okay i got myself stuck in a lil dilemma......im involved in a 2 year relationship and lately ive been hangin out wit my friends and began goin to da club(a male dance club) and ive ended up meeting a guy(one of the dancers) as a result of goin there and now its been like 3 months or what ever and im beginning to like him more and think of my bf less and thats sumthin im tryin not to do i mean i cant seem to get him (the dancer) out of my mind and i find myself likin him more and more so fast and i dont even really understand y we've only hung out a few times and shared a few kisses and thats it and now he's tellin me that he really wants to talk to me(like be with me).................and i dont know what to do!! N E body whos anybody got some advice they cud share?????
2007-05-10 19:50:25 · 10 answers · asked by Lil_mz_sexy06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
they dont really get naked and ive already thought about all the other females but ive forgot to mention how ive known him b 4 the dancing way back in jr high but we remet at the club and these dancers dont necessarily get totally naked its more like a concert to me than a strip club..........
2007-05-10 20:20:27 · update #1
yea i give him money but he gives me money too when i asked which is rare but when i do he gives it to me with no problems and myboyfriend...ive tried breakin up with him way b4 i started going to the club but he just doesnt seem to get it thats another problem i seem to find myself stuck in..........****!
2007-05-10 20:24:16 · update #2
o and one more thing (lol sorry)....i know a lot of ppl may say it was just a lil innocent kiss and in reality it really was...my bf knows i like him but he still wants to be with me and recently i just found out that he cheated on me (and it was not no lil kiss it was strait buckwild) and thats when i started going to club but my intentions were not to meet anybody it was just to get my mind off of him and what he did and the girl he cheated on me with is now pregnant and is tryna pin it on him which i aint trippin ova cuz he strait shootin blanks but n e ways i guess the only reason were still here is because of my love for him though i really just wanna be friends with him he just doesnt seem to wanna make that happen itsjust really complicated right now for me but thanxs to those who have posted their comments and thanx to those inthe future that may post their thoughts........
2007-05-10 20:34:14 · update #3
First, realize that you have been cheating on your boyfriend and it would be fair for him to know, whether you stay with him or not. Kissing crosses the line of faithfulness for guys.
Next, you need to decide what you want...and don't go to that club again until you know what it is. Like another guy here said, find out if it's lust or love. Do you not like your boyfriend so much that you can go to a dance club and meet another great guy? If so, it's only fair you dump your boyfriend first before doing anything else with the dance guy.
2007-05-10 19:56:21 · answer #1 · answered by wizball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, talk to your bf about this. Honesty is a good thing.
Second, take some time to figure out if this is lust or love for this dancer guy.
Third, if you do decide to get with the dancer, just know that you may be turning your back on a real good man
Fourth, pray. You will need all the help you can get.
2007-05-10 19:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jimmy R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you already cheated on your boyfriend, so this guy must mean more to you than him. If you're willing to throw away a 2 year relationship make sure you think it through long and hard. If you're going to keep talking to this other dude, at least give your bf the respect to break up with him or be honest about what has been going on. If you're thinking about your bf less and less, it might be time to move on, or sever ties with the other guy and try to fix the relationship you're in now.
2007-05-10 19:57:20 · answer #3 · answered by diyta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking to this dancer guy... right now! You're heading on a one-way train-wreck of a relationship if things continue there! If you can't stop thinking about him, that's because of the initial excitement of attraction - there is nothing LASTING in that. Soon that will die down and you will realise all the great things you miss from your 2 year relationship.
2007-05-10 19:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by Dave F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that those dancers usually have plenty of girls always hitting on them. You may not be very special to him. Besides, do you really want to go out with a guy that dances naked in front of other women all of the time?
2007-05-10 19:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kyle Petty?!! You hafta be kidding. Also, I recollect Mark Martin a pair years in the past announcing that part the men at the monitor wouldn't have a license to force, permit on my own force in NASCAR. Also, an individual truthfully mentioned Stewart, lmao. I could have got to cross with Carl Edwards, Burton, Kahn.
2016-09-05 17:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's hard. So to speak. He sees like a hundred girls a week panting over him. As for your boyfriend. Get him a job at the club and he'll pick up a few baby girls panting over him. That'll get rid of him. Basically it seems like your 2 years are up and you're ready to move on to ANYONE. You just want to get caught to rush the end.
2007-05-10 19:56:47 · answer #7 · answered by AquaSunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds to me like you want to be with the stripper . My advice ta ya would be let the real man go the one you are cheating on and get with the stripper cause it sounds to me that you are not trust worthy and the man you have been with trusted you to go hang but got screwed for it . Always remember what comes around goes around do unto others as you want done to you
2007-05-10 19:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by rick k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could it be the sexual part that is steering your desicion. Male dancers are hot but how many girls have he met that way? I don't know. What ever you decide you need to decide it quick, no one deserves to be with someone who is playing games, you wouldn't like it so do do it to your bf.
2007-05-10 19:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by Slim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure this dancer is really into you? Are you spending money on him? If so, he's probably playing you.
2007-05-10 19:55:51 · answer #10 · answered by samantha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋