Is this a big deal?

Question

I looked into my husband's cell phone. There was a text asking was he busy the text was sent at 7:20 pm however i saw it around 11:00pm. So I called the number it was a girl. She said she has been knowing my husband for 2year now, since she was 16 now of course she is 18. She claim he was just someone to talk too. I ask if they ever had sex or even made out, He said no, but she did kiss him once. What do I do? We have been married 7 years, one son.

Answer 1

Well, bottom line, she's was a child. If she has been corresponding with your husband for two years, then more than likely something else happened. You are the only one who knows this situation better than we do on Answers. You need to dig really deep and find out what your relationship is based on. This is unacceptable to a woman like me. Don't give him a reason to think he got away with anything! If you do, then it will get worse.

Good luck honey.

Answer 2

Prepare another way of life for you and your son. Or stay with him, knowing these things are part of him. You were tricked if he told you he never would cheat on you or have other girl friends. Kissing is never all there is. So yes, this is a big deal because it is a crossroads in your life and requires a decision on your part. When you build a better mousetrap, you breed a smarter mouse. Accept it or move on. You'll need a lot more time to cry either way. I'm so sorry this is happening to you now.

Answer 3

Tell your husband that either all communication stops or you walk. Period!

Unless your husband is a youth counselor or mentor - there is NO REASON OR EXCUSE for a married man to befriend an 18 year old!

Answer 4

Well there are many things you could do, throw his phone in the toilet, cry, scream, but I think if you want this to stop you have to tell your husband that this is unacceptable and that you won't stand for it. Don't just allow this teenager to steal your husband away, and don't let your husband tell you it's innocent either.

Answer 5

Call the girl again, and set up a meeting. You won't feel comfortable, till you find out the truth. If she doesn't meet and your husband won't talk about it, then, it's time to see a lawyer.

Answer 6

work things out don't give up your marriage over something as little as that, but don't let this slip your mind and keep an eye out.
if he did kiss her or whatever the he need to STOP talking to her, because she could be a threat to you. ( meaning she could try and take your husband if they onces kissed and maybe more than that.) but yeah don't leave him, but get this girl out of his life.

Answer 7

Wow that really sucks but you are the only one that knows your husband. You should ask yourself if you really trust him. If you dont is time to have a super serious talk. Is always best to be honest to eachother.

Answer 8

make your self more appealing to your husband. you seem to be losing his interest. but also give him an ultimatum. tell him, you stop fooling around with other women or you lose me. he has to know that you will not accept second place.
if he will not comply. I suggest you move on. you have not lost anything from living with someone you cannot trust.
good luck. my ex wife could not comply and now she regrets the mistake. but now it is too late for her. better sit down with him and make things clear. good luck

Answer 9

I would consider that cheating. Ask him what is going on. If you and him both want to work things out, then do it. But just tell him you won't put up with it anymore if he still wants to be with you.

Answer 10

WOW it is a big deal hes cheating on you with a little girl. You def. need to get to the bottom of it and decide what u want.