13 turning 14 soon n my boyfriend is 16 do u dink im 2 young to be going out wit hem cuz he 2 n a half years older den me im startn 9th grade n he startn 11th grade

2007-06-19 15:05:34 · 38 answers · asked by Mystery 1 in Singles & Dating

I am a 19 year old Muslim female who has been raised in a very strict and conservative Pakistani Family. I was always expected to have an arranged marriage, but in my heart I knew I would have never been happy. This year, I met the most amazing man of my life. He loves me and I love him more than ANYTHING. One problem: He's White and Christian (although he isnt very religious at all). My parents absolutely flipped out and I basically had to choose my entire family OR him. I picked him....I followed my heart. I seriously gave up everything I had ever known for him. I asked him to convert, and he said he would (but I have a feeling its more to please my parents over anything else). We are getting married this saturday at a mosque, but he also wants a small wedding in a church like a year from now for his parents. Now my problem is, if I go through with that (which I already agreed to) am I committing Idolatry by accepting whatever the church tells me to say? Im so confused. Please help

2007-06-19 15:01:43 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Is it right to like 2 boys at the same time? My friend thought it was like cheating in the mind... im not sure?

2007-06-19 14:58:54 · 8 answers · asked by BoB tHe buiLdEr 3 in Singles & Dating

the ones I know will come, or do i have to send an invite to all. Is it rude to have no children attend.

2007-06-19 14:58:07 · 12 answers · asked by lrios1229 1 in Weddings

when i am with my boyfriend I have butterflys in my stomach, every problem in my life and all the pressure in the world goes away, and my heart pounds a million miles a minute...is this true love?

2007-06-19 14:57:50 · 3 answers · asked by Haley 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Okay, here's the deal. I'm in a long distance relationship so maybe I put off that "I'm taken" vibe, but who knows??? I don't think I'm gorgeous, but certainly I'm attractive.

Problem? I went out with my girlfriend and her fiance. We went to dinner at a popular restaurant and went to a couple of bars. I didn't get hit on once! What the hell? It's not that I want to hook up with anyone, but I'd like to know I've still got it, ya know?

Why do you think this is???

2007-06-19 14:56:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

that has a bf---and her parents wont in a million years let her have a bf......i need---i mean she needs help

2007-06-19 14:55:36 · 2 answers · asked by krazed_skater 3 in Singles & Dating

After two years of me treating her perfect she decides that she does not wan to be with me anymore why would she do that. I understand that ppl fall out of love but i should have been the one to do that b/c of the way that she treated me. i gave her everything she wanted she always came first and if she didnt i heard about it, ask my friends. so why would she do that? Thanks for the help

2007-06-19 14:54:08 · 7 answers · asked by Trey B 1 in Singles & Dating

Hey guys, ='[[ IM SAD! im thinking about my past in im fixng to cri.....I realize im getting older n everything n i d0nt want to...I juss wanna be 13 agen...IT SUX!!! i keep thinking bout this boii i miss him alot..N we dont talk anymore plz help me...Im scared becuz i d0nt wanna grow up..=[[..

2007-06-19 14:52:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How do I let him down easy? He also has something that belongs to me that I truly need returned. Help me out please!!!

2007-06-19 14:50:57 · 27 answers · asked by Leona 4 in Singles & Dating

I should mention my husband did not grow up in this country and sometimes just does some crazy things with his clothes. The biggest thing that irks me is how he always wears white socks with black pants. I have hid them, bought him more black socks...all kinds of things. But he always finds the white socks! LOL If we are going out together I usually get him to change them but it is such a hassle. Should I just let this go? I've accepted so many things he does...but the clothing thing is really bothering me.

2007-06-19 14:48:10 · 11 answers · asked by Sassafrass 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

why would a guy who makes suggestive comments to you, touches you, has sex with you, would suddenly want to behave themselves? but..once in a while would make a sexual comment, say they want to look and might want to touch, but when it comes to that point...they say they can't because they're trying to behave themselves? i'm really confused. any suggestions?

2007-06-19 14:43:57 · 9 answers · asked by Verge 2 in Singles & Dating

My life right now is really messed up. I'm 14 and have a pretty boring life. Nobody knows me at school. My dad caught me with marijuana and my mom thinks I'm a psycho. I feel very depressed and quit marijuana but I can tell that my dad still thinks I smoke. My friends constantly betray me and I feel sad about the way things are going for me. Everyone that I used to know is so much farther in life than I am. I'm thinking of running away to a youth hostel or something else. Please don't say talk to a counselor, I've been there and moved on. I need some real life solutions, talking isn't going to solve my problems.

2007-06-19 14:43:29 · 7 answers · asked by dman 1 in Family

i just got grounded and i don't want to be, any tips on how to avoid grounding?

2007-06-19 14:41:27 · 18 answers · asked by Morgan 2 in Family

Ok, soo... I am real curious about something here. I once dated a guy who frequented strip clubs (in ontario) and I must say the mystery to it all bothered me at times! lol I always wondered just what went on in these places. I did get the courage to go once but I was smashed at the time. Although I vaguely remember getting on stage with a bill in my mouth and getting a full poonanny shot. lol the whole night is kinda a blur! Damn me, I screwed myself out of an explanation by drinking a few too many rum and cokes. haha. Anyhow I am curious fellas, what happens during a lap dance? What happens during a private dance? and just how far can a brave stallion get with these girls? lol. Another reason for asking..I was maybe, MAYBE thinking about trying it out sometime, even just for an amateur night or something, and am wondering what is expected.

So...thanks for your info. boys.

2007-06-19 14:39:53 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating