This is really bothering you plz help me !!!!!!!!!?

Question

i went shopping with my friend today and she shop lifted, she's not the kinda person you would expect this from, she's actual really nice. the events of it keeps on running through my head and i need help for ideas to stop thinking of it (i've already tried T.V. music and reading a book). i also got some jewelry from that place, and now i don't really want to wear it ,so i need a good way to wear it and not feel julty and i need someway to take this off my mind

ps. we are 12

I DIDN'T STEAL MY FRIEND DID

im also not aload to talk to my friend anymore don't ask why

she got caut and shes going to court

Answer 1

Well, first things first, have some guts. Tell your friend that you know what she did and that it is WRONG. Also, you need to be aware that if your friend had gotten caught and you were with her, you are immediately an accomplice. It doesn't matter whether you even knew she was doing it or not. If you were with her in the same store when she did it, you are part of it. I would tell her that your not shopping with her anymore, for that reason alone.
As far as the jewelry, if you paid for it, wear it with the knowledge that you are a good person. I would wear it as a reminder of who I am and the simple fact that you didn't resort to something so stupid and petty as theft. Also, it will remind you of what happened and how much trouble you could have gotten into.
Lastly, I know friends are so very important, especially at the age of 12, but choose your friends wisely. They shape who you are. They also tell everyone else who you are...

Answer 2

It's a very good thing you're really concern about it, bcz shop lifting is a very bad thing to do. The best way for you to get over with it, is telling your Friend how bad you feel about it and how serious is what she did. Tell her you're an honest person and that the next time you'll feel obligate to tell both, the Store Management & Her Parents. Tell her you're doing this out of love. If she cannot understand this, maybe she's not such a good friend.

Answer 3

You're absolutely right to be upset by this; stealing IS wrong, and shoplifting is stealing. Go talk to your mom. Please. She needs to know this happened. She can help you deal with it, too. If your mom isn't available, talk to an adult you trust. Right away!

You also need to decide whether or not you ever want to go shopping with this person again. If she's caught, you could also really be in serious trouble because you were with her. You may want to make it clear to her that you're still happy to do other things with her, but will refuse to go into a store with her if she's going to continue to be a thief. You may also want to suspend your friendship with this girl while you sort out your feelings and thoughts on the matter. Call it 'shoplifting' or 'the five fingered discount' if you want to, but it is really stealing. It's against the law, no matter how little she took. Please be careful in this.

Answer 4

yeah stealing is something that people do for all kinds of reasons. i shop lifted in my teens a few times because I was really depressed it was my way of saying "I deserve to be happy and these things make me happy". Your friend is probably doing it for a reason too. U should tell her that it wierds you out and ask her to do it when she is alone.
If you paid for the jewelry that you have then wear it without guilt. The shame is on her, not you!

Answer 5

Have you tried jotting it down into your diary or journal.. That is somewhat kind of a stress that is mentally messing with you..T.V. really never works..talking about it helps and writing about it is better...It's something you feel guilty about..she may be going through some trouble at home and isn't sure how to explain it....so try and listen to some music..pretend your the singer or the drummer in the band

Answer 6

I think you need to talk about this with your friend. If it is bothering you that much, it is going to really affect your friendship.

You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and you have good morals. If this "friend" does something like this again, you may need to end this friendship. Or at least keep your distance and not hang out with her so much. The last thing you want to do is be associated with someone who does something like that. It is very likely you may get in trouble if you're out with her and she does this type of thing again.

Answer 7

why not just mail the jewelry back to the store with a note saying you are sorry. You don't have to sign your name..just do it...and remember the incident..and never do it again! Also tell your friend that you no longer want to go shopping with her if she is shoplifting. If she is caught and you are with her..you are both going down. She will have to learn for herself by experience or else suffer the consequences. You are a good person with a conscience. Never go against your own good judgement in life and you will be okay! >smile<

Answer 8

oh wow. You have to talk it out with her it helps and it wont bother you as much and if it does tell someone you can trust to help you. By the way when you talk to your friend ask her questions
like why did she do it?
You cant ignore trust me. This is not something you should have to suffer for. Make sure she never does that again. But trust me its not your fault. so the first and best step is to talk to her. It should help. Well if you get the chance.
Good Luck.

Answer 9

that's a bad act kid.very bad one ,you must return it to the jewelry shop kid what if you we're in the place of the owner of the shop? or even the sales person there? they lose their jobs for the act they don't know,,and so far you are still young that's why you still don't know what's reality . tell your parents about this and for sure they can help you with that

Answer 10

You shouldn't fell guilty. You didn't do the shop lifting.
Tell your friend how you feel about her shop lifting and to NEVER do it again. And TV or music or magazines or anything won't get that out of your mind. (I've tried it when things like that happen to me)