please help im at my wits end-i want to leave im tired of the verbal,emoitional and phsical abuse by my son?

Question

every day from sun up till sun down everthing isay he has an argument with stomps his feet hits himself tells me im leaving i wish i was never born,i wish you were not my mom-he through thins at me,constaintly pushing my glasses into my face,screams at me at the top of his lungs,says that i should do mt chores sround his school schedule i was trying to be supportive and go in and have lunch with him,wich we seemed pleased with,after 7months of unacceptable behavior-hitting rolling on the floor,talking out of turn,bullying others in class-than being bullied by boys twice his age on the bus that they were going to kick his butt he replied back ill kick your-hes six-where did i loose him-im on the nerge of leaving-im broken hearted,emabaressed hes losr every friend in a five block radius due to his anger outbursts,his obscence mouth parents dont want him around ive talked to him several times,the last two weeks at school hes done well but when he gets home hell hath no fury like my 6 year

imasis2 can you help?i weak ,tired and running on empty i love him but hes killing me emotionally and its effecting me phsyically

Answer 1

Have him checked for either ADD or ADHD by your doctor. Also, please be aware that if he is being bullied at school, this could be having a serious affect on him. Talk to counselors, teachers, etc. and see if they notice any of this behavior towards him. Bullies these days are very very cruel....worse than years ago. Just find him help....I guarantee it is not meant towards you....something is happening to him either physically from other children or with the ADD or ADHD. Good luck and let me know how this turns out.

Answer 2

You're not alone, this DOES happen from time to time. Your son may have Oppositional Defiant Disorder. There are a number of things you can do:

1 - I have seen some amazing results with Dianetics' techniques, you can find an org near you by going to www.dianetics.org. I've seen it work first hand and have used it myself.
2 - Military school
3 - At that age, corporal punishment is understood very well, you might consider using it.
4 - There is a contraversial approach which says - negotiate. He wants to stay up, say, okay, but only until the end of this show. Things like that, you compromise and negotiate.

Answer 3

Are you a single mom? I went through something similar, but not to the exent you are. I am a single mom with a teenage son. He was rough as a kid... not the obsenity and things... but he didn't have or keep a lot of friends... he fought against things I wanted to do; had troubles with school work and on the play ground.... he was diagnosed as ADHD, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder... started taking meds and little by little, has learned to control himself... he has more friends, is more social.. still has issues with me giving him orders around the house (teenage boy syndrome!), but all in all - better... not saying your son is ADHD, but there may be underlying problems that he can't cope with.... maybe counselling for you and your son - together or apart.... we did that, too. Start with asking him what's wrong... he may say and do things because he is angry or frustrated... all you can do it try... sometimes asking for help from an outside source seems to be the hardest, because we feel as though we are weak,,, but it may help everyone involved!

Answer 4

Wow, he's only six! At first I thought your were talking about an out of control teenager! This is absolutely abnormal and I would have a pow wow with his principal, teachers and guidance counselor about all of these outburst he's having. I would also suggest seeking out a therapist and if you can't afford one then your doctor or school may know of a program that is affordable or free. Point being, your son is truly screaming for help and he needs everyone, especially you, to put it into action. If you walk out on your child or even express this to him you will only make his behavioral problems worse.

Answer 5

Heres an easy one that you both might like. Fry or bake 3-4 ckicken breasts ( season them with a little garlic,salt, and pepper if you like). Put them in a casserol dish. Pour in a can or jar of spagetti sauce. Sprinkle shredded mozzerella cheese( use lots mmm!) Bake in the oven at 325 degrees long enough to heat the sauce and melt the cheese 20-30 minutes. Leave it uncovered otherwise it may get a little watery. While its baking, cook some noodles of your choice to serve them on. French bread and a nice salad make it a great meal. Hope you try it and like it.

Answer 6

You both need help! Has your son ever been tested for autism?? You pobably could spank him all day with out any affect noted. Spanking doesn't help children with mental problems. Autistic kids don't plan ahead about hitting people or hurting others. They just go with their impulses at the moment. My grandson is mildly autistic and I've seen every one of these behaviors in him. Right now he is suspended for school for 5 days for rolling on the floor, throwing his shoes, threatening his teacher and punching his aid in the eye. You can talk til youre blue in the face and usually they'll agree with you until the situation arises again, and something causes him to have a melt-down. He has a special room he can go to have quiet but usually it's too late when his behavior gets out of control. You could start with the Intermediate school district and have someone meet with the boy and go to school and watch his behaviors. He certainly can't be happy with the way things are. My grandson is on strateera 60 mg. and it does help but not completely. If you ask him why he does these things he says because his brain tells him too, and he's not lying. Please check this out and see if this could be his problem. I take his video games fromhim for such behaviors and when he gets kicked out of school he'll come home telling me he hates me and its all my fault. He usually has to be made to go to bed so he falls asleep and calms down. These children hear noises that we can't hear such as overhead light buzzing and noises in other rooms and this is also a cause for a melt down. There are times when they have to get out of the situation and get away with just one person with them. You can't teach these kids by spanking them when in the same breath you say hitting is not appropriate. he's nine years old and has been kicked out of school often since he was two and taking a bus to school every day, even in summer.

Answer 7

If he's being bullied at school, what you're seeing is probably a result of that. First of all, take him off that bus. Drive him if you have to or carpool with a neighbor. But get him off that bus! Kids who are bullied have a high rate of suicide and often will bully others when the get the chance. Which is EXACTLY what it sounds like he is doing to you. I would guess that the anger he is showing toward you is because he feels that you haven't protected him from these kids that are bullying him. You need to sit him down and find out how bad this really is. You probably don't know that half of it. Get to that school and find out what is going on and put a stop to it. Don't take the "boys will be boys" crap from the school. That's a lot of garbage. If your child is being picked on, then it needs to stop. But be prepared. If he's the one bullying, then you're going to have to step in and deal with that also.

I"m assuming since his behavior is allowed to go on like that that you don't have an older male role model living with you. Unfortunatly, this means you have to take that role on yourself.
Your son should NEVER be allowed to hit you or lay a hand on you. If he does it again, take hold of him and physically restrain him. Put him in a wrestling hold or sit on him until he stops resisting. If you can't do that, I would tell him that you are going to call the police. And if he does it, then CALL THEM. Don't threaten to do it and then not follow through. Don't be afraid to have the policeman come over and give him a talking to. That has a way of settling things down. When things are calm, explain to him that you will no longer accept this behavior. Tell him that if he is upset, he can tell you calmly and then go have some time alone until he is ready to talk to you about it. Let him know that if he starts acting up, there will be punishment. Then FOLLOW THRU. Kids learn early how much they have to push until parents give up. And they will test that limit every day if they have to. Your job is to be MORE stubborn than they are! If you don't have a spouse around to help, this can be exhausting. But ultimately, you want your child to be well liked so it's up to you to train him to be that way.

Take the child to his peditrician and have him evaluated. There could be something physically wrong with him. It could be something as simple as what he eats. Children can and DO become violent when they eat too much sugar. If he's having sugary cereal in the AM and then sugary snacks later on, that could be part of his problem. And some kids are really sensitive to it. I would try watching what he eats. Also, at his age he should be getting at least 8 hours of sleep and he should be getting most of it BEFORE midnight. If he's not well rested AND he's eating poorly, that is a recipe for disaster. He should be taking a multivitamin as well. The B vitamins are very important to regulate mood. If he's not getting enough, that could be part of his issue as well. Get him the Flintstone chewables. They are pretty good. Most kids will take them without complaint. Also make sure he has plenty of time outside to work off his energy. Boys are naturally more physical. If he has pent up energy from having to "be still" at school all day, take him to the park right after school and let him run around until he's tired.

I would take away all violent toys including video games, toy guns etc that promote aggression. Don't encourage him to act out in anyway. When he starts in using bad language or yelling or throwing a fit, then calmly say "I'm not listening to you when you cannot act nicely" and leave the room. Let him pitch a fit but without the benefit of you as an audience. He has learned that when he acts up, he gets attention from you. Stop reinforcing that. Only give him attention when he is well behaved. When he is calm, let him know that it is okay to FEEL angry but it is not okay to act out badly because of it.

YOu have got to get a grip on this NOW or you're in for a heck of a bad time at puberty.

Answer 8

It is the result of too much pampering while they are still babies, all they want should be given or else they will do some rolling on the floor. Why don't you try to correct the way you treat them, your voice should be followed not theirs,don't let them overtake you in anyway, if you don't act now,then expect one day when you are old, you will be kicked out from your own house.....

Answer 9

Give him a whuppin' to the point he thinks twice about what he's going to to, but not to the point of needing a hospital or CPR. Not only that, take toys, dessert, anything he enjoys. Have him take a responsibility for something, like a fish. Just have him constantly busy and working for his rewards until he appreciates them when just given to him, He needs to learn respect.

Answer 10

Have you ever tried spanking his *** a good whooping never hurt anyone . If they need it and it sounds like your son needs it if all else fails get help from school preacher or priest exorcist anyone who can help you. how does it go spare the rod spoil the child.