Been with him about 6 weeks, spent everyday together. He lives about 40 minutes away and i dont have a car. Do i call him and ask him to come down to talk to me? He probably doesnt realise im going to break up with him, im not sure how he will react, i was his first, please guide me in how i should do this..
2007-04-22 15:56:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can allow yourself to fade into the background slowly. Many people cannot take the news and you might endanger his or your life if you tell him in person.
2007-04-22 16:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being you were his first...do it gently. And as long as he's not some psycho...do it in person. If not, you may ruin his thinking on relationships for most of his life. But prepare him before he makes the trip down. Let him know that you need to talk about your relationship. You never know, he may want you to go ahead and tell him on the phone. The first loves are the hardest to get over. Just let him know that you care, but you don't feel you're right for each other (or whatever your reason is). I suggest being honest. And don't say, "It's not you, it's me." That's not what he needs to hear during his first rodeo, even though it only lasted 6 weeks. Be calm...and don't shed tears if they're fake. He'll be able to see through them. Chances are, he's gonna shed some though. And don't ask him if y'all can still be friends. It's too early for that and he's just gonna say no. I wish you the best!
2007-04-22 23:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by malibutan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't...DON'T do it over the phone. I know that logistically and mentally it would be a lot easier, but it would show him that you're scared and it really is a lousy thing to do to a person. Break up with him face to face...that leaves you together to actually talk things through...nobody can "hang up" they have to physically walk away. Trust me, since you're his first, give him the dignity to do it in person.
2007-04-22 23:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the love of all that is good an decent, my first love broke up with me on the phone and I was devastated. It changed the course of my romantic life, and has had an impact on my trust of others since then...do it face to face. youll feel better about it and so will they.
2007-04-23 02:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by wherewasgodforthelost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over the phone. Save him the upset driving. He can chose to come over and talk to you, you in turn can chose whether or not you want to see him at all. Otherwise, you are making him to come over just to hurt him.
2007-04-22 23:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would appreciate it if you did it in person after a nice dinner that you paid
2007-04-22 22:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by Drock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter, you are going to have to do it one way or the other, and either one is not going to help him much.
2007-04-22 23:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by NoLifeSigns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it the mean way: "It's over" -say this on phone
Not so mean way: Sry but it's over - say this on phone
Want to still be friends way: Sry but, (his name), I just want us to be friends -Say this face to face
2007-04-22 23:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by Kori V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont't do it over the phone, text massage or have someone else do it... i personally hate that... you need to do it face to face.
2007-04-22 23:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by confused :( 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋