me my sister and my brother had these big fight,they said a lot of hurtful words to me that I ended hating them both.......even thou I made mistakes they should not done those things to me... its a month now since we last talk...still i hated them so much.......
2007-05-10 20:33:48 · 8 answers · asked by alpha mae A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Give yourself time to heal. It's important to have blow outs sometime. Everyone needs to say things sometime. You'll have to get over their feelings and deal with them though too. They may have had some valid points anyway. You might need to deal with that. When you do, it will be easier to forgive them and yourself. No one is perfect anyway. Not even them. I hope they'll realize it. You need to realize that your worth love either way.
2007-05-10 20:39:38 · answer #1 · answered by AquaSunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that "hate" is what you feel. It is probably hurt or pain that you are trying to avoid by using anger. I would suggest that you sit down and talk to yourself a minute, correctly identify your emotions and be one that follows your heart instead of your ego. Brothers and sisters are to cherish whether they are right or they are wrong. You do have a right to set thing straight and tell them how you feel but are you going to let one episode ruin a life time of having them around? I can't say that I know your family, but mine is very dear to me, and when my sister acts like she can't be bothered, it hurts, and I get angry too, but I am angry because I expect her to want to help me and share life with me. She isn't that way and it feels like she doesn't care about me, so I get mad at her. The truth is, we have different ways of doing things and not very often do they coincide with one another, so naturally, it seems like she doesn't like to be around me. I love my sister, and hope that someday she will need me so that I can be there for her even though she hasn't been there for me.
2007-05-11 04:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by lisa l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After all, they are your blood. Try to forgive them. You can only be sister and brother once in this life. Make your parent happy by not fighting with your sibling. I always for give my brother and sister. We know our boundariies where we do not cross the line or take each other for granted.
2007-05-11 03:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lilian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you. i will not hate my brothers and sisters as you do because they are my family. and family should love each other. if you think someone commit mistakes. be the first one to say sorry so that the hatred will dissapear and also they will realize what they have done unto you. dont make the quarrel too long. show to them that whatever happens you were still be families.
2007-05-11 04:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by NOEMIE08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont hate them, you are so hurt, and depressed which is anger turned inward... maybe you all get mad and yell and nobody ever condescends or says MAAAAAAYBE they were WWWRRRRONGGG! depending on so many circumstances that you have not named, lemme just tell you this.. if they died this very day, would you have unresolved issues? NEVER go there... for every person you love, whether u are mad at them or NOT.. take advantage of the living time to do or say the things you need to, so you will not regret anything, if you lost them. s'a horrible thing to have a loved one die, when you have unresolved issues, cuz you will NEVER NEVER NEVER be able to resolve them.. so is your anger worth it?
2007-05-11 03:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by ravin_lunatic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are much tensioned.You are not much giving respect by your sister and brother.so, don't do anything which might be result into some disaster into relation of yours.they might be right and can be wrong too.so do whatever you want but take these decision taken in account of your family.All world can tell you the wrong path but not your sis and bro.
2007-05-11 03:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by sachin s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal for siblings to argue. Try to forgive them. After all they are your family. They probably did not mean everything they said anyway! They were just angry. Just like you don't really mean that you hate them. You are just mad at them.
2007-05-11 04:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens to siblings, i have a half brother that never likes me, we don't talk at all, i very much want him to see me as sister,i'd rather have fighit like u than being ignored,at lease u guys have comunication
2007-05-11 03:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋