He rented a house next door to a family he knows and they are partyiers. I feel like an outsider to the situation. He is always next door and they have inside jokes together, and make requests on the radio together and drink and party together, make plans together, and he gets excited about going there, etc.. I feel like he only comes home when he is tired and he doesn't make much of an effort to see me unless it fits in with his plans with the people next door - like they are having a party and I am invited. Other than that, I feel left out and hurt. I tried to join in, but I am not an alcoholic, n I can only stand to be around the same people a few days a week. If I want to see him or do anything w/him, I have to be next door. I don't understand why he is there 24/7. What is the attraction? He says it's relaxing there. Wouldn't he be more relaxed in his own home? (They do smoke n drink in the house - maybe he feels he can't do that here??) What is going on?
2007-12-24 04:29:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He simply has not grown up yet. Sadly, you cannot make him grow up. Just keep in mind, if you do marry him, you will likely be more of a mother to him than a wife.
Now you need to make a decision.
2007-12-24 04:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is still a partier and not ready to settle down. Move out and get your own place. See if that changes him. Do not marry him or this is what your life will be. Him over there and you in your house doing things alone and possbily raising kids alone.
2007-12-24 13:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the record......
You have been posting this same question over and over and over for the last YEAR!
Go back and read all of your questions........
and review all of the answers.
You fit in the profile of someone having OCD.
You need to see a therapist and get on some meds if you aren't already.
2007-12-24 12:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking the wrong people. Ask him why he is over there so much, let him know how it makes you feel and then you can base your next decision on the information he gives you.
2007-12-24 12:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by annita g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put your feet down are it will not stop sounds like hes not respecting you and it needs to end now are it will get worse when he starts deciding to not come home at all
2007-12-24 12:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave this loser now!!!!!
2007-12-24 12:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋