So I went to a friends birthday party tonight (I'm in college). I was there with a bunch of friends and there were a lot of random people. Anyway, after getting there I heard this good girl friend of the birthday boy had ordered two strippers for him as a surprise. They came and I stuck around for a little to watch as we all did. We left as they weren't very good looking and it was lame lol.
Anyway my question is should I tell my girlfriend? I mean I didnt touch them or anything. So its not like I am worried about hiding anything...I just don't want her to hear it from somebody else and think that I was.
Thanks!
2007-05-10 19:47:19 · 25 answers · asked by Ravensman04 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah I mean several people there had girlfriends/boyfriends. Hell one of the two ppl who got them went and had them doing stuff to him and his girlfriend was there!
I would have never touched them and I dont feel like I cheated because it's akin to looking at porn. I just want to be completely honest with her in the relationship.
2007-05-10 19:54:11 · update #1
ya you should tell her...and tell her how lame it was..honestly from Guy friends and my boyfriends..i have heard how lame strippers are and how it doesn't even turn them on...so she would probably think its funny in a way..and if not funny she'll be glad you are honest and open with her..just let her know it was gay and nothing to worry about ..Hope that helps
2007-05-10 19:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As harsh as it may sound - I feel that you need to be honest, and be prepared for a serious freak out! After the initial outburst (which could last quite a while), calmly tell her EVERYTHING that happened that night - no detail is too small. She will (at first) try to catch you in a lie - but this is where the honesty starts to pay off...
If you're girlfriend knows the friend of yours (and doesn't think that he is some kind of sex fiend) - then chances are she will be willing to accept the truth.
Who knows - she might even be cool with it... what she won't be cool with is finding out via a MySpace page with pictures from the party ;););)
2007-05-10 20:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol the question that has plagued mankind for centuries.
Should I tell my girlfriend about the strippers?
My answer, what she doesn't know won't hurt her. Anytime you have an opportunity to suppress potential rage and jealousy from your girlfriend I would go ahead and do it. Don't tell her.
HOWEVER, if there is even a moderate chance that she will find out elsewhere, you have to tell her. She won't trust you at all if you don't tell her first, and she will assume you did more than you actually did.
BUT if she won't find out, do you tell your girlfriend every time you look at porn? I hope not. So where does this differ? You were really just looking at live porn. You didn't touch.
If you habitually went to strip clubs (cough ME) you would then have to go ahead and tell her. One time thing, who cares? Its not like you even planned on it.
DIYTA who posted a little lower than me is exactly right from a woman's perspective.
2007-05-10 19:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jonny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well its like this its called being honest you treat her like you would want her to treat you if you want a honest relation ship then do your part so she might get mad so what but you told the truth most women wouldnt get mad anyway cause they go and see strippers there selfs but be honest thats the only way and you wont have to try and remember a lie
2007-05-10 19:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by rick k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is from a college girl. Tell her just as you did here but don't say that you left Because they were ugly. Tell her it was just lame so you left and you should probably tell her how freaking hot, amazing, sexy blah blah blah she is. Make her feel as though it wasn't anything compared to your time with her but don't make her feel as though you did something wrong and are making up for it.
2007-05-10 19:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by Brenda W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her. You would want her to tell you if she saw strippers and plus you should never hide things in a relationship. And if you're worried about her hearing from somebody, then you need to tell her yourself.
2007-05-10 19:59:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her what happened. If she has a problem with it, tell her that you were unaware that the girlfriend was going to do that. Make sure that you let her know that they weren't good looking, if she is the jealous kind!
2007-05-10 19:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything wrong, though you must realize it's not pleasant for your girlfriend to know that you were watching other naked women. You don't need to tell her unless she asks (make sure you tell her what you told us--they weren't very good looking etc).
2007-05-10 19:52:02 · answer #8 · answered by wizball 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, you should tell her. It sucks, but eventually she will find out, they always do. If she finds out from someone else, she'll never trust you because if it wasn't a big deal, then why didn't you tell her? She's probably gonna be annoyed, but in the long run, she will definitely appreciate your honesty. Good luck!
2007-05-10 19:52:01 · answer #9 · answered by diyta 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most definately. I had a similar seceret, and I didn't tell my girl cause i was a coward. When I finally told her some time later, she was more upset that i had hid it from her. Tell her as soon as you can. She will come to respect your honesty, even if your judgement may have been lacking.
2007-05-10 19:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by Jimmy R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋