Family & Relationships - 23 April 2007

Why is it, I have a loving husband, 2 healthy kids and my own health, but my marriage is really boring. Anyone out there been married a while and still happy? How do you stop a marriage going stale? if you have talked about it and tried most things? I don't have the same loving feeling anymore, how do you get that back? Can you get it back? Is it best to go your own ways or try and work it out?

2007-04-23 03:44:57 · 40 answers · asked by Vixx 2 in Marriage & Divorce

my boyfriend has taken so much credit in his business n is struggling to repay it.. to make matters worse he suffered another huge loss today..he's completely finished.
this bad phase has been goin for around 4yrs. He has completely lost hope now. Im still studying, so thrs nothin i can do to help him.
what do i do?

2007-04-23 03:44:27 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-04-23 03:43:47 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-04-23 03:43:13 · 14 answers · asked by bluedondeno 1 in Singles & Dating

His Friend is hott

2007-04-23 03:42:56 · 11 answers · asked by khamie_mommi 1 in Singles & Dating

he tooks me and my kids on but my kids always seem to upset him..( u know what kids are like) im 50 but look 35 Im fairly good looking and of course I have 50 yr old health issues..re womanly parts..which he makes fun of..however, only whan i am relaxing does he tend to want to come home from a party,, not that i go out often as i usually work..when i dont want to go out he wants to stay..we are always at odds..Ive put up with his depression and controlling ways as i married him...hes a good man meaning he works hard and he cares for the home and i am confortable.. but he runs it like a tight ship...and orders me around like a kid..ok i wanna leaveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee but im 50 and not that financial.

2007-04-23 03:41:07 · 6 answers · asked by cleo_alter_ego 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-04-23 03:38:14 · 5 answers · asked by kristi c 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am in the prosess of leaving my husband. He no longer shows any warmth all love towrds me, Refuses to open up and discuss things, and wont come to marraige councilling, my self confidance is shattered.

I have decided to go it alone. I hope one day I will meet my true soul mate, im 29 and hope some day to settle down again as I would love to be a mother.

But How do i get through the emotional rollercoaster im on at the moment?I do still love him, but I am fighting a loosing battle to keep my marraige together. I would rather be on my own than with someone who makes me unhappy. Advice from people who have experianced the same hurt and confusion would be appreciated

2007-04-23 03:34:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I looked into my husband's cell phone. There was a text asking was he busy the text was sent at 7:20 pm however i saw it around 11:00pm. So I called the number it was a girl. She said she has been knowing my husband for 2year now, since she was 16 now of course she is 18. She claim he was just someone to talk too. I ask if they ever had sex or even made out, He said no, but she did kiss him once. What do I do? We have been married 7 years, one son.

2007-04-23 03:30:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

When a couple get married do both parties have a reasonable expectation that there will a sexual relationship between them on a regular basis for many years to come? If one party starts refusing this part of the relationship does that give the party who wants to still have a sex life to look elsewhere? If not, dosen't it seem a little unfair that a spouse expects his/her partner to remain faithful but they won't be intimate with them.

2007-04-23 03:26:52 · 14 answers · asked by tcb396 2 in Marriage & Divorce

my gf wants to have a one night stand with others and wants me to accept her back saying she loves me and never wants to leave me for good...what should i do?

2007-04-23 03:23:13 · 27 answers · asked by kiks c 1 in Singles & Dating

counselling.. leaving..holidays.. working at it.. agreeing with him.. ive lost plot i dont think i respect him..he told me tonight i have lots of things wrong with me and if i undressed a man would run off...but HEEEEEEEE loves me...then apologised said he was being silly.. meanwhile im left reeling

2007-04-23 03:21:46 · 18 answers · asked by cleo_alter_ego 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I desperately need help...my minister has backed out on me and I need to find someone quick and inexpensive. I'm in the northeast TN area. Any help would be appreciated.

2007-04-23 03:16:13 · 16 answers · asked by spiderbaby_25 1 in Weddings

I have a question, I havent had sex yet ever in my life. It's not a dicussion, but it just happened that way. I've gone out with guys left and right..made out with guys from left to right..(not whorish)..but hell Im young..but it never exceeded to the point of oh let's do it. I mean I wanted to but they never approached the idea..but I've known fat non attractive females you can have sex everyday..and be ooO..I got laid..and Im like wtf. How can they get laid like that..and I can't even get to the level. People do say they look up to me for being a virgin at 21..but they dont understand it's my not choice it just ends up this way. How can non attractive fat people have sex..and I can't. Im a pretty girl, who has personality..and has a nice body. What's the problem..can someone explain..Me= No sex, but Fat non attractive = All the sex in the world..lol

2007-04-23 03:15:01 · 1 answers · asked by Angelia 1 in Singles & Dating

Experiences only please!

2007-04-23 03:12:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

he says things that are rude to me...and then says he dont mean em...he puts my figure down but when we go out he lavishes praise...he pays me back with pay backs when hes thought of something way back and then out fo the blue he says somethig to payu me back... at times he astounds me

2007-04-23 03:07:51 · 5 answers · asked by cleo_alter_ego 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i dont know if i am being selfish or not, last week i asked for your help and you guys really helped. My sister in law just got seperated from her husband and now is living with us with her three kids, there is no space in our house, everything in my life is falling apart but i cant say anything to anyone, on your advice i had a heart to herat chat with my hubby and asked him if we can move out of the house and live on our own. He said its not that simple, his mother and sis are concerned that everyone will blame them for it, but the thing is if we live together and cant b happy then who is at the losing end here, icant eat or sleep or cook or cant be happy even by my own free will, i feel so stuck and suffocated in the house. i hate it every second of the day. its like i have made up my mind to move out of the house but since i cant i am depressed and stressed out most of time, i am on relaxants now,what should i do , how should i adjust or talk again to someone... help!

2007-04-23 03:06:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm black. Before my husband and I got married, he told me he only prefered to date black women but AFTER we were married, he started going on the net looking up naked black, white, asian and latin women.

He even told me that he can't stand manly looking women but also looks up naked female body builders on the net that look so manly. Why would he tell me he only prefers black women but then turns around and says beauty has no color. If you are attracted to all women, why not date them? I don't understand him. Why would he lie about something like this?

2007-04-23 03:04:34 · 4 answers · asked by sweetness 2 in Marriage & Divorce

and did your relationship come back normal or did your in laws and you break from each other forever? I don't miss to be back to warmth, but also wonder if this is a new chapter not to be close to them for being nasty the fact that i was making my own nest and didn't want them around with their pesimism. I'd like to hear experienced women who did their new home and naturally didn't want a mother in law involved.

2007-04-23 03:01:28 · 2 answers · asked by Spark S 5 in Marriage & Divorce

My Inlaw's don't pay their bills.Their house has almost been foreclosed on twice & their phone is off.My husband says his dad hides the bills from his mom,that still doesn't give them an excuse not to pay them. They expect my husband to help them everytime.We were saving up to have the actual wedding this summer & those funds got depleted to help them out. We live in a 3Rm apartment & we're trying 2 save for the party,a house and the car we have. Everytime they ask my husband for help they ask "Doesn't Mel make enough" or you guys just bought whatever. I tell my husband he doesn't have to explain how we spend OUR money, we're not children & we're almost 30. Everytime my husband talks to them it's as if they don't care how this is affecting us. He has helped them in the past but they expect him to continue to do this even though they owe him almost $8,000 within 2 years. I've already told him that if we have kids this can't continue we would have to take care of our family.

2007-04-23 02:59:42 · 15 answers · asked by Melody Z 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have an officemate, we started as friends. I felt a special relationship with him and I think he also does later on. We kissed and according to him we are special friends and we're getting to a better relationship. He just have a family problem right now, and if I can wait, he just needs to think. After a week, I have decided that we just become friends again and forget about the special relationship. I thought I can stick to that but we became closer and kissed again (a passionate one). When I started to ask him, he said he thought we are just friends. I did not think about that since our actions does not match what we have agreed. But as we go along and tried to ask him, he started avoiding me. I can sense that he is avoiding me. One time I told him that it's difficult for me to leave him because I am beginning to love him. When I asked him, he did not answer. Until such time I texted him and just IM me saying sorry since he cannot give me his time. How can I move on?

2007-04-23 02:53:35 · 6 answers · asked by chinky_eyed 1 in Friends

the younger kids being 2 years younger.

2007-04-23 02:52:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-04-23 02:49:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-04-23 02:48:11 · 3 answers · asked by george F 1 in Marriage & Divorce

This morning, my wife informed me that she loaned a friend of hers $300.00 and didn't even ask me? Not only did she do it without even consulting me...it was my money she gave the woman? Should I be pissed, or let it go?

2007-04-23 02:47:51 · 26 answers · asked by Big Daddy 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I just got insulted by 3 bitches who don`t even know me. One of them, even said I am ugly just because probably her husband is not having sex with her anymore. And you stupid ugly whores, you think that a marriage certificate means love? SO WHO IS THE PROSTITUTE? You are doing it for money!

2007-04-23 02:43:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-04-23 02:40:11 · 12 answers · asked by RIDDLE ME THIS.... 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

It is annoying the c***out of me that when I am driving my husband start to give instruction and direction even though you KNOW how to drive and KNOW where you heading? I ask so many people around me and 99% said their husband or boyfriend or partner does the same...why???

2007-04-23 02:28:04 · 15 answers · asked by lilac 7 in Marriage & Divorce

Or maybe you are?

2007-04-23 02:27:00 · 10 answers · asked by Yellowstonedogs 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

Under what criteria are they granted?

2007-04-23 02:26:01 · 5 answers · asked by Yellowstonedogs 7 in Marriage & Divorce