Family & Relationships - 10 May 2007

i am getting married for 2nd time next month. However i have a couple of concerns the first is that i am wary about committing financially to my new husband. We have a mortgage and joint bank accounts but i have a large lump sum that i got from my divorce settlement that i want to keep as a safety net. Do you think this is a warning sign or sensible for modern relationships. I might add that my ex ripped me off financially as i inherited a large sum during our marriage that i had to half with him as i had put it all on the house.
this time i am a lot more wary also my partner has debts that he kept secret from me and yesterday i snooped and found he had an appointment with the bank but i cant ask him about it because i snooped. i asked him what he had done yesterday and he said nothing. he can be very secretive and keeps all his credit card bills at his work. I know everyone needs privacy and i dont want to seem controlling but is ok ?

2007-05-10 20:54:20 · 16 answers · asked by cottontail 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I was just wondering, how do married couples with children have sex without kiddos seeing or hearing.. do you have to find times they are out of the house.. ? how the heck does everyone do it so discretly?

2007-05-10 20:50:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Which wouldn't be a problem except we have two children togeather. He sees our son 8yrs once a fortnight for 1day and hasn't seen our daughter 4yrs since she was 1 when he left.
We had a pretty normal break-up bit of bad blood both sides but nothing extreme he ended up with my then best friend. I am now completely over him and the hurt of the whole thing but would like some form of contact between us for our childrens sake. His current partner (my ex best friend) is insecure and the only contact I have with him is thru sms on her cell phone. I want to begin some contact between us but don't know how or what to do?? I don't have his land line number or address just her cell phone number. She would probably do anything to stop any contact between us how do I make them understand I am over it and not a threat?

2007-05-10 20:40:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

guys , have u ever experience this - u went out with a gal , then break up with her for whatever the reason , then u start to realise that u actually still love her but both of u is no longer in speaking term .

question - will u bite the bullet & start to contact her again so to get ur 2nd chance ?? or will u just give it all up eventhough u love her ??

2007-05-10 20:39:04 · 16 answers · asked by paranoiac 2 in Singles & Dating

some body jumps in a marriage with a view to earn a fortune through his wife and later finds not so hopeful and try his luck somewhere else by trying to divorse his present wife in the pretext of incurable mental disorder within 1st year of his marriage, how can we fight against such lustful greedy people
who are hungry to be rich my marrying and desert his wife in the midnight once his ambition is not fulfilled? Is it not a social crime? Such people are in the prey to destroy many more family lives just to be rich overnite. Please submit your experience, guidelines on the matter. Thank you.

2007-05-10 20:34:58 · 16 answers · asked by mukul 1 in Marriage & Divorce

me my sister and my brother had these big fight,they said a lot of hurtful words to me that I ended hating them both.......even thou I made mistakes they should not done those things to me... its a month now since we last talk...still i hated them so much.......

2007-05-10 20:33:48 · 8 answers · asked by alpha mae A 1 in Family

I'm sorry for that incomplete question.I had asked a previous qoustion "should I dump him" so I was following up with ,should I sleeo in the same room with him until i decide what to do.I mean I would make sure he has hot food when he comes from work,clean clothes clean house, assist financially .I've always been soft natured and I don;t know how to, not do anything for him while i'm still in the house

2007-05-10 20:27:37 · 8 answers · asked by levee 1 in Singles & Dating

My new husband thinks he should be able to barge in at any time. He seems to think I'm uptight because I want a bit of privacy. What do other wives do?

2007-05-10 20:25:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my boyfriend and i were together for 8 months and we love eachother very much. it's complicated but we can't be together. we decided not to talk for a month, and we have to respect that decision because both of us are in exams right now and we can't distract eachother.
i want to stay friends, he's so important to me. i'm worried that he just won't care anymore after a month. he'll totally forget me and i'll mean nothing to him. i was the world to him. does that just happen? will i be nothing to him within a few weeks, not even a friend?

2007-05-10 20:23:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-05-10 20:17:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-05-10 20:08:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i'm trying to help my best friend and i don't know what to tell him

2007-05-10 20:05:14 · 15 answers · asked by xxjimmyxx90 1 in Singles & Dating

Everytime my bf starts talking to anyone [ie, his friends, family, random people], I get so extremely jealous. Mainly because he ignores me while doing so. I am really clingy and always have been since my first ex, because he let me have him all to myself, it spoiled me and my views. So I did the same for him. Also in my current relationship, I don't talk to anyone but my bf. However, he has tons of friends and isn't willing to only talk to me. I got so jealous of his female friend tonight that he said "I can't stand it when you get this jealous. If you had told me at any point to give up my friends, directly, I most likely would have dumped you." I'm really upset he didn't tell me before that my jealousy problem bothered him this much. All this time I've been hurting him and I didn't even know it. He used to tell me he thought it was cute when I got jealous and it showed I cared so I didn't stop it. He's now saying if I screw up badly one more time, it's over forever for us...

2007-05-10 20:01:53 · 7 answers · asked by my_tears_of_jealousy 1 in Singles & Dating

Its been 6 months and I still think about it. Even after being with a 6 girls after her. Just curious why and if I'll ever feel normal again

2007-05-10 19:58:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What At what Age did you have your most fun? I answered in high school? he is just being an ____
because hes drinking or Im wrong ?( I did not answer a question That askes Whats the best thing that has ever happened to you?) hes my fun my life and my world!!!! just when you have NO responsability! life is so much easier and more fun when your a kid! am I WRONG?_____or RIGHT?_____

2007-05-10 19:55:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

We have zero chemistry together,but he wants it all to work out,but I am not sure why I got with him except that he is a great person...Is that enough,or do you settle for a life of mundane sex ,when i don't even want him touching me???
What is the right thing to do here?
Anyone think they know?Help!!!

2007-05-10 19:54:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My daughter is 4 years old . My Boyfriend and I are waiting to tell are daughters that we are going out. His daughter is 8 years old and likes me. I know this guy before his daughter was born. We been going out for 3 weeks I know it is to early now. My daughter like him because of before but she just thinks we are friends. I am a single Mom so there is no Dad in her life.I did not really have a boyfriend until now in less you count that guy I went out with for 11 days since I was 4 months pregnant with her. Single parent when do you take your children to see your Boyfriend/Girlfriend. I am new at going out and now I have a kid I have to watch out for her and not me. I live with my parents to so i still have to tell to. I only with them to help watch my brothers kids and so i can go to school.

2007-05-10 19:52:54 · 10 answers · asked by shorty 1 in Singles & Dating

okay i got myself stuck in a lil dilemma......im involved in a 2 year relationship and lately ive been hangin out wit my friends and began goin to da club(a male dance club) and ive ended up meeting a guy(one of the dancers) as a result of goin there and now its been like 3 months or what ever and im beginning to like him more and think of my bf less and thats sumthin im tryin not to do i mean i cant seem to get him (the dancer) out of my mind and i find myself likin him more and more so fast and i dont even really understand y we've only hung out a few times and shared a few kisses and thats it and now he's tellin me that he really wants to talk to me(like be with me).................and i dont know what to do!! N E body whos anybody got some advice they cud share?????

2007-05-10 19:50:25 · 10 answers · asked by Lil_mz_sexy06 2 in Singles & Dating

So I went to a friends birthday party tonight (I'm in college). I was there with a bunch of friends and there were a lot of random people. Anyway, after getting there I heard this good girl friend of the birthday boy had ordered two strippers for him as a surprise. They came and I stuck around for a little to watch as we all did. We left as they weren't very good looking and it was lame lol.

Anyway my question is should I tell my girlfriend? I mean I didnt touch them or anything. So its not like I am worried about hiding anything...I just don't want her to hear it from somebody else and think that I was.

Thanks!

2007-05-10 19:47:19 · 25 answers · asked by Ravensman04 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-05-10 19:42:40 · 1 answers · asked by samuel m 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Not a stranger female, but your female friend

2007-05-10 19:42:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

we wer working in same company few moinths ago nd fell in 4 each other.lately i realised he was married .we both cant afford to loose each other .he isnt staying with his wife any more for last 2 months.bt is running away from devorcing her .i tried explaning him bt he cries and cconfesses for all hes done and promises me to marry me.bt these days i m feeling like he jst do not have guts to do it bt i still love him like crazy.he s da most precious to me......... anythin for him bt cant share him coz i love him lik crazy.help me plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

2007-05-10 19:40:49 · 19 answers · asked by meeow 1 in Singles & Dating

There is this girl that I can't stand, she thinks she's so perfect and that she is the best there ever was. She has to be the best at everything! I will admit that she is pretty and skinny, but she's arrogant. I have only one thing on her, I'm a cheerleader and she's not. I have been cheering for 7yrs. loving every minute of it. Now she wants to be a cheerleader also! I love cheerleading, it's my life..I couldn't live without it. So yesterday I decided to ask her why she wanted to cheer and she said, "for the heck of it, it'll be something to do"! I couldn't believe it!! Here I am cheering for my whole life, I love it and I live it and you just want to be in a skirt?! I flipped, the whole bus ride I was like,"wow, if people just want to be in skirts then they should quit, I do it because I love it". I was talking to my friend. She wants to take everything from me!!! Why?! I'm anorexic because of her! Am I being to much of an itch? Don't I have the right to be mad?

2007-05-10 19:39:35 · 15 answers · asked by Me nutrit Me destruit 3 in Friends

2007-05-10 19:39:12 · 11 answers · asked by yussuf m 1 in Marriage & Divorce

We've only known each other a short while, but when I asked her out she seemed very excited. However, she let me know that her parents will not let her date me because I am older, she wasn't even supposed to talk to me. So we had kind of a friendly relationship, but she was extremely busy and it felt more like she was ignoring me. We hadn't even gotten to talk in about a month so finally when I did talk to her I asked her what was really going on. She told me that she is just amazingly busy with school winding down, but then went on to say that she isn't looking for "that type" of relationship right now. A little later in the conversation she ended up saying something like "I really like you and we have a lot in common, so it's fun to spend time together. I thought there could be something between us but as time went on I realized I was too busy to spend enough time with you that I'd ever really feel like I know you well enough" I took that as a sign that maybe there is hope...

2007-05-10 19:38:16 · 3 answers · asked by Jojo 1 in Singles & Dating

they should be. And they all should get their own apartment so i can screwem when im home from college in the summer. (cant really bang chicks at my uncles house)

2007-05-10 19:34:56 · 18 answers · asked by Joey B 2 in Singles & Dating

ok, umm well i think im in love with my step-cousin-ish, ok let me explain, my aunt's husband died and she married someone else named Martin (who is a complete a**) and Mike (the cousin i like) is his nephew, so were not all that related, any way i think i'm in love with him and i would go out with him except there's only one problem he's 19 and im only 14 and i know what a crush is because they tend to fade off from time to time and i have had crushes before and this feels a lot different i mean i literally hate him i want him to cry to feel like he wants to die from embarassment from him i want to cry and feel miserable for the rest of his life but then again i want to love him what do i do,and it's not just for looks either (even though he is hot) but he is really awesome to be around and fun. i dont want to love him but i do, and i know my bro(i live with him he is 25) would be kinda surprised and all of that your too young bull s*** and i dont want to hear that what can i do?

2007-05-10 19:32:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hey guys.. my girl has been out since 8 pm, she said she is with her friend. Well it is almost 3 am, and she still isn't home. I've tried to call her several times and each time her friend is in the "bathroom" and I say stay on the phone until she gets out and she says "I'm going to wake up her parents" She has a history of cheating so don't know what to think?

2007-05-10 19:31:13 · 14 answers · asked by andrew a 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm in this relationship and my fiance has a daughter with his wife!! But they have been seperately over a year!! And the son isn't his!!! In the beginning the relationship me and his kids got along great, and then i meet his wife and she brings unneccessary drama and now the relationship isnt the same!!

The son is great, he listens, and is cool besides all he likes to do is play video games and never do family stuff!!
And the daughter is just like her momma, she doesn't listen and she has to have everything her way, and because of her mom talking bad about me to her daughter she is rude,disrespectful!! And this is not like it was.. i won't disipline the kids but my fiance wont either because the kids used to be scared of him!! he gave them whoopins all the time!!
I have tried talking too many times, punishment, and not buying them toys they want but that is not working because mom calls from overseas saying we have to buy whatever they want!! What should I do?? Please help!!

2007-05-10 19:29:27 · 10 answers · asked by Proud to Be Mommy!! 3 in Marriage & Divorce

always sign your significate others name on the card along with yours to your mom!
I want to know since I had bought 3 cards- 1 for my Mom, Step Mom, and 1 for his mom~ I signed both of our names in my Mom's handed him his moms card and he only signed his name.
Is it a man thing or what?
*dating 5 years*

2007-05-10 19:28:29 · 6 answers · asked by CRAZYGIRL 4 in Friends