So one of my best guy friends, I call him Pilot, and I dated for a few months then he broke up with me. I never really got over it. I've still fallen hard for him, and we are friends now. I talked to him for about 50 minutes the other night and he kept on complimenting me on my poetry and stuff. I have SO MUCH in common with "Pilot" and I've often wondered if he still likes me because he always look directly into my eyes and smiles like nobody else has ever done before and I think that it's possible we were made for each other but I'm too early to be thinking of that. How do I tell him without freaking him out or anything?
2007-04-22 16:26:19 · 11 answers · asked by maysimay2006 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have SO MUCH in common with him, like our grandfathers were in the Air Force at the SAME TIME, we are both afraid of the same of the same things, I'm a poet and he loves poetry, we both love planes, we both have about the same vision problems, same hair/eye color, same favorite color, about the same goals, and A WHOLE LOT MORE!
2007-04-22 16:33:20 · update #1
In a way, I'm in the same exact situation. I've been dreaming of him asking me out or vise versa and how I want to tell him I love him, w/ him fully understanding me and having the same EXACT feelings about me.
Maybe u could tell him through your poetry about how u feel. I've read and heard about ur poetry and I think if he read one about how u feel about him this VERY day, he could fall for u and feel the same way u do again. Poetry is ALWAYS something that helps u to get feelings out.
Good luck my friend and I hope this helps. And yeah ur DEFINATLEY in love w/ "Pilot".
2007-04-22 17:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by savy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I can relate. Been there big time. But one thing I've learned is that there's no way to convince a guy that he "should" feel more for you than he does by trying to talk him into it. It will almost automatically make him feel pressured and uncomfortable to be around you.
If you keep it light, flirty, and fun to be around you, he might get that attraction he had to you back on his own. But if you unload on him emotionally and try to tell him how right you would be for each other, you might come across as needy or clingy and it will probably only drive him away.
Women think its great to share feelings with each other, but guys in general just don't respond to that sort of thing the same way women do!
2007-04-22 16:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by mistfall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your description of how he looks into your eyes, I would say just wait. I think he loves you still and is about to let you know.
He is definitely flirting with you. I would give it a little more time before telling him how you feel. Give him the chance to say it first.
After 2 or 3 weeks, if he's still flirting but not saying anything about love matters, go ahead. You would have nothing to lose because I think he likes you so much.
I would test him by organizing a way for the 2 of you to be alone one night and see if he kisses you.
2007-04-22 16:34:30 · answer #3 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya. it incredibly is my proper guy pal too basically he basically does it to me. He continually hugs me and needs to cuddle. lots of the time I tell him no by way of fact I also have a boyfriend and he's conscious that. It gets incredibly awkward. i'm hoping this helps a splash
2016-11-26 21:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by souders 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are really open with each other, then I would just ask him how he feels about you and depending on his answer tell that you still like him. Another way to do it, is to play like 20 questions (ask a question and have to answer honestly) and after a couple questions ask how he feels about you and if he would give you two another shot as a couple. I know it sounds corny, but hey, its how i was able to ask my best guy friend, who i fell for, how he felt about me. Good luck.
2007-04-22 16:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by goober1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of the guys I know don't take subtle hints very well, so just ask him if he could ever think about you as more than a friend (again), and if he reacts poorly, don't take it back, if you like him, you like him, and you don't need to lie to him about it, if he just likes you as a friend, tell him you're fine with just staying friends.
2007-04-22 16:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by realsmartie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to freak him out just don't come on to him really strong, just let him know that you like him and you enjoy being around him and the conversations that you have together.
2007-04-22 16:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say that to him, I would wait and see how it goes. You never want him to get the idea that he can have you back anytime he wants you back. After all didn't you say he was the one who broke up. Just take it slow and you won't regret it.
2007-04-22 16:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he broke up with you move on, you will have alot in common with other guys too, there are so many men out there you will find another.
2007-04-22 16:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by papillongirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. one of my friends had a similar situation and he finally told her he loved her. They've been married 5 yrs now.
2007-04-22 16:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋