i hate my wifes family ,what should i do and how should i deal with them?

Answer 1

You have to find some balance. Work out a plan with your wife in which you can go with her to see them sometimes, and sometimes she goes alone. When you are with them, you must be kind and show respect, even if they don't. Unless they're being abusive, you have to just shrug it off and get along. They're her family, so do it for her.

Answer 2

Continue to hate them.

Appease your wife and attend whatever you must.

Smile and nod and be polite and pleasant.

Think hateful thoughts, but never speak them to your wife. Your thoughts however, are unlimited in your imagination, hate them all you want.

Become a book of the month club member and show up for things with your book and read in the next room. They will think you are weird and leave you be, your wife can visit her family and you can enjoy a book brake.

Also take you book into the bathroom for LONG rests and privacy when their company is just too too much. After not too much time, they won't care if you come or not.

I like to stay at home, personally.

I was just polite and smiled at my own family get together, I have proven this is possible.

Answer 3

I would do my best to keep things as civilized as possible with them. If you feel like you can't settle the issues with your wife's family, you can always choose to limit your contact (or eliminate your contact) with her family. If you truly dislike them, that would be the best way to avoid conflict. At the same time, I would try to encourage your wife to keep a good relationship with her family members, however, if her relationship with them is toxic also, it may be a good idea for her to take a step back too. I hope this answers your question! If you had more specific details about your situation, perhaps I could provide you with a better answer.
Good Luck!

Answer 4

I understand you might not like them, But you no they are your wifes family and out of love for her. You just have to suck it up and deal with it. GOD NO I HAD INLAWS and NOPE DIDNT liike them. TO be honest short of divorce, there going to be around. Word to the wise do not share how much you dislike her family over and over. Belive me causes more problems than you want. So just sit back and no matter how much they get to you. Just bite your tongue or just leave the room! As the old saying goes grin and bare it

Answer 5

You should stay away from them as much as possible, because that is still her family. One thing for certain and 2 for sho you may not like them but you should respect them. Now if they disrespect you then that is a different story, but that would be straighten out right then. Do every thing with love and kindness because the devil hates it... and trust me i feel you and I'm a woman

Answer 6

First of all when you married your wife you inherit her family to but, to make a long story short try to spend less time with them as possible.

best of luck

Answer 7

Why do you 'hate' them? Are they disrespectful? Rude?
Then tell them, "That was a rude thing to say" or "I will not put up with this disrespect." and proceed to walk out, and if wife does not follow....drive home- they can give her a ride.

If they are rude to her as well, defend her by saying "That was a rude thing to say to my wife. You can appologize sincerely now, or we are leaving." Listen for sincerety. Do not accept gifts, and do not give gifts...this is like warming muddy water and serving it as cocoa!

Answer 8

Learn to like them just a little. Do it for your wife if noy for yourself. Good Luck and remember they are your family now too.

Answer 9

What you should do is remember that they are your wife's family and they raised her.

Answer 10

**** them, don't visit them. Love yourself and divorce your wife if she opposes to it.