Family & Relationships - 22 April 2007

I just posted a question about sexual confusion. When I was young, I was molested. I blocked it out of my brain for so long and recently it has been bothering me. And I think it is my fault. Truley. When I was little, like 4 or 5, my friends told me about sex. We talked about sex, we played dolls and involved sex, and I thought sex was the most important thing ever. Then I think I was molested, but I pretty much asked for it I think. I hate thinking about it. I don't know what to do and I don't trust talking to anyone because the molester is in my family and my friends will think I'm a fag. Now, I still think about sex, but I'm a virgin. I don't trust guys, I'm intimidadted by guys, really badly. I'm scared and shy and don't know what to do. Around girls I am always outgoing. I'm sorry this is so long and stuff I just felt like asking without being completely judged. Thanks to anyone who responds.

2007-04-22 17:19:10 · 1 answers · asked by sencesfail2424 2 in Singles & Dating

It seem like nobody could answer this question...

2007-04-22 17:17:44 · 25 answers · asked by hot_like_coffee 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-04-22 17:11:43 · 11 answers · asked by nsmnrz 1 in Singles & Dating

every day from sun up till sun down everthing isay he has an argument with stomps his feet hits himself tells me im leaving i wish i was never born,i wish you were not my mom-he through thins at me,constaintly pushing my glasses into my face,screams at me at the top of his lungs,says that i should do mt chores sround his school schedule i was trying to be supportive and go in and have lunch with him,wich we seemed pleased with,after 7months of unacceptable behavior-hitting rolling on the floor,talking out of turn,bullying others in class-than being bullied by boys twice his age on the bus that they were going to kick his butt he replied back ill kick your-hes six-where did i loose him-im on the nerge of leaving-im broken hearted,emabaressed hes losr every friend in a five block radius due to his anger outbursts,his obscence mouth parents dont want him around ive talked to him several times,the last two weeks at school hes done well but when he gets home hell hath no fury like my 6 year

2007-04-22 17:01:08 · 14 answers · asked by resigned 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

Hes 19 and his girlfriend is 18. Last weekend we (her and i) were at my house alone. Ive been attracted to her for a long time and obviously shes been attracted to me also. Well last weekend we were talking and one thing led to another and we had sex. I thought it was just going to be that one time but then the next day she came in my room and we did it again and 4 more times since then. She told me shes had a crush on me for a long time and if ill have her as my girlfriend shed break up with my son.

I dont know what to do. Theyve been dating for a while but dont love each other and i really think me and this girl, ashley, have a future together. What do i do ?

2007-04-22 16:57:48 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

hello to all,
am getting married on may 8th. we decided to go to city hall and get married. i know it might sound chessy for you all, but am not into the big wedding etc... it looks like it so much stress at trying to get that day together. i don't know what to wear! i want to look nice, but not over dressed. can someone give me some suggetions?

2007-04-22 16:50:02 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Weddings

i have a fiance who can be a real jerk when it comes to having things his way. we are supposed to take a vacation together this summer..tickets are bought, etc. but he only cares about what he wants, and doesn't even think to ask me about my opinion. i don't want to blow it out of proportion, but i feel like if i don't put up a fight, he will walk all over me. as it is, i feel like i am too nice. today, i hung up on him when he called me a stupid snob because i didn't want to do the things that he wanted to do. i then went to the movies, and came back to find 43 missed calls and 4 text messages on my phone. i know he is sorry, but i just think it's wrong to say things like that to the person that you are going to marry. and i may be a snob, but i don't need that kind of condescending attitude every time i disagree with him. i was crying when i got off the phone, and he knew that. yet, he waited for at least 30 minutes before he chose to do anything about it. it really hurt my feelings.

2007-04-22 16:41:38 · 7 answers · asked by pastanus 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-04-22 16:37:43 · 5 answers · asked by Josie 2 in Singles & Dating

man & wife seperate after 7 yrs. marriage.wife wants divorce husband wants wife back. wife says i dont love u,get a girlfriend repeately. wife sleeps w/ another man,husband sleeps w/ another woman

2007-04-22 16:32:39 · 23 answers · asked by theresa w 1 in Marriage & Divorce

why do men cheat when they have it good at home

2007-04-22 16:31:04 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

So one of my best guy friends, I call him Pilot, and I dated for a few months then he broke up with me. I never really got over it. I've still fallen hard for him, and we are friends now. I talked to him for about 50 minutes the other night and he kept on complimenting me on my poetry and stuff. I have SO MUCH in common with "Pilot" and I've often wondered if he still likes me because he always look directly into my eyes and smiles like nobody else has ever done before and I think that it's possible we were made for each other but I'm too early to be thinking of that. How do I tell him without freaking him out or anything?

2007-04-22 16:26:19 · 11 answers · asked by maysimay2006 3 in Friends

I was thinking of putting together a CD for a wedding favor for our guests. I am getting married on a cruise and looking for suggestions for beach/cruise songs for the CD.

2007-04-22 16:23:57 · 18 answers · asked by whattoknow 1 in Weddings

I am getting married on a cruise and was thinking of putting together bags with beach items or cruise items for the guests that will also be going on the crusie...I came up wtih sunscreen, aloe, etc. Any other suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

2007-04-22 16:22:05 · 16 answers · asked by whattoknow 1 in Weddings

My best friend notices that me and her boyfriend talk to each other a lot. They got into a fight about this a couple of weeks ago. Her boyfriend told me about the situation, but said that i couldn't let my best friend know that i knew about it. Best friend said it was supposed to be kept a secret from me. But he tells me anyways?

I'm not the one calling him either, he calls me. But most of the time, the conversations are about her anyway? Who else can you go to for advice? And for the record... i have no feelings whatsoever for her boyfriend. None at all. Should i just tell her everything? Or will telling her spoil their relationship even more?

2007-04-22 16:18:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

What did you do on your 1st blind date? I'm going on one this week? What do you talk about when there is a lull in the conversation?

2007-04-22 16:11:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

OK...Long story short, getting back into this dating thing after having been broken up with my ex-boyfriend for about 8 months. Last night I had a blind day with a co-worker's friend. I think it went awesome! There was, at most, one awkward moment the entire evening. We talked for hours about all kinds of stuff. At the end of the night he gave me a big hug and said he would call me (he has this big test he has to take and he said he'd let me know how he did).

Believe it or not, this was the first date where I really liked and hit it off with the guy where we didn't end up making out. Of course...I've made out with guys before where that's ALL it was and I'm still single, so...I guess now, the day after, my insecurities are coming out like "did he like me as much as I liked him?" I mean, he seemed to. We laughed a lot and agreed on so much of what we talked about.

What is the protocol now? How can I keep from going crazy? Can I contact him or is that too "eager"?

2007-04-22 16:10:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

& what do both gendres do?

2007-04-22 16:08:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i love him a lot and we have been thinking about getting married but i dont no cause he is 23 and i 16 is there going to be a problem ? me being with him? if i do get married its going to be in Mexico but when i come back is he going to get in problems??? plz help!!

2007-04-22 16:08:29 · 23 answers · asked by aggie 1 in Marriage & Divorce

she knows i like him

2007-04-22 16:04:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

We have been trying to save money for a 2 car because ours went back.Anyways they are very well off and we are outcasted and they refuse to help.I know they could if they really wanted to.We just bought our first house all on our own without there help.We don't ask for anything and what we really need they refuse to help with.If it were my husband brother or sister they would have helped mounths ago.I feel so much resentment toward them because I know the bottom line is they just dont like me

2007-04-22 16:02:48 · 14 answers · asked by what did you say 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I can not listen to my ex-husband 's voicemails or read my ex-husband's e-mails without getting upset, depressed and feeling generally down for a few days.

However, if we change custody of my daughter who is 14, we will have to deal with one another.

I am thinking of sending him an e-mail that I will not answer any voicemails or e-mails unless they have to do with sending our daughter to me.

I know that this will anger him, but I have just started a new job and don't know what else to do.

I feel very sad when I hear the lady that I work with taking such good care of her 12 year old daughter and my ex blames me for not being "there" for our child. I gave him sole physical and legal custody and he never followed the visitation rules.

Are there any other ways to deal with him?

2007-04-22 16:00:20 · 8 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Marriage & Divorce

PLIZZ TAKE A MINUTE,READ N HELP ME OUT? I mean would that be ok 4 u ..if she (ur girlfriend) would tell u " Oh...tonight Sam asked me if we could go to the movies, (or dance or to a dinner)"?? DO u think that it would b normal. Cuz i really wanna know..that dont u think that my boyfriend isnt doin the right thing tellin me TO FORGET BOUT HIM?? cuz Sam is gettin really hurt. the other day we talked for bout an hour n he told me.. "u cant do this 2 me. I like u like my sister n cant believe u wont b able 2 go out with me n e more. U better get another bf who wll b ok that i come with u guys too to places " lol it was funny 2 me. But he is really hurt :(. plizzz tell me something u guys!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-04-22 15:59:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-04-22 15:57:07 · 5 answers · asked by Gringa_uno 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Been with him about 6 weeks, spent everyday together. He lives about 40 minutes away and i dont have a car. Do i call him and ask him to come down to talk to me? He probably doesnt realise im going to break up with him, im not sure how he will react, i was his first, please guide me in how i should do this..

2007-04-22 15:56:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I find myself stuck in the past in my relationship and i dont get over things easily....I hold grudges and its just really hard for me to let things go..how can i solve this problem and is it a disorder or something?

2007-04-22 15:48:31 · 12 answers · asked by Trezdons Mommy 3 in Marriage & Divorce

It happened with a girl in my workplce. She was considerably younger and lasted for months. What was supposed to be a one time thing turned into a nightmare. She became an addiction. When i didn't have her it was like a drug addict going through withdrawal sympoms. All the lies to get out of the house. Lies to both my wife and my kids. I couldn't deal with the guilt anymore which began bringing on anxiety attacks. I got everyone to lie for me and just couldn't do it any more. I told my wife everything. The news of course devastated her,the family and our friends. I have now sought counselling to deal with not only this matter but with personal issues as well. I ask myself everyday why? how? who have i become? I can't stand to look at myself. I am so embarresed about this and don't know if i will ever recover from this or shall i say we. I risked everything and now stand to lose everything. Please help me find myself again.

2007-04-22 15:47:49 · 32 answers · asked by rudeawakining 1 in Marriage & Divorce

dis guy used 2b my senior.. 4 yrs oldr.. yes, i totally had a crush on him since i was 13.. &nw i'm 17.. i've nvr tell him bout my feeling 2wards him.. bt i think he shud knw it frm d beginning.. he kinda nice..well..vry nice.. i've asked him once bout his gulfren.. bt he said, he's nt establish yet so he dont wanna think bout tht.. sometimes he act nice, bt sometime cold towards me.. i try 2hate him or at least forgt him.. bt i juz ended up loving him more.. i hate myself.. wat shud i do? actually there is so many think to tell bout us.. bt i think wat i've mention nw is d mst imprtnt..

2007-04-22 15:44:16 · 2 answers · asked by Eeda 1 in Friends

I have been married for 20 years been with the same man for 27 years. That is more than have of my life. Our life has been very good. We have had a good marriage. The past six months have been a nightmare! We fight, argue can't seem to communicate. We have had many changes in our life lately. Major life changes they have been that is for certain. But I thought our marriage was stronger and could handle them. Anyone else have this 20 year curse!? Any suggestions

2007-04-22 15:42:58 · 29 answers · asked by Taja44 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I started going out with him around aug of 06 and we broke up end of feb of 07. now he's really starting to freak me out. he calls my cell all the time and shows up when i'm out with my friends. I dole my current bf about if and they got into a huge fight so I don't want to bring him into it again unless I have to.
but tonight I was at the house alone and he showed up at the front door and I asked him to leave, but he wouldn't so I locked the door...but i just felt really scared. He hasn't really done anything but diffrent things that he's doing and I feel like i'm being followed and he's always there.....what should I do?? I'm 16 (be 17 in a month) and he's 18......please help....

~Katie

2007-04-22 15:40:48 · 21 answers · asked by ♥femme fatale♥ 2 in Singles & Dating

My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a month or so now and she's my best friend. There's only one problem, I don't want to lose her as a friend if we stay together for to long, so I want to know how I can break up with her but still be friends.

2007-04-22 15:38:21 · 23 answers · asked by BlackHawk 2 in Singles & Dating