Hes 19 and his girlfriend is 18. Last weekend we (her and i) were at my house alone. Ive been attracted to her for a long time and obviously shes been attracted to me also. Well last weekend we were talking and one thing led to another and we had sex. I thought it was just going to be that one time but then the next day she came in my room and we did it again and 4 more times since then. She told me shes had a crush on me for a long time and if ill have her as my girlfriend shed break up with my son.
I dont know what to do. Theyve been dating for a while but dont love each other and i really think me and this girl, ashley, have a future together. What do i do ?
2007-04-22 16:57:48 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
that's disgusting ! how can you sleep at night puzzles me
2007-04-22 17:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by Splishy 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy... You put an attractive girl ahead of your son, who by the way is his gf. That's kinda like messing with your future daughter in law. Bad thing is you and she are both encouraging each other in all this. Your son may disown you for good, had he found that out. What I would advise you to do is stop what you are doing because it's utter nonsense. Find a woman your age. If they don't love each other, let them work themselves out. Have nothing to do with it. You and Ashley don't have a future together. No chemistry... She should do a favour and get out both you and your son's lives . Think of the type of father you are and think of your son. I suggest you get some help and get a professional ear and mouth on this.
2007-04-22 19:29:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mista K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered what this will do to your relationship with your son? When you became a father, you took an a big responsibility. You're a father first now and a lover much farther down the list. You were selfish and unkind, no matter what the girl's feeling for you are. You possibly have destroyed a life long realtionship you could have had with your son.
What to do: end the realtionship and 'fess up to your son. Take the heat and learn from your mistakes.
2007-04-22 17:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by Carlton73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a jerk! No girl is worth ruining the relationship you have with your son. I say forget about her and hope she never tells your son. Hopefully your son will get rid of her soon, she's obviously no good for him. If you pursue this though I'm sure he'll get rid of you both. If she cheats on him she will cheat on you. Believe me the age difference will begin to bug her in no time. Soon she wont look at you like an older attractive man but she will see you as an old pathetic energy draining man. Remember woman hit their prime later than men do. There is nothing attractive about wrinkles and the smell of bengay and the annoying sound of bones cracking as you move around. They may not love eachother but who cares about that what really is important is the fact that your son loves you. You sure are not demonstrating any love for your son. I believe you are thinking with the wrong head Dad!
2007-04-22 17:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, This beauty is not worth to you or your son, pull yourself with your son and say good bye to her, Because if she can cheat with your son then its not going to be long when she will do that with you. Its very sayed that as a father you have choose this over your son. Please see a counselor and get help before its too late. If you have a child then you are 100 times lucky because 100 people don't have a kid today. Love your son, and tell him that you have made a grate mistake in your life and how sorry you are,Its going to hurt him more if he hears that from someone else, and dont think that this is going to be in a close pot. He will know one day.
2007-04-22 17:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to cut that sh*t out and come clean. I ain't gonna get on here and judge you but hey the situation should have been avoided. just because they don't love for each other who are you to get involved. The point is that they are together. And as far as you having sex with the girlfriend, you need to tell your son so he will know just in case he is falling in love. It's funny because a girl asked a question here the other day similar to this situation. Hope its not the same thing because if it s you a married and everything. Anywho, straighting it out before it gets worse!
2007-04-22 17:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Back off and stop calling yourself a parent. First of all, the girls 18 so if she were just a couple of months younger, hell, you'd be in jail! Second, even if it was just the one time, how can you possibly be okay with your own actions??
You've betrayed your son and slept with a girl who's not even out of her teens - she may legally be okay, but this is too close to being a child for my comfort level.
What to do now? Well forget a future with this girl. Even if she were older, she was with your son first and even you pointed out that they've been together for a while. How do you think he's going to feel if/when he finds out? Is a relationship with this girl worth losing your son??
Instead of being concerned about your own wants, desires, emotions, etc. how about being a father and worry about your son's emotional well being?
I'm disgusted by not only your actions, but your continuance of them and your reaction to them... what do I do now? Spend the rest of your life trying to gain back the trust and respect from your son, that's what!
I have no sympathy for you and only feel sorry for your son having such a father.
2007-04-22 17:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by tenayaledeux00 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get casturized and pray to god that he doesen't send you to hell where sick perverts like you belong. The love of your son should come before any relationship you have. Especially a 18 yr old girl whos dad is the same age you are. She is young enough to be your daughter. Find a woman your own age. Shes not done playing the field yet anyway
2007-04-22 17:03:25 · answer #8 · answered by troubble 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For one, you are supposed to be a dad here! You are supposed to be the one setting examples for your son. Some father. And two, you and her NEED to tell him what happened. He may never forgive you for this. They may or may not love each other, but either way you had no right to do that. If she told you she didn't love him then she probably lied to you and herself so that she wouldn't feel guilty about it. You both should feel guilty and I hope this eats away at you. You just changed your relationship with your son forever.
2007-04-22 17:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by mrs_me19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have asked this question (or very similar to it) EIGHT times now.
Have you not worked out from any of the answers to - LEAVE YOUR SON AND HIS GIRLFRIEND ALONE.
You must be voted for the worst dad of the year - don't you think it's WRONG from what you are doing.
If you want a young chicky-babe - GO AND FIND YOUR OWN, why screw up your SON'S life for YOUR ENJOYMENT?
You need professional help.
2007-04-22 17:05:21 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Mysterious ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How sad for your Son to have a dad like you. I cant believe your even wondering what to do. My pig of an uncle did the same thing to his son. She dumped my cousin and married my uncle. They ended up having 2 messed up girls together. The mom ran off with a much younger guy then my uncle and left him to raise the kids. I feel sorry for your son your pathetic!!!!
2007-04-22 17:11:39 · answer #11 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋