Women: Did any of you marry a recluse?

Question

Was your partner formerly someone that spent the best part of their lives in their own company?
How did they adjust to married life?

I'm approaching 35...

What about old men that marry for company and not for sex towards the end of their lives. Does this happen?

Thanks Rivas...enjoy your 2 points...

Thanks for your story missingora: it is me that has become the recluse and would like a companion.

Yours is a good story too MamaSmurf and I enjoyed reading how you found happiness with one another.

Answer 1

I married a man 10 years older than I in 1975. He was an excellent step-father to my two boys. EXCELLENT!! But as a mate, he apparently never read the guidelines! He worked (sometimes) and spent his free time on the couch or at the nearest gambling hall. I wasted several years trying to talk to him about US. Then I decided to continue to be dedicated to my profession and live my own life. I found that much less stressful and as long as I kept most of the money under lock and key so he wouldn't gamble it away, it wasn't too bad. I called it my "emotional divorce." He was very ill the last two years of his life and I retired and took care of him. Two weeks before he died, he said, "You know, I think I would have been a good hermit." And I found that a bitter pill to swallow!
I wanted to tell him that in many ways, that was exactly what he had been!!! Don't try to change a loner. And don't expect them to change!!!

Answer 2

I married a man who is a Vietnam vet with very severe PTSD syndrome. When we first got together we went a few places, mostly bike functions. But now days we both are completely happy staying home and working around the house and enjoying each others company. Both of us were previously married and had kids. We have never had an argument in the 8 years we have been married. We are just very compatable.

Answer 3

Being something of a recluse myself I find it hard to believe that any man who prefers his own company will change later in life.

It is while young that men are most interested in women, while the sex drive is high.

Once that diminishes in the early 40s it is highly unlikely that a man who previously preferred his own company will change his ways.

Hence the phrase 'a confirmed batchelor'.

Answer 4

actually no not at all. We are both in our mid 30's and still having a blast