I'm black. Before my husband and I got married, he told me he only prefered to date black women but AFTER we were married, he started going on the net looking up naked black, white, asian and latin women.
He even told me that he can't stand manly looking women but also looks up naked female body builders on the net that look so manly. Why would he tell me he only prefers black women but then turns around and says beauty has no color. If you are attracted to all women, why not date them? I don't understand him. Why would he lie about something like this?
2007-04-23 03:04:34 · 4 answers · asked by sweetness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most of it is porn but what he does is he will look up specific women that he wants to see in the movies. And then yes, sometimes he will just look at pictures of naked women bent over and stuff. Im 7 mos. pregnant and when I saw all this stuff he was doing, I just cried. I felt so unattractive and right now, he really doesn't enjoy sex with me.
2007-04-23 03:11:03 · update #1
Talking to him leads to arguments because he gets so defensive. I mean, how would he feel if I were looking up naked men constantly and I knew he felt insecure about his body.
2007-04-23 03:13:42 · update #2
He's right - beauty has no color. That he can appreciate beauty (or nakedness..lol) in everyone doesn't mean he doesn't have a personal *preference*.
He has a penchant for porn. This is something you'll either have to accept or have a talk with him about if it disturbs you. Don't feel that he's comparing you - or wanting them, but here is not the place for you to get the answers that you need. Communicate with your hubby.
2007-04-23 03:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by pepper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is really essential in a marriage. You must talk to him about this. If he wont let you talk, and gets defensive and angry when you try, then you have a real problem here.
What you really need here is reassurance from him that he still loves you, still finds you attractive, and isn't going to go off with someone else. Right? Clearly at the moment he isn't doing enough to reassure you.
You need to be clear before you start talking what exactly you want from him here. Do you want him to stop looking at porn altogether, or is it just the type of women he looks at that bothers you? Do you want him to start paying more attention to you, giving you compliments, etc? Do you want more intimacy, or is the pregnancy making that difficult? These are the things you want from him, but what might he want from you that you might not be doing?
Pregnancy can be a difficult thing to handle for a man. He sees his woman's body change in an extraordinary way, and he has to cope with what is coming at the end of it. He may need a bit of reassurance from you that you're still his girl!
2007-04-23 03:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by helly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your husband looking up women on the internet?
Are you okay with this? Maybe it's just me, but I'd be PISSED.
2007-04-23 03:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He just likes NAKED WOMEN.......
2007-04-23 03:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋