me and my bf been together for a year.
hes 18 and always suggested marriage.
I have this thing where i pretend to him that i dont want marriage and that i wont marry him when really i do.
So, one day, while we were talking, he asked me if i was gonna marry him, i agreed, he was happy and started planning our future. The next day, he started to talk about our marriage again, but i dont know why myself, but i disagreed, he was, i dno, quiet? Then after a while i agreed again, after some persuasion. After a few days, me and him were together, and again he was touching me and telling me how we were going to get married anyway. Again I disagreed and harshly told him that i dont want to marry him. I also lied to him and told him I love someone else, he went quiet. A few hours later, I asked him for marriage, but he disagreed, he told me he wants to stay single, i dont know why, but it hurts, he keeps telling me now that he dont to get married!! I dont get it, is my fault, or is it him?
2007-12-24 03:23:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is both of you. Marriage is not a game.
You are young. Take your time about marriage. You have many years ahead of you to figure out what you want in a marriage. You are not the woman you will be when you are 25 or even 35.
Get your life together, go to college, start a carreer, become a productive member of society. You will not want just ANY man once you love yourself and are taking care of yourself.
2007-12-24 03:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by heartsarebad 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK, I'm not trying to be mean or anything, but that is just STUPID for all of those things you did. Guys are very sensitive and when they say the want to get married they mean it, because most guys just want to have sex with you and then they are done with you. And it is your fault not his because he was serious and then you go and say I love someone else. What are you thinking, if this guy really cares for you, you probably broke his heart. And again not trying to be mean, but I wouldn't want to be with you either for saying that. You should have kept with your answer weather it be yes or no because I know you confused him(TRUST ME I HAVE DONE IT TO THE GUY I REALLY LIKE). And again not trying to be mean just telling you the truth, well some experience I have had with guys and what they have told me.
2007-12-24 03:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Boy Crazyy (: 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're both too young to consider marriage. Marriage is not to be taken so lightly. You both seem to be playing games with each other. It doesnt seem that either one of you actually wish to make such a serious commitment, . Get out and experience some life before make a life decision. PLEASE forget the idea of marriage for a now. Concentrate on learning WHO you are, what you wish to do with your life. Once YOU become whole, then you'll be able to share your life with another.
2007-12-24 03:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he wanted to marry you. Your fault was when you lied to him. If you honestly wanted to marry him and it made him happy and he was planning your future then you should have kept with that. Lying destorys things extermely quickly. You did not only say you did not want to get married to him which hurt him but you told him that there was someone else. If I told my boyfriend who wants to marry me that there was someone else he would tell me to go and marry them and not talk to me till he got over it. If I asked him to marry me then he would say no. You lied to him. You made him believe one thing and then you changed it and then you changed it. I would explain to him what happened. He is probably likely very hurt by this. He wants to stay single because he thinks that you have someone else. Explain to him and see what you two can work out together.
2007-12-24 03:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are still playing childish games like this with another person's heart and the only reason you give why you do it is "I don't know", you are not ready to make a commitment like marriage. Spend some time alone getting to know yourself & maturing. Please don't hurt this or any other man just because you can. There are already too many wounded souls out there in this world because of people toying with their heads like this.
2007-12-24 03:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by mustanglynnie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are playing games with him, which is not healthy in any relationship.
You are both too young to get married, just relax and try to be kind to each other and have fun.
You have a long time to plan out the rest of your life.
2007-12-24 03:32:30 · answer #6 · answered by Jen M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is your fault you shouldnt have got his hopes up and said you wanted to get married and you shouldnt of said you loved someone else you really hurt him. the best thing to do is tell him that you was confused and you love him and you do want to get married us guys are sensitive and take stuff seriously so i recommend you do not do that again!
2007-12-24 03:31:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, it's your fault. Why the hell would you lie and say that you love someone else? Also why would you keep disagreeing about marriage when it's just a lie?
2007-12-24 03:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by mscouturee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ugh you are not even taking marriage seriously your way to young, if either of you were serious you would have a ring and he would have purposed right, just stop forcing marriage and get to know eachother better. You probably think since its been a year you know everything about eachother!dead wrong just enjoy eachother and wait till it feels right
2007-12-24 03:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both too young and immature. Save yourself a lot of grief from a bad relationship and go to college. This will give you time to mature and identify what is good for you while creating a career for yourself.
2007-12-24 03:31:48 · answer #10 · answered by Bad Brad 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋