Okay, here's the deal. I'm in a long distance relationship so maybe I put off that "I'm taken" vibe, but who knows??? I don't think I'm gorgeous, but certainly I'm attractive.
Problem? I went out with my girlfriend and her fiance. We went to dinner at a popular restaurant and went to a couple of bars. I didn't get hit on once! What the hell? It's not that I want to hook up with anyone, but I'd like to know I've still got it, ya know?
Why do you think this is???
2007-06-19 14:56:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 26 and, yeah, it is a self-confidence issue. There's GOT to be a reason right??? All I can assume is that it's ME . . .
2007-06-19 15:05:25 · update #1
few things could be wrong. you seem attractive from your picture, so i doubt that's the problem. did you smile? or look inviting? guys are not going to come up to you when you have a look that says, "i'm not interested." maybe the fact that there was a guy was the problem!? if they weren't being all smoochy smoochy, then maybe guys at the bar couldn't figure out which one of you was with him. perhaps it's because you either didn't look like you were having fun (nobody wants a party pooper) b/c of missing your bf, or because you were so involved in the conversation that you forgot to look around the bar and throw out a couple of inviting smiles. or, you looked really hot and the guys that were there were intimidated by you. could be a number of things. did you leave early so that the guys didn't have enough liquid courage built up to come and say hi? it could be a million things, but i'm sure you get checked out and hit on all the time. sh!t, if i was pumping gas next to you, i'd definately come and say hi
2007-06-19 17:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This one is easy, i answered a similar one before. Your probally too unobtainable. From the picture your showing it seems that your well dressed and groomed. Let me give you an insight into an average guys brain.
Ok say im sitting in a pub with a few mates, just had a few drinks thinkin its time to have a little mingle with the females right. So i look around and see whats around. I see some taken girls with the boyfriends, a girl with a couple who is dressed up real good and 2 girls averagly dressed having a beer.
Who do you think the guys going to go for? You would seem unobtainable, also there is no way of knowing if your single or not depending on how your gf and her bf act. Guys will tend to take what looks to be the easier target anyday.
Trust me, if you went out with the girlfriend in less dressier clothes you would be hit on left right and centre. But then your not trying to pick up?
Females...
2007-06-19 15:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually the guy sounds borderline abusive and all you've seen is the tip of the iceberg. This type of behavior never goes away or gets better without treatment it just gets worse. If you stick with him it will only get worse, to the point where your end up with a black eye or busted lip on a daily basis and you'll have only yourself to blame because you ALLOW yourself to be in that situation in the first place. And all the "ooh baby I'm so sorry bullsh*t"If you keep falling for that, all I can say is just be sure you let your parents know what you'd like to be wearing and which style of coffin you'd like to be laid to rest in.Becuase you already sound like someone who would just put up with it and make excuses for him to the point where you loose any say what happens to you.
2016-05-20 02:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are paying the price of being "Drop Dead Gorgeous."
The price includes, too much attention, too little attention (some men are intimidated ), and partners that keep worrying if they win you are they going to loose you ? I suspect this last element played a part in your divorce ?
Not to mention a long distance affair where the guy can not keep tabs on you. He will be afraid to take a chance and make a commitment for fear of loosing. He will play it safe, no chance, no loss.
You will meet a real man that has the confidence to win and hold you and make the four of you a family.
Good luck.
2007-06-21 03:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by radar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe because your the third wheel.. many guys might have wanted to come up to you but you're not with one but 2 other people and one is a guy.. they could've thought that was your man or didn't want to get turned down in front of that guy.. when you go out looking for attention.. it should be girls night.. NO GUYS.. and believe it or not there are a lot of shy guys out there sometimes you gotta give then a signal that you are interested...and maybe you should flirt .. start up a conversation with the cute guy sitting next to you at the bar.. smile ...
2007-06-19 15:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by Lady1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, Mr. Q, you're an asshole! Guys probably didn't really know the situation with you, and your friend, and her man, so they didn't want to risk it and just played it safe. You're a hottie. I find that guys hit on me the most when I am mean to them, but in an obviously joking smartass kind of way. Be mean to them, and then they'll hit on you, and then you can reject them, bc you're taken. Wait, that's mean! And they'll probably love it. I swear, they are all masochists.
2007-06-19 18:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dam tat sux to hear well hey u a girl of class people see tat so wen they look at u they kno ok this girl is class and remember most of the time guys lookin for a girl tat easy so wen they see u they dont see u as easy so they dont go for u
2007-06-19 15:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by SM00v3 D3C3IV3R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have no idea maybe because you was with friends or maybe you went to the wrong kind of bars and besides you have someone .....feel bad for the single people out there trying to find someone....
2007-06-19 15:02:42 · answer #8 · answered by Empty_Glass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you look too good- scares guys off. They really believe that you have hundreds of guys after you all the time so they haven' t got a shot with you
2007-06-19 15:01:45 · answer #9 · answered by D G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends. i cant tell from your pic but if your over 36 then its no wonder. but other than that maybe you do give out that "taken" vibe
2007-06-19 15:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋