we wer working in same company few moinths ago nd fell in 4 each other.lately i realised he was married .we both cant afford to loose each other .he isnt staying with his wife any more for last 2 months.bt is running away from devorcing her .i tried explaning him bt he cries and cconfesses for all hes done and promises me to marry me.bt these days i m feeling like he jst do not have guts to do it bt i still love him like crazy.he s da most precious to me......... anythin for him bt cant share him coz i love him lik crazy.help me plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
2007-05-10 19:40:49 · 19 answers · asked by meeow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know love is a hard thing to overcome, but you shouldn't pursue a relationship with a married man. You have to wait until he is divorced. If he's still married, than he still has a wife and you are still the other woman. Who knows what is going on between them that you don't know? A married man and another woman is trouble. If he loves you, why isn't he divorced?
Unless you're willing to settle for being "the other woman" because you love him so much...it's up to you, but it'd be wrong morally and legally.
2007-05-10 19:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by wizball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things don't look too good - first you met through work (which can lead to sooooooooooooo many problems - including if he ever becomes your boss), then he lied about being married, and then he tries to make you forget all that by promising that YOU can be his new wife (when/if he ever gets rid of the old one)...
If he is willing to cheat on his current wife, then what is to stop him from cheating on you once you are his wife.
Once a cheater, always a cheater - guess that why all us guys are dogs ;););)
2007-05-10 19:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come out it.
It's not accepeted in the society.
Your feelings may be pure and may be the same way with the man. I've experience. Similar situation with someone close to me. And it resulted in a tragedy.
Come out, please.
It's a request.
Move on in your life.
don't care about him, ditch him. No matter if it feels wrong.
kick him out of your life and leave no openings, no path to return. If you don't do that you'll be a looser. I want you to win.
Walk out of this relation. Expose him, hurt him. Do anything to throw the man out of your life. That is the only way. What you dream will always remain as a dream. It will never work out. Not feasible in India.
You can always talk to me at anyx06@yahoo.co.in Just leave a message.
2007-05-10 21:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by theoden of rohan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already discovered he lies and cheats now he is crying and using emotions to hold you hostage. And you STILL want him? Find a healthy relationship, this guy is not going to bring you anything but drama and heartache. Even if he does finally get a divorce how long before he is cheating on you?
Here is something you need to learn and fast, don't depend on someone else to make you happy. Value yourself enough to know when to say I am worth more than this.
2007-05-10 19:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wat did u say??? lately u have realised that he is married!!!!
wat was he doing past so many months.. this explains everything.. he has been hiding facts from you and his intentions are not right. he might be in love with u, but he doesnt have courage 2 support u. even if he divorces his wife and comes 2 u, u will never be sure of his relations with other women. u will always feel insecure... even if ur relationship turns into marriage, it is not going to last.
hence, dear please be bold, strong and come out of this relationship..... dont pay any head to his cryings and babblings.. this wont take u anywhere... forgte him . move on with ur life!!! gud luck
2007-05-10 19:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by ankita c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should do is learn to spell and type questions using the appropriate grammar and punctuation.
Next thing realise that is what you get when you mess around with someone that is married.
Ask yourself if he is ever really going to divorce his wife to marry YOU?
2007-05-10 19:44:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi meeeoooow!!!
serious problem? yes it is.
In first place if u ppl fell in love y didn'y he inform you abt his marital status in 1st place? fear of losing u? well that's like poor answer.
ok. I just want to tell you, why would you like to be reason for ruining the life of his wife? this may sound quite harsh but think about it? put yourself in her place. someday, if u marry this guy, the guy might do the same with u!!!!!!
whatever the problem in marital life between the partners, they need to be sorted out. if they don't get along well, let them settle that out. let him first get a divorce. you should not become reason for getting divorce.
it'll b difficult for u to not think abt him but time can heal everything. better move away from him. let him sort out his life. else the lives of 3 ppl will be ruined !
2007-05-11 03:18:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mad girl, you are just sex crazy. Why do you want to spoil your own life and shatter the dreams of another girl? If you are my college and get closer to me and I start weeping for it would you share with me the same thing? These sort of things are only the reflection of your own character. Its a bright day till your body comforts him, what is the gurantee that he would not do the same thing with any other girl ?
Indian society is moving towards free sex, if you belive in that you are most welcome to continue with whom ever you want.
Its mear sex drive that had caught you nothing spl in such guys, you can find thousands droping their saliva if your are cute irrespective of your past history they would be ready to share a night with you.
2007-05-10 19:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may enjoy that man after getting him divorced from his spouse but after a few months or so, he will go on loving(?) someone else. There is every possibility. Then what you will do? Mind that you are going to smoke a cigarette with gunpowder.
2007-05-10 19:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by indranath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a player hon if he wanted a divorce he would got it from his wife . why would you want to let this fellow use you like that find a man who is single that way you wont be in court on . interfeering in a marrage . good luck and find a man who isnt married . he.s only using you . in my opion?
2007-05-10 19:48:16 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋