For those married more than Twice!! Did marriage finally work out?

Question

I feel that marriages don't work today, because people who have NOTHING in common, seem to think that EVERYTHING will fall into place once they become legal. It used to be that you married someone down the block, childhood sweetheart, someone you grew up with. Now adays, people meet someone from another country on the net and they are on a plane tomorrow. And it is sooo easy to get a divorce these days! All you have to say anymore is I don't love you anymore, I don't think I ever did... Whatever happened to finding your soul mate? Remember when Irreconsilable Diffrences didn't even make sense??

For those of you who love being married right after a divorce... Did you find that you actually changed your way of thinking and married a 'better' choice this third or fourth time?

...When I mention soul mate, I mean in the sense that you met someone you truly enjoy on a spiritual level. I know there is more than one person to love...

Answer 1

There are many reasons that divorce is on the rise. It is a very complex issue.
One thing that has changed is that women are now in the work force and are demanding help at home and equality in the decisions made within the marriage, this is threatening to men and has created a different power structure. The next generation of men will learn to compromise and the marriage experience will be more of an equal partnership.

This will not change, however, how easy it is to find someone else to fall in love with when the going gets rough or the marriage grows stale and routine. The fact that women are in the work force also means that both husband and wife will have equal opportunity for infidelity.

The one thing that seems to be missing today, is adequate education for young people to learn how to choose a partner, what to discuss and negotiate and how to compromise in a marriage or any other relationship for that matter. Plus counseling should be commonplace, and the first avenue of help for troubled marrieds, just as going to a dentist is the first thing you do when you have a toothache.

Marriage has no more chance the second or third time if you don't change what you did the first time you failed.

Answer 2

For those who married more than twice!! Did marriage finally work out?

NO... This has happened to my brother, he lived a miserable life and died in a relative's house. That second separated, wife got all the insurances and all the property though! First divorced wife had taken 40 thousand dollars earlier.

Again my son divorced twice and the whole family is unhappy.
My 1st cousin divorced thrice and has now married a servant woman, seems ok.
Fact is that all these boys were not so bad. They have not illtreated abused or even touched the women without their consent.
The problem was that ..They were too good in the beginning, pouring money and gifts taking them around beautiful places etc etc... When the women took them for granted and started thinking that the men cannot live without them and started to demand things or facilities that was against the conviction of the boy, his family, his culture, and the atmosphere in which he was brought up, they could not pull on long though the men first tried to adjust. A day came when the man realised that he is being bullied too much..
For my son the problem was with the other men friends who had to be accepted as family memebers with free entry into the house whether the man is at home or not.
With my brother it was unusual abnormal jealousy of the wife against our mother and we sisters.
Some people are just destined to live in eclipse, always.

Answer 3

Divorced twice. For me, third time is a charm. Been married to this one for over 14 yrs, but it feels like maybe 6.

My problem before was a low self-esteem. I regret marrying the two ex's but the last one is my litmus test for all women thereafter. She taught me what to NOT look for in a woman. It was a painful lesson to learn, but now I'm a much better person and much smarter. I wouldn't trade my wife for all the $$$ in the world.

Answer 4

A third marriage is a triumph of the heart over common sense

Answer 5

You bet I did. I married my 3rd Husband 12 yrs ago. & he is truly the find of my life. We like each other. I would have to say that my other 2 marriages were not a total loss, they taught me things, good & bad. They gave me experiences.

Answer 6

I am divorced twice and now with a WONDERFUL man. He is nothing like I would have ever chosen in the past and that is where I went wrong before.

Answer 7

2 ex wives, 1 annulment; none my choice...still trying 2 find a gal who knows the difference between truthfulness and honesty and practices it religiously.

the last gal who said i was her "soulmate" was a live-in gf of 4yrs that ended up taking me for $80,000...the word soulmate 2 me means take the soul and money from ur mate and run 2 the next guy.

Answer 8

I am my husband's 3rd wife, soon to be ex because he filed for divorce. Some people do not learn from their past and are doomed to repeat them, such as my husband. Everything has always been someone else's problem and he has always been the victim. If people such as him do not learn from their mistakes, they are doomed to repeat them until they learn. I pity the next gal he hooks up, but that will be her problem and not mine, whew!

Answer 9

i will soon be divorcing my 2nd husband...marriage is hard because the other person dosen't allow you to be who you are! I would marry again in the future...but I would marry someone who is not controlling..live and learn

Answer 10

I am my husbands 3rd marriage. While I am happy to be married, I now am beginning to realize why it didn't work out with the first two!