I can not listen to my ex-husband 's voicemails or read my ex-husband's e-mails without getting upset, depressed and feeling generally down for a few days.
However, if we change custody of my daughter who is 14, we will have to deal with one another.
I am thinking of sending him an e-mail that I will not answer any voicemails or e-mails unless they have to do with sending our daughter to me.
I know that this will anger him, but I have just started a new job and don't know what else to do.
I feel very sad when I hear the lady that I work with taking such good care of her 12 year old daughter and my ex blames me for not being "there" for our child. I gave him sole physical and legal custody and he never followed the visitation rules.
Are there any other ways to deal with him?
2007-04-22 16:00:20 · 8 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like a difficult situation. But since your daughter is 14, I would suggest having most of your contact with her. She is old enough to not have to communicate with him on a regular basis. He should only contact you for issues specifically limited to your child.
How long has it been since the divorce? It takes quite a bit of time to heal. Hang in there. It will get better.
Talk to your attorney about the custody/visitation stuff. They will know the best way for you to pursue that.
Good luck.
2007-04-22 17:16:32 · answer #1 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 22:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by Malik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my first ex communication, compromise and humor..
With my second ex.. A chainsaw, trash bags and a shovel on a very dark night in the desert ,comes to mind...
Take him back to court they can force him to follow the visitation agreement... Instead of feeling sad and upset do something positive to gain the visitation you are entitled to...
At age 14 your daughter should have her own voice in any custody hearing... She is old enough to decide who she wants to live with and tell the judge exactly why she wants to live there be it friends, school, familiarity with the location etc.
Stop fighting with your ex and start talking with and listening to your daughter... If she is happy with her living arrangements leave her alone don't even attempt to change her physical custody...
By refusing to answer communicatings you are blocking a conduit to your daughter.. You willingly gave up physical and legal custody until the order is changed through the court your daughters legal residence is with him...
The best way to deal with him is through the court just remember to ask her what she wants... It may not be to come live with you.. And at 14 she should be able to choose...
2007-04-22 16:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-28 17:47:27 · answer #4 · answered by bumber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't speak to mine at all. He walked out on us and then was never around for his son, so when he went to jail for not paying child support my current husband was the one to tell him that we hope he enjoys his time in there because it will keep happening over and over again.
As for the visitation rules bring it back to court he may stand to lose it all for not following the rules.
2007-04-22 16:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so he has full custody?? well, i wouldnt wanna piss him off , but you can tell him u onyl want to talk about your daughter not other stuff, and also if he is not honoring your visitation rights then u should let the court know he is in contempt and not following judges orders.
2007-04-22 16:14:30 · answer #6 · answered by lady26 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer! Save all his E-mails and voice mails for your lawyer to handle.
The nastier they are, the better for you!
2007-04-22 16:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i speak to mine through a lawyer... its much easier
2007-04-22 16:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋