My best friend notices that me and her boyfriend talk to each other a lot. They got into a fight about this a couple of weeks ago. Her boyfriend told me about the situation, but said that i couldn't let my best friend know that i knew about it. Best friend said it was supposed to be kept a secret from me. But he tells me anyways?
I'm not the one calling him either, he calls me. But most of the time, the conversations are about her anyway? Who else can you go to for advice? And for the record... i have no feelings whatsoever for her boyfriend. None at all. Should i just tell her everything? Or will telling her spoil their relationship even more?
2007-04-22 16:18:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should probably speak less with her boyfriend.
2007-04-22 16:21:39 · answer #1 · answered by grem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say to tell her i think either way it will lead to some problem with them and possibly you too. also i say you should stop talking to the boyfriend all together because there may come a time when he can use that against you and even may say you have tried to come on or talk to him, so i would leave well enough alone. and im sure you wouldnt want another woman talking to your boyfriend all the time either , you are her friend and you should be telling her things that she should no about her boyfriend so she want get hurt not keeping things from her cause he says so.that shows you what kind of person he is anyway someone that cant be trusted an should not be with you friend.so i would go on an say something to her about it now rather him beat you to it an make it seem like you was doing this behind her back or something like that.
2007-04-22 16:34:24 · answer #2 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm, this is quite a delicate situation. Well firstly have you told the boyfriend you have no feelings for him whatsoever? I think he talks to you about her becuase you're the person who know your bestfriend intimately and it may feel more comfortable to be talking to you than his cocky *** guyfriends who are usually unable to open up thier feelings about love or relationships in general. Talk openly with him how these conversations is affecting your friendship then get it cleared out by having a group disscussion where the three of you are present and where all of you can talk about this situation at hand. You should breifly ask your bestfriend about this. You all need to talk to each other at the same time.
2007-04-22 16:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by whiteaspiration 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem is your friend doesn't know why or what it is that you and her boyfriend are talking about (if what I'm reading is correct, where you didn't know if you should tell her that he calls for advice). This, of course, makes her suspicious and the best way to deal with this situation is to talk to her boyfriend and tell him that although you value his friendship and take no issue in giving him advice, you want to be upfront about it with your friend so she no longer suspects what isn't even going on in the first place.
2007-04-22 16:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by Lwood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you value your friendship with your best friend, then don't talk to the guy on the phone. Then, talk with your best friend and tell her you're sorry that it bothered her that you and the boyfriend talked and that you have absolutely no interest in the boyfriend and that you just won't talk with him again. Let her know that her friendship is the most important thing to you.
I think it's pretty much problem solved there. In this case, just be honest and use common sense. Good luck!
2007-04-22 16:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by MikeG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is tell him to stop calling you. If you value your best friend and have no feelings for this person that is your best option. If he needs to know something about your friend then he should be talking to her and not you. Sounds like he has feelings for you and is looking for an excuse to call you. If I were your best friend I would be upset also.
2007-04-22 16:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by crimson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is truely your best friend, you have already betrayed her by not telling her the truth about the extent of your friendship with her boyfriend. But hey, what do i know, I just have a best freind I would never lie to, call me old fasioned, thats just the way i am.
2007-04-22 16:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds more like your freinds boyfriend might be majorly crushing on you.
also yes i think you should tell your freind about whats going on. she may get a little upset at first but she will respect you more in the end trust me.
you may also want to tell the guy that your not interested and that your frienship means more to you than his desire to be clsoer to you.
finally take a good look at this and ask yourself could you be in love with the guy and not even know it. sometimes love slaps in us the face without even knwoing it.
been there done that before. loves a ***** at times
2007-04-22 16:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do no longer tell her something because of the fact it extremely is going to smash their courting. yet while ur asserting that he calls u and u do no longer call him, it potential that he's the two drawn to u or it potential that he thinks that according to risk u understand extra approximately her than he does and thats why he talks approximately her to u.s. then possibly u might desire to grant him advice e.g. what she likes to work out in a bf and what she would not decide to work out in a bf. And if ur maximum suitable chum brings up a verbal replace in front of u approximately u speaking extra together with her bf than she does back, tell her that ur no longer drawn to him because of the fact if u had, then u could have taken him removed from her a while in the past and tell her that u like somebody else so then she will back off. reliable good fortune!
2016-10-28 17:49:25 · answer #9 · answered by bumber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be true to your best friend and tell her guy to stop calling you. you would want her to do the same thing to you if the roles were reversed..why even think about this? if you had no feeling for this guy you would have already have done this and not bothered to ask this forum....just tell him to buzz off or you are going to tell her everything..and do just that..be the friend you think you are...
2007-04-22 16:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your best friend! Leave her boyfriend alone. He should not be confiding in you. He needs to talk to someone else. Doesn't matter if you are not betraying your friend, if she feels like you are than to a certain extent you are. Leave him alone!
2007-04-22 16:23:26 · answer #11 · answered by rayngirl6 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋