2007-04-23 02:40:11 · 12 answers · asked by RIDDLE ME THIS.... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
More background - we had a fight and he left - while driving he was hit by a truck & I had no idea. It was almost 6 months b4 I knew what happened. Finally he came out the coma and had his family (not my biggest fans) contact me. I've visited him many times and he is the same in the inside. I am not ashamed of him at all. And I don't care about the stares from people when we are out. I just hoped that someone who has been in a relationship like this one could maybe give me a clearer view of what is required. Thanks for all the answers.
2007-04-23 02:55:26 · update #1
I think that is a question you can only answer . Do you love him enough to help him when he needs your help ? Enough to say I am not in love with his condition I am in love with him and I will do and treat him as if he had no condition ? I will never take advantage of him , I will do whatever it is to keep him comfortable and show him I love him . Can you do this ? If you can then I say go for it ! If you are not ready to love him for him then let him know you will be a good friend to him .Good Luck !!!!
2007-04-23 02:50:09 · answer #1 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
agree to see him as a friend and take it from there. My x was in a wheel chair people would stare at us when we where together but it just depends on you. I loved my ex and didn't care that he was in a chair. He was in it before i got with him. Everyones different though i know plenty of women who wouldn't go out with parapeligic men simply because of what other people think. If you are meant to be together you won't even notice the disabilities. xxx
2007-04-23 02:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by ali-d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is for you to answer. You give no mention if he is ex hesband or BF. How long were you together, why did you break up?
If you are thinking of getting back because you feel sorry then you are not looking at it the right way.
You have to be able to see your ex for himself, not with a disability. If you go back without that attitude you will soon be ex's again.
2007-04-23 02:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by ttpawpaw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet would be to speak with his doctors (either with him present or without) as to what he will be able to do in any physical way as far as a sexual relationship goes. But remember that it isn't always about missionary position penetration, there are lots of toys and different positions that can really be a lot of fun to use and enjoy. And if he can use his hands and arms teach him how to please you. Good luck and God Bless you both.
2007-04-23 03:04:51 · answer #4 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect once you're with him again for a bit, you'll start to realize he is the same person (good or bad) that he was before and you'll adjust to the physical change if things are working out.
2007-04-23 02:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not seem the same on the outside but, he would be the same loving guy within. Dont judge him on his disability. Work with him. You will be pleasantly suprised how independant he is.
2007-04-23 02:43:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love conquers all and if you love him like you wrote, then his disability shouldn't matter at all. You always have to look at it in another way ... let's say you were married and he became ill afterwards, would you leave him then?
2007-04-23 02:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can. just look past it and love him for who he is and now what he looks like. Its whats inside that counts not the outside
2007-04-23 03:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by alexia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well youdont have to worry about the physical part,it is not like he is gonna fight you off or run away so easy
2007-04-23 02:44:20 · answer #9 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love each other the fact that hes a paraplegic shouldnt come into it and if you are asking such a question then you cant really love him..accept him as he is
2007-04-23 02:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by greyhound mummy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋