Marriage & Divorce - 24 December 2007

I've been with my husband for 3 years, we've been married only a year. When we first got together I wanted sex alllll the time anywhere, that's how high my sex drive was, but now it's really bad. I don't even want to have sex anymore....Let me tell you how bad it is......Do you know sometimes in the middle of the night my husbad tries to have sex and I pretend that I'm sleep until he just stops trying. When I do get horny I masturbate intead of telling him. I need help, this may ruin my relationship, I can't tell him I'm not interested anymore ( he's a man..PLEASE HELP

2007-12-24 06:12:29 · 40 answers · asked by Love Angel 3

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2007-12-24 06:09:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex left me oct 5 th this year, he moved back for the 2nd time to his co-worker (she is 27 he is 42 and i am 47) we were together for 61/2 years. He left me a dear john letter telling me he tried to love me again but it wasn't the same (he even took my dish towles)!!!. He tells me he is madly in love and found his soul mate.
Both work for knology as cable guys.
It is christmas and i am still hurt and so sad over this breakup. I am not interrested in dating at all, and yesterday I called him and had the nerve to whinne and ask him if he ever would come back to me and to tell me yes or no so i could move on(how sick?) He did not answer me he just replyed to call him next week !!!
I feel like crap. How can i regain my dignity or sanity?
I would like to wish all you wonderfull people a merry Christmas , you have been for many times very insperational and supportive of my emotional delema. Thank you!!

2007-12-24 06:01:07 · 10 answers · asked by maria s 2

He was talking about his brother that annoys him, but he put one of his hands on my face, and used the other to slap his hand that was against my face... what impression does that give you of him?? He WAS verbally abusive and controlling too... When he did that pretend slap, it scared me and hurt my feelings.. even though it wasn't directed towards me... It was just odd... what do you think of someone that would do that?

2007-12-24 05:54:24 · 24 answers · asked by Jess 6

Having married a Caucasian girl and since had a child with her, my korean mate Peter is well aware of the consequences of bucking tradition; his mother refused to come to his wedding.

"Especially with Koreans, there's a lot of national pride involved, it's like losing face if you don't marry a girl of your own nationality."

So is that the answer? Are Asian guys just not approaching Aussie girls because their families may not eventually accept them marrying a Caucasian girl?

No doubt there'll be many posters who consider this topic racist and inflammatory, and to anybody who is offended, rest assured I'm writing this out of genuine curiosity and apologise if any of my generalisations or assumptions come off as crass.

2007-12-24 05:51:42 · 12 answers · asked by 5 dolls for an august month 2

My ex of 4 yrs. left me because he couldn't deal with all the fighting over his alcohol addiction. I was willing to work on our relationship because outside of his addiction we were still very loving & affectionate towards each other . A month later he has hooked up with a married woman & now claims he loves her even though she is still with her husband. I know that right now he thinks things will be different with her because she only see the good parts not, the whole picture. I have heard that she is planning on asking him for a divorce & wants to marry my ex which infuriates me because I still love him & feel that I was never given the chance to work on our relationship-I'm sure she doesn't know much about me. Anyways, should her husband be informed that she is planning on leaving him. I know nothing about her relationship with her husband except that he did find her cell phone with messages on it from my ex & was not happy. I do not know what she has told him but, shes still there.

2007-12-24 05:33:55 · 27 answers · asked by Mary B 4

Dr. Phil said that haveing an affair can sometimes an affair can save a marrage, if it can will you tell me how.

2007-12-24 05:32:07 · 42 answers · asked by Errol M 1

I am curious as to how it works. I live in Ca. if that makes a difference (not sure). Will they give hime the equipment to set it up himself? Do they come to your home at all? My neighbor across the street who we are really good friends with is a sheriff and I don't want them to find out about it. Will he know or can we just lay low for those 6 days and hope no1 finds out. We are good people and don't do anything wrong so in my opinion the cops shouldn't come here but I don't know if it's routine. My husband chose this instead of cleaning freeways or whatever they do. Just need more info as to how everything works. Thanks to whoever can shed some light. Merry x-mas.

2007-12-24 05:30:02 · 9 answers · asked by utap 2

Would you add your new wife who is from China to your house deed? The house was bought years ago by the husband and has no mortgage. The wife has no money or assets. If the husband dies the house would belong to the wife but if they divorced why should she receive a house she never paid for? Is a prenuptial also a good idea?

2007-12-24 05:28:48 · 13 answers · asked by DALIAN 1

Can you please describe how it feels to be cheated on?

2007-12-24 05:19:37 · 18 answers · asked by Alicia L 1

Was your partner formerly someone that spent the best part of their lives in their own company?
How did they adjust to married life?

2007-12-24 05:10:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I have been married 3 years. We have a 6-month old baby. I just found out that she is having an affair. She has been having the affair for over a year (yes, while she was pregnant!).

The guy she is having the affair with is also married and has 2 young children. As far as I know, he and his wife are still together.

My question is this: should I tell his wife that her husband is having this extended affair with my wife? If so, how? If not, why not?

2007-12-24 05:05:28 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a Canadian and my wife is Indian. We had been married from last two months but she is really shy, she refuse to change clothes in front of me, she is not ready for anal, she doesn't wear anything but Indian dresses which cover her whole body.
she even can't speak English, in short she is a big disgrace.

2007-12-24 04:39:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

He rented a house next door to a family he knows and they are partyiers. I feel like an outsider to the situation. He is always next door and they have inside jokes together, and make requests on the radio together and drink and party together, make plans together, and he gets excited about going there, etc.. I feel like he only comes home when he is tired and he doesn't make much of an effort to see me unless it fits in with his plans with the people next door - like they are having a party and I am invited. Other than that, I feel left out and hurt. I tried to join in, but I am not an alcoholic, n I can only stand to be around the same people a few days a week. If I want to see him or do anything w/him, I have to be next door. I don't understand why he is there 24/7. What is the attraction? He says it's relaxing there. Wouldn't he be more relaxed in his own home? (They do smoke n drink in the house - maybe he feels he can't do that here??) What is going on?

2007-12-24 04:29:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

If your partner kiss someone romantically right in front of you,Can you honestly say WHY would it bother you, and make you angry?

2007-12-24 04:29:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Husband wears panties?
When i came home early today . I caught trying on panties . Some actually belonged to a friend of my wife , There was lots of pretty panties all over our bed . she doesnt know what to do , I like women only . But she think I may have a sissy side . she has taken all the panties and hid them . she feel like i should be forced to return her friends panties to her? and tell her why i took them . SHE feel like he should Spank ME ? should She force ME to wear panties every day , even to work? What do other women think ? what would you do ? what color and style should SHE make ME wear? i HAVE TO ASK OR SHE TELL MY FRIENDS

2007-12-24 04:25:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am married since 1 and a half year. i m living separtely from my wife since 9 months. we dont have any sort of understanding. m very much mentally harrassed by her. we dont share a gud husband wife relationship physcially and mentally.
i need divorce but she's not filing any case and is not ready to go for mutual consent. i dont want to file any case against her myself cos otherwise i'll need to pay money...which i cant afford. and also m worried if she files any false case against me for dowry. give me a suggestion as how can i easily get a divorce without paying much money. i want the case to finish as soon as possible. also we dont have any issue(child)

2007-12-24 04:24:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am married since 1 and a half year. i m living separtely from my wife since 9 months. we dont have any sort of understanding. m very much mentally harrassed by her. we dont share a gud husband wife relationship physcially and mentally.
i need divorce but she's not filing any case and is not ready to go for mutual consent. i dont want to file any case against her myself cos otherwise i'll need to pay money...which i cant afford. and also m worried if she files any false case against me for dowry. give me a suggestion as how can i easily get a divorce without paying much money. i want the case to finish as soon as possible. also we dont have any issue(child)

2007-12-24 04:19:58 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

In the meanwhile, I have been talking to this wonderful man and we have a good connection. I told him i am separated, but i am "technically" not. I am of asian descent and it is forbidden to get divorced in your 30's. I am going to spend a wekend with him, to see if there is anything there? I don't like lying to him, but i don't think he would understand if i don't start this off this way. Should I go and see what happens, and then tell him. and honestly i am almost at that point where i do get separated? what should i do, i don't want to start off a new relationship with a lie, but i can't imagine he would give it a shot otherwise?

Also, if i am spending the weekend with him, do I ask him what are the sleeping arrangments?
I want to do what is right, but want to give this guy a shot.

My marriage is over in my head, just in it for a formality. I haven't slept with my husband in over 2 years and I don't sleep in the same bed with him anymore.

What do i do?

2007-12-24 04:18:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I told my wife that I watched porn not videos but pictures. She told me about a week later that she cut herself. I know this is really petty but which do you guys think is worse watching porn or cutting yourself. I personally think what she did was really wrong but who am I Thanks for any help

2007-12-24 04:17:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-24 04:09:19 · 8 answers · asked by Laughing Out Loud 1

expects me to swish around in this?
What would you say or do?
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2007-12-24 03:55:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm in a 13yr marriage and we very rarely do it anymore, so its my outlet

2007-12-24 03:46:06 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have heard many women tell me that they have a rape fantasy. Not one of the violence and brutalizing. More of a loss of control to someone. Is this common? My wife has told me that she has had this before. I am trying to understand this.

2007-12-24 03:44:50 · 43 answers · asked by ? 4

my fiance and i got a happy healthy relationship.. we are getting married this march. Now we usually meet once in a week because of our work schedules and are simply dying to be with each other..i wonder will things change after marriage when we will be together under one roof...most of the time? or at least every day..?

2007-12-24 03:38:50 · 16 answers · asked by Sarah S 2

Hello dears, Doris here. My husband Boris of 28 years near wedded bliss has asked me for a divorce. He tells me I snore too loudly. Not only that-he says I have lost my "hourglass figure." All the sand has run to the bottom he says. I told him all my clothes are made to measure, but he asked yes but who for? I said "well you have faults you know; You listen to too many of the young wives tales rather than the old wives tales." So dear readers, my question is can our marriage be saved? If you could give me some tips I would be most grateful. Thank you. A very happy Christmas to you all. xxx Kisses from Doris

2007-12-24 03:37:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

as a single mom back in 2000 i signed over temporary custody and now my mom refuses to give her back to me after begging since 2001. It's now 2007! How can I get her back? Call social services? Cops? This was done in VA and mom packed up my daughter and moved to FL.

2007-12-24 03:31:33 · 6 answers · asked by anonymous 2

that their father will never come back (he left, and dosent communicate, and dosent even pay child support) he has never payed a dime for my daughters expenses, i payed for everything, he was gone by the time she was 2, now shes 12, i remarry and my new husband is an excelent father figure and cares very much for the both of us, he wishes she would call him dad or at least pops, but she still loves her dad very much and feels like shes betraying him, shes content with my relationship and our new family, but she still has very hard times, specially on her birthday and holidays accepting the fact that her dad is never around, what can i tell her that would make her feel better??

2007-12-24 03:26:56 · 6 answers · asked by suehellen 3

me and my bf been together for a year.
hes 18 and always suggested marriage.
I have this thing where i pretend to him that i dont want marriage and that i wont marry him when really i do.
So, one day, while we were talking, he asked me if i was gonna marry him, i agreed, he was happy and started planning our future. The next day, he started to talk about our marriage again, but i dont know why myself, but i disagreed, he was, i dno, quiet? Then after a while i agreed again, after some persuasion. After a few days, me and him were together, and again he was touching me and telling me how we were going to get married anyway. Again I disagreed and harshly told him that i dont want to marry him. I also lied to him and told him I love someone else, he went quiet. A few hours later, I asked him for marriage, but he disagreed, he told me he wants to stay single, i dont know why, but it hurts, he keeps telling me now that he dont to get married!! I dont get it, is my fault, or is it him?

2007-12-24 03:23:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

He used to be perfect! We were going to be married at any second... but....

Now, We have a baby! (yikes! I know! We are not married! It is devastating to me!!) He never hurts me or the baby, So, Do I have to stay with him? He is morbidly obese and I am afraid he will eat all our food! (I am dead serious! please do not think this is a joke!) I am afraid to marry him because they will base my food stamps on his income too! (hey! I paid INTO the system for like 20 yrs now! If I need foodstamps for a year or two, that is OK! it is NOT permanent! I will work again!) We live in a state that has one of the top three unemployment problems in the US! What should I do?! I do not want to put the baby in daycare! I want to be a Stay at Home Mommy! This man acutally creates more problems for me! I have to go around cleaning up after him! (he.... uh... misses the toilet? on a regular basis?). I can not send him out to buy TP or toothpaste or laundry detergent because he will misappropriate funds

2007-12-24 03:12:10 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous