I started going out with him around aug of 06 and we broke up end of feb of 07. now he's really starting to freak me out. he calls my cell all the time and shows up when i'm out with my friends. I dole my current bf about if and they got into a huge fight so I don't want to bring him into it again unless I have to.
but tonight I was at the house alone and he showed up at the front door and I asked him to leave, but he wouldn't so I locked the door...but i just felt really scared. He hasn't really done anything but diffrent things that he's doing and I feel like i'm being followed and he's always there.....what should I do?? I'm 16 (be 17 in a month) and he's 18......please help....
~Katie
2007-04-22 15:40:48 · 21 answers · asked by ♥femme fatale♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Katie -
He may only be wanting to try and get back together w/you I don't know? But it sounds like he's stalking you. (1.) you need to fill your folks in on whats going on. (2.) then your parents and you together need to fill in his folks. (3.) get a restraining order..since he's 18 he's an adult and the penalty will be a might harsher if he's caught violating it. (4.) then if you're somewhere and he shows up call the police. Be careful and be aware of your surroundings and if you're out late always have someone w/you and call your folks and tell them where you are ,when you're leaving and what route you're taking home. I hope this all is unnecessary and wish you well! G=ME
2007-04-22 15:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by G=ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do in my opinion, is talk to your parents about it. Never forget that comfort from your family can always get you through anything. He's begging for attention, so try to avoid him as much as possible and eventually he should get over it and stop bothering you. If he's a extremely jealous guy, then I would consider making a police report about it just to cover your back cause jealous guys can sometimes be unpredictable about what they do. Finally always make sure someone you know and trust, knows where you are all the time. Better safe than sorry.
2007-04-22 15:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by Steve A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes!!! Well if I were you I would think about changing my phone # if that's possible. Secondly I agree with the other comments, tell your parent(s) and let them know whats going on. If it comes down to it you may need to get a restraining order. You can also tell a teacher at school so that he is not able to bother you at school. You really need to get it through this kids head that he's not wanted. If you feel like your in danger...make sure that you get help ASAP. Good luck!
2007-04-22 15:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a similar situation and let me tell you - it's nothing to take lightly. If you feel unsafe then you need to do something about it. First of all I would confide in a caring adult and get their advice. See what they think. And if all else fails, talk to the police. See what options you have. And make sure you let this guy know that you are serious about him not coming around and let him know you will go to the police if it continues. Good luck.
2007-04-22 15:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will need to be extremely assertive with him if he shows up at your house again. Other than that, do not communicate with him, do not email, take phone calls, respond to text messages, but do not delete anything. Save EVERYTHING. Write down everything that happens between you two. You can call the police to report your concerns and go from there. tell them you've been keeping records of everything.
2007-04-22 15:46:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
reliable which you will end that courting yet why did it take you notice you later to take action. first of all supply your self some time flow out and have relaxing. Your ex boyfriend chum has seen what you have long undergone and feels that he can take care of you better than your ex. i don't see something incorrect in courting him supplied your thoroughly over your ex..
2016-12-10 09:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get a restraining order, call the police, keep him away! if you dont feel comfortable call the polices non emergency # and ask if they can have an officer drive by your house every few hours. this way if there is a problem the police can make him leave. dont 4get to tell them the type of car. my mom did this with her ex husband. 1 day while i was playing on the computer my mom randomly grabbed me and my litttle sister and put us in the car and i did not no wat was going on. wen i saw his car i knew she was fallowing him to corner him @ the police station. she l8er told me that he was spying on us. any way 4 like 3 weeks the cops were driving by every few hours to make sure we were safe. good luck
2007-04-22 15:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by brittt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police the next time he shows up. Ask them how you can get a restraining order if you don't already know. But don't get your current boyfriend involved. He could get hurt.
2007-04-22 15:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by Alice K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you tell lots of adults in case anything should happen to you , they will know who is responsible. it is REALLY SCARY the way he is acitng and your gut feeling is probably right... next time call the cops. I'm not fooling - this guy is not tkaing your No's seriously u need to show him ur serious.. be safe and dont go alone anywhere @ night...
2007-04-22 15:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by lady26 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl da boy is stalking you big time, you need to go to the police instead of yo current bf. He may not harm you but the police needs a record of him doing this in case something does happen to you.
2007-04-22 15:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋