OK...Long story short, getting back into this dating thing after having been broken up with my ex-boyfriend for about 8 months. Last night I had a blind day with a co-worker's friend. I think it went awesome! There was, at most, one awkward moment the entire evening. We talked for hours about all kinds of stuff. At the end of the night he gave me a big hug and said he would call me (he has this big test he has to take and he said he'd let me know how he did).
Believe it or not, this was the first date where I really liked and hit it off with the guy where we didn't end up making out. Of course...I've made out with guys before where that's ALL it was and I'm still single, so...I guess now, the day after, my insecurities are coming out like "did he like me as much as I liked him?" I mean, he seemed to. We laughed a lot and agreed on so much of what we talked about.
What is the protocol now? How can I keep from going crazy? Can I contact him or is that too "eager"?
2007-04-22 16:10:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just wait for him.
You are doing well; it is great that he respected you enough, from the events of the evening and the spirit between the two of you, that he did not try to just add you to some list of "Conquests".
You can probably take that as a plus for yourself, but especially, as a plus for his character and person.
Just be a girl ... and let him do the 'guy things' and take the leadership, but show him your suppert and belief in him as it grows that far.
Good luck with it all, and God Bless you both as His Creations, for which He has made purpose and roles.
2007-04-22 16:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by dr c 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hey girl! I'm so happy it went well for you.
People are writing about the "2 day rule". I don't believe that crap at all. If you hit it off with someone, they are not going to think you're crazy if you call them when you want. If you feel the need to, just do it. If you want to try to keep it a more "cas" what you can do it either text him or email him something like "good luck on your test". Honestly though, call him. Tell him you had a blast and make plans for next weekend!
2007-04-23 08:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, he respected you enough that he didn't want to jump right in the bed with you. Which is a good thing. Second, don't call him, he will call. He said he will call let him call, if he doesn't call then you lost nothing. But he said he will and when he does then it will be so much sweeter. Guys like the chase so let him chase. To keep from going crazy and consistently checking to see if you have a missed call, go do something. Go out with another guy, nothing serious that's why it is called dating. Your main focus will be your co-workers friend, but until there is a commitment date. Just date no sexual relations just date.
2007-04-22 23:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by Bama sweetie 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I say wait. If he told you he was going to call you see if he does. If he does not call that will tell you something. In order to keep from going crazy get busy, do something good for yourself. Do not just go by what a man says but also look at what his actions say. The rules book says you should never call a man if you want the relationship to last. As I have said before you want to appear available not desperate. Good Luck
2007-04-22 23:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't seem as if the rules are all that different than they ever were. Let him contact you. Don't make it easy for him. Say you are busy the first time he calls. Tell him you can meet in a month.
Let him know your life doesn't revolve around him. Be glad the kiss didn't occur or the hug! Let that add to the mystery. Keep him guessing!
2007-04-22 23:19:17 · answer #5 · answered by goodness 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Let him finish his test. When he's done with it, either wait for him to call or you call him up and ask how it went. Stupid rules say you have to wait for him to call, but who wrote those rules? If you liked the guy enough my rules say it's OK to call. Making out on the first date is actaully more of a bad sign, not a good one for me. Maybe you met a quality guy.
2007-04-22 23:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wait at least 24 hours, and if he doesn't call that day, you can call him after 36 to 48 hours and ask him what he's up to
2007-04-22 23:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, do not contact him ! It IS too eager ! Just chill out...don't go crazy. Let life take care of itself. Things are more real if you're not manipulating things.
2007-04-22 23:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
atleast wait 2 days before calling him unless he calls you first and then tell him how u thought it went and schedule another day to go out
2007-04-22 23:14:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until after he takes his test then see if he calls you
2007-04-22 23:14:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋