Marriage & Divorce - 24 December 2007

If you decide to wait until you are married before you have sex and then find out that your husband/wife can't satisfy your physical needs,what kind of negative impact would that have on your marraige.
I know that sex shouldn't be the reason for getting married but can you actually go the rest of your life without being satisfied sexually.Would this put a strain on the relationship.

2007-12-24 15:37:22 · 12 answers · asked by upside 4

I have been with my husband for 11 years. We had our first son when we were 18. We married at 23 and had our 2nd son at 25. Over the years, my husband has been extremely verbally abusive to me. He has violent moodswings. He had never physically abused me, but the verbal abuse is so bad--especially infront of my children. He calls me a tw**, cu**, and a b**ch. Today he decided to throw a big scene. I am tired of being in this relationship. It has mentally and emotionally drained me. I keep going for my kids, but I am so depressed. I am in therapy right now. I cannot financially afford to leave, but I am at the end of my rope. After these tantrums, my husband expects me to forgive and forget and go on like nothing happened. I just can't find it in my heart to do that anymore. I wanted to wait until the children are grown to leave, but each day it gets harder. I want to be happy like all the other happy couples I see. Please help!

2007-12-24 15:36:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

thear is one problem allways v have a fight bcos v both r high tempeard ;now she has left and went away after having 3 childrens .she wants to do ajob;which i dont like i want her to be a housewife make our children study& happy she allways want me to bend before her which i did 2 times before now ti is third time this time i wont ;but i love her;& want her to anderstand my feeling no one can be midle in our matter family or friends i my self provide each & every things in the house .she made my children leave the school allso.day by day i am getting mad by my thought idont no where she has gon i love my children very much & they also.i dont no what shoud i do

2007-12-24 15:30:05 · 10 answers · asked by uttamvittalbankar 1

Who do u love more? ur kids or ur husband/wife? A lot of people tell me u can never love anyone more than u love ur kids no matter who he or she is. Is that true? can u love both ur children and ur husband/wife equally?

2007-12-24 15:25:50 · 24 answers · asked by Ruby 6

basicly the same story just a different day. i need to find the courage just to say the he** with it and go on with my life. i live with an alcholoic and when he drinks he gets soooo nasty and verbaley abusive. tonights serneo was all about my grand son, him saying that he was'nt my grand son, and that my son did'nt have the ba**s to have a son. that he was sick and tired of him coming around and that if i did'nt take the pic of him and santa off my computer web page he would throw it out of the window tomorrow. and that i spent too much on him for christmas. i bought all of his kids and grandchildren something for christmas and its 10 grandchildren and 4 children. i only have 1 son and grandson, the gransons mother is in prison for cdv and i could just go on and on, but whats the point. by the way i had $200.00 stole out of my wallet sometime today, that didnt help. i have cancer and trying to work and my husband is 9 years older than i and he doesnt work. draws ssi, started 1mth ago.

2007-12-24 15:23:58 · 18 answers · asked by sunshine 4

2007-12-24 14:47:13 · 29 answers · asked by nolegirl03 1

2007-12-24 14:31:49 · 24 answers · asked by nolegirl03 1

About this time last year I found out my hubby cheated on me with one of my friends and she was 16 years old. not much I can say age of cansent. my daughter was not even 6 months yet and he did this. I was so heat broken. I found out they were talking about marrege and kids. what could I do I was stuped to stay well she finally left and he wanted me back I said ok things were still bad then she came back around she had a new husband to be her own age. Oh yeah and my hubby is 26 years old. but any way I found out he was still in love with her and things got out of hand. She is 17 now but her and I got into a fight and he protected her and then he called the cops and tryed to get me commited saying I was a danger to my self so I was at the hospital for about 4 to 5 hours. It did not work so they let me go then he locked me out of my house then I had to climb in my window and that hurt. it was high up and I am short. any way he then told me he wanted a divorce and he did not love me.

2007-12-24 14:24:38 · 24 answers · asked by adria_kimbrel21 2

I have a boy friend that did something in the past that got my ex-baby daddy trying to take full custody of my son, and I went to get a lawyer and told my lawyer a lie saying he is not with me and my ex- baby daddy didn't have proof and he drop the charge. please tell me how to deal wit this.

2007-12-24 14:20:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm newly divorced but occaisionally engage in "ex-sex". my mother always finds out when he's spent the night (we live in a small town) and insists on trying to send me on a guilt trip.

i'm in no way attatched to this man other than friends with benefits now, but don't feel that i need to explain myself to her.

2007-12-24 14:18:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I feel that marriages don't work today, because people who have NOTHING in common, seem to think that EVERYTHING will fall into place once they become legal. It used to be that you married someone down the block, childhood sweetheart, someone you grew up with. Now adays, people meet someone from another country on the net and they are on a plane tomorrow. And it is sooo easy to get a divorce these days! All you have to say anymore is I don't love you anymore, I don't think I ever did... Whatever happened to finding your soul mate? Remember when Irreconsilable Diffrences didn't even make sense??

For those of you who love being married right after a divorce... Did you find that you actually changed your way of thinking and married a 'better' choice this third or fourth time?

2007-12-24 14:05:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

What would you do if you were getting married to the love of your life and his/her mother said I object when the preacher said "If anyone should object speak now or forever hold your peace"? I'm 16 years old and have been off and on with my potential husband for almost a yr. and ½ now and it's really serious. We've talked about getting married in the past and we still talk about it from time to time but of course we weren't planning on getting married for another 6-8 years or so. I had a falling out with his mother... It's a really long story. Anyway, he told me that his mother would object at our wedding if we had one. Is there any way for me to prevent this? I really don't want this to happen and it's something that's really bothering me. She's the kind of woman who is set in her ways, even though I'm young and have room for improvement. What should I do?

2007-12-24 13:51:17 · 12 answers · asked by pinkythediamond 3

I am divorced and pay my ex wife support for our three chldren. I understand that the amount I pay is strictly a calculation of percentage of my income, but my question is what if I remarry? I have been told that my future wife's income could be counted in with my own, therefore forcing me to pay more. That doest seem right to me, because my children are not my future wifes. Why should she be forced to pay for them too? I would think that it would be based on just my own income, but I don't knnow for sure. Does anyone know what the new york state laws are for this?

2007-12-24 13:46:33 · 4 answers · asked by jb 1

Would you date or marry a man/woman that is an adult thumb sucker? Why or why not?

2007-12-24 13:42:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wife left over a year ago and left a lot of her belongings. she made no effort to get them. do i have a legal right to sell them?

2007-12-24 13:42:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-24 13:34:47 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-24 13:33:42 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My friend's husband is deployed. He hired somebody to spy on her activities while he is away.

2007-12-24 13:31:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am legally seperated from my husband, but we still live in teh same home he wants a friendship with all the benefits of a marriage. I am not allowing this to happen. I work at a fancy hotel and there is a fellow employee who has struck intrest in me he is not my type at all and I know all he wants is a sexual relationship he seems like that type. He is all wrong for me he drinks, smokes, hairy chest just the complete opposite of my type, but I find him so intresting I can't help to smile when ever he is around we joke and kid all the time the thing is he still in a bad marriage I'm seperated but he still living in the home is it wrong for me to persue this? Or is it just rebond and if so I don't want either one of us getting hurt.

2007-12-24 13:21:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just hurd that it is against the law for a married person to have sex with anyone that is not thier husbund. We have been split up for about a year now and we are both seeing and sleeping with other ppl. The only reason we have not got the divorce yet is cause of the money, Does that mean it is against the law to sleep with other ppl???

2007-12-24 13:07:16 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

Are you the giver? Are you the taker?

Are you a giver to some and a taker from others who give to you?

Are all your relationships equal (not exactly 50/50, but balanced) and reciprocating in nature?

2007-12-24 13:03:08 · 5 answers · asked by Xanadu 5

dance with others and I did, while my husband is deployed.
I danced with a guy, and hes angry that its technically infidelity -- since we had a pact.

"the infidelity is you took somethign that was special to me (sexually or emotionally) and gave it to someone else.
I thought we had a special relationship and you contaminated it, it doesnt feel special anymore.
you shared something very precious to me with another"

Is this grounds for a legal divorce.
Since we did have a pact not to do anything with anyone while separated?

2007-12-24 12:59:32 · 12 answers · asked by Back on the market 1

I asked him if I could go see my childhood friend, and he is just a friend, and a very good one, just to say hello and say Merry Christmas to his parents too. I have known my friend for 28 years. Because he is a guy, he said "Go ahead, I will go see my ex-wife". I was not only dumbfounded, but a bit hurt. I wanted to surprise my friend, who is spending Christmas Eve with mom & dad and nobody else. What would you folks have done? I told him to go ahead and see his ex, I could care less if he re-kindled an old flame with her. It is Christmas Eve and it is supposed to be joyous, and he totally ruined it for me, not to mention, my surprise to my friend. Please no ridicule, it's Christmas.

2007-12-24 12:50:06 · 27 answers · asked by maddiekaykay 3

(not just for me, but for everyone involved-trust me, it's for the best!!!)

"Please, Lord, may Mitt leave Pauline to be with BB."

I would really appreciate you all praying this at least once...

2007-12-24 12:46:40 · 4 answers · asked by Thursday 1

Hes in Iraq right now.
And me and my girlfriends went out, and his sister saw me dancing with another guy.

He DID tell me if I didnt want him to dance with anyone then I cant dance with anyone through our marriage.

But its just dancing.

He says he wants to leave me now, and he says it was because of infidelity.

We live in georgia -- can he actually use this against me?
It was just dancing.

2007-12-24 12:43:54 · 14 answers · asked by Back on the market 1

2007-12-24 12:27:32 · 11 answers · asked by Me 1

2007-12-24 12:20:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

You all knew this was comming....How long, if at all, can u go without doing the deed....

2007-12-24 12:17:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

For example: Christmas I work extra hours to make extra money to give gifts to our family, he thinks we should keep the money for our bills and not purchase gifts. It's been a famly tradition to give gifts, his family too, except he just doesnt make any effort, every year. I want to buy a gift for his birthday but he never buys me a gift for my birthday or plans anything. Valentine's day comes and goes. Christmas comes and goes (I feel embarrassed to show at family gatherings and have no gifts because I listen to my husband) This year I purchased gifts and he sat outside the store with his mp3 player in his ears. I don't know what to do? Follow his lead and give up on this??

2007-12-24 12:16:30 · 6 answers · asked by suninmyeyes 2

My husband and I have been married 3 years - my second marriage, his third. We have little in common...he likes racing, I like football. We were fine and happy for the first two years and then I became sick. It wasn't a serious illness, but it could have led to one. I spent a lot of time going to doctors trying to get a diagnosis. When I finally got one and got surgery, he accuses me of not caring how my illness affected him. He sleeps on the couch and works all the time including on Christmas. What do I do to save the marriage or is it too far gone?

2007-12-24 11:26:00 · 25 answers · asked by bernie1701 3