im 13 turning 14 soon n my boyfriend is 16 do u dink im 2 young to be going out wit hem cuz he 2 n a half years older den me im startn 9th grade n he startn 11th grade
2007-06-19 15:05:34 · 38 answers · asked by Mystery 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have a feeling you don't want to hear that you're too young. But honestly I think you are too young. Too many girls your age just want a boyfriend because all their friends have one. My advice is to not have a BF. There are SO SO many other things a girl your age could find interest in. Just find a lot of good friends that are male or female. You have your whole life ahead of you. Dating can wait for another 2 years and you won't be missing out on much. YOU'LL JUST BE SMARTER BY THEN. Plus too many girls and boys your age get into situations they regret. Like feeling pressured to be intimate. TRUST ME. W A I T
2007-06-19 15:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by i sharpen 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At this stage in both your lives...yes you are too young. It would be a different story once you hit 18.
When you are legally considered an adult at 18, the 2 year difference is no big deal. By then, you both have gone through and completed the maturing process what is called puberty.
My dear, don't rush to be dating an 'older' boy. (And I stress boy), maybe if you are with a group of others, but for now, the maturity level between the two of you are not the same, and you wouldn't really be on the same page when it comes to maturity, communication and expectations of each other.
Enjoy your youth! Don't get too serious in finding a 'serious' boyfriend.
Good luck in high school!
2007-06-19 15:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by NAB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so you are just two years younger than him but this makes a big difference:
if your 14 and he is 16 he knows more about life than you because you are just starting so there he is too big for you.
if you were 18 and he 20 that would not make a big difference because he is old and you too at 18 you have live a lot do you understand what i'm saying?
and you know that he is not taking you serious until your over 21 right? it's just maybe for a year?? until youll broke up if you go out with him now.
2007-06-19 15:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by Fernanda2cute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first date was 18 and I was 14. Age differences don't have to be a big deal. But you are very young, and based on your note, you haven't had a lot of experience yet with guys. You will need to be very firm about who you are and what you want, and you will need to make sure that he respects you and doesn't push you into things you aren't ready for. One thing that can help with that is getting him together with your parents. I know, you probably think they're a little too strict and don't "get" you, but they've lived longer and they can see things that you don't know to look for. If they like him and trust him with you, then you're headed in the right direction. If they don't, you should trust that, at least until you've lived a bit longer.
2007-06-19 15:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by L H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know a guy who is in 11th grade who's also dating a girl 2 years younger who is in 9th. They seem to get along fine. I'm dating a girl who's 3 years older than me and we are definitely in love! I'm still in high school and she's in college. It really depends on the characteristics of the person. Age should not matter if both of you are happy and in love.
Best of luck
2007-06-19 15:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by yz90 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all has to do with maturity. If you think you are on the same level, than go for it. Ecspecialy since profesionals will say that boys mature at a slower pace than girls... at about a 2 year delay, so you may be right on track in the maturity level. As long as the 'rents are okay with it, and you think you're compatable than go for it! Just dont let him preasure you into anything you're not ready to do.. sometimes older boys mean a faster pace.. so be careful! and fallow your heart!
2007-06-19 15:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by Brittany Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in 2 years when your just 16, you wont even be able to have sex with him. My GF is a year older then me by about a year, even though were in the same grade, and i still wonder what were going to do once she turns 18.
2007-06-19 15:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by stoned 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The difference in maturity levels between a 13 years old and a 16 year old are huge. I wouldn't so much question your desire to go out with him as I would question his desire to go out with you.
While everyone's circumstances are different, I would generally say you are too young to be dating someone 2-3 years older than you.
2007-06-19 15:09:52 · answer #8 · answered by Justin H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is in a completely different place than you are and you are too young to be self assured enough so that you can stand up to him and say no when you might have mixed feelings. You are too young to go out with any boy alone, if you all go out in groups that's fine, but a one-on-one date can wait for another two years. There is safety in numbers.
2007-06-19 15:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the kid is a pedifile its illegal, and its gross, in most states a guy over 16 can fool around with other 16 17 year olds once u hit 18 and all 18 and up and the kid is a loser for going out with a younger girl i mean i year is cool not 3 and if u were my sis id beat that kids ***
2007-06-19 15:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋