I'm in a 13yr marriage and we very rarely do it anymore, so its my outlet
2007-12-24 03:46:06 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husband and i watch porn together. it is sad that you rarely have sex anymore though, maybe you could get her to watch it with you!
2007-12-24 03:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by caseykientz 2 · 3⤊ 4⤋
This has been an issue that I dealt with in a previous relationship. Eventually she accepted that I look at porn every now and then and I stopped looking at it as it was putting stress on our relationship.
You really need to get to the core problem here. It isn't the porn that is causing the problems, its the fact that you are no longer intimate together. You could be pushing each other away and porn is going to ruin your relationship more than it is. She could begin to resent you and if you don't start talking about your issues (porn or otherwise) her resentment towards you will become too great and she will leave. Its time to talk to each other and figure out why you have lost that feeling of intimacy together. Good luck!
2007-12-24 11:54:01 · answer #2 · answered by TG 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have a problem if it was ALL the time.We have a great marriage and excellent sex life so I dont think he really cares to watch it a lot. And never does if Im not right here with him.I watch it with him sometimes so I dont mind so much.Now if he did ALL the time and try to hide it,yes I'd be mad and feel unwanted.
I understand the whole Bible thing,as my husbands grandaddy was a preacher..Southern Baptist...and he would roll over in his grave but people live different lifes.not everyone is the same religion and follow the same beliefs and Im not trying to sound all holy,because we dont attend church.But we do believe in God and we're saved.Yes to some people its wrong,but thats their opinion.I know A LOT of people from our former church that was,what I thought was christian and followed the bible to the T but seen them buy beer,wine..whatever..(southern baptist dont drink).IMO if you're christian and going to church and living 'by the book' you live by the book...not pieces of it..you dont pick n choose.Im not trying to get all religious on this ...Im the last person to judge anyone and I dont judge..this is coming from personal experience.....we attended church every Sunday morning,night,wednesday,was involved in everything but didnt live by the book.I still cussed some,I still would drink on the weekends and felt "christian" only on Sunday and Wednesday...to me that was wrong and I stopped going.So..I am NOT judging anyone.
Anyways..Sorry J.....didnt mean to hijack this and turn it all around.If I didnt know you "personally" I wouldnt have,so i hope youre not upset with me.
I may know a lot more about your situation than people posting so I understand more of where youre coming from....and I think you know where Im coming from and understand what I mean.Dont really care who else does....as Im answering YOUR question.You know how I feel about all this already as far as your wife and relationship.
Im the type that knows a man needs to be 'takening care of' and honestly..the bible also says the wife must submit to her husband and he controls the family....So the whole Bible thing could make this a WHOLE other topic lol
But anyway....we both run the household together and prob me more so,but I do "take care" of my husband.
Please no hate mail..I am NOT judging anyone or downing any religion,so please, no one take it that way.What I say is only MY opinion.Im not miss perfect by ANY means...just ask the poster LOL
Hope this made sense.4 kids...christmas eve I was only interrupted 50 times lol
2007-12-24 21:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by ...Tammy... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is in all human nature to satisfy our sexual needs. Having your wife or husband engage in the odd porn indulgence shouldn't be alarming or distasteful. Jeopardizing your marriage due to porn addiction (whether you admit it or not) is a serious concern. Try to use soft porn as an introduction to foreplay, but do not allow this to emotionally harm or discomfort your partner. I, at times join my husband and it is quite a bit of fun. I would, on the other hand have a problem with porn if it starts to come between us.
2007-12-24 11:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's only a problem if you are compulsive about it, and if your wife feels like you choose it over her when she'd rather be intimate with you. In other words, does she want to have sex, but you prefer porn? And if you prefer porn, do you choose it compulsively (meaning even when you really don't want to... you NEED to)? If so, you may want to visit a SAA for sexoholics anonymous, or talk to a counselor or clergyman.
But if you love each other, and she's just not into sex... hey... you need an outlet. Just make sure to keep it in perspective. Marriages are ruined when porn takes over a couple's love life.
2007-12-24 11:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by Twice as Nice 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he did it continuously then yeah i would but if he only watch it when once in while then no i wouldn't because isn't it normal for a guy to watch porn all guys do it and you can't stop a man from doing he is going to do it rather you like it or not so might as well let him and know about it do get mad and make him what to do it more offten.
2007-12-24 11:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by ga_el_mi 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I definitely would!!!! That is lusting at others and is wrong, as the Bible says, look it up, if you know how to look in the Bible. To me that is like saying she isn't good enough and you want others. I sure shouldn't put up with it. There would be a long conversation and an ultimatum and compromise.
To me it would feel like adultery, although it isn't is is lust. I am 53 yrs, old and was married almost 25 yrs. and there is little I haven't experienced in marriage. Get it together and get off that. Sex isn't everything, how about hugs and telling her you love her and showing your appreciation for her.
Don't take it for advantage.===
2007-12-24 12:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by lana s 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dude, after reading your other questions, you have some serious issues with the wife.
Have you gone to marriage counseling? Go without her if you have to. Try and figure out if this is a relationship that can be saved or if it is even worth saving.
Good Luck to you.
2007-12-25 16:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's my thoughts on this. I think seeking gratification through porn is better than cheating on your spouse. You and your spouse need to aggressively address this issue. If there is a growing gap between you two and lack of communication, I would consider counseling. If she is a woman with a low sex drive, then maybe she can address this with her doctor and he can prescribe her medication that will help with this. Otherwise, some women have no problem with their men looking at porn. If my husband wanted to watch porn, I'd have no problem with it. I find watching porn with my partner to be erotic, but that's just me!This is just something you need to sit down and seriously discuss with your wife. Good luck!
2007-12-24 11:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by Happy for once in my life. 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't like visual porn like videos or photos, I think they are demeaning to women and that it's like cheating.
So my husband knows it's off limits! I told him he wants to read a sexy book then he is welcome to, I know I love to read romance novels, but he's not interested.
Of course, I still sleep with my husband.
Maybe you should try to heat up your marital sex life a bit!
2007-12-24 11:59:21 · answer #10 · answered by Shana B 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Seriously.
I do not understand pornography. In my humble opinion, the fun is in the doing, not the watching.
2007-12-24 11:50:02 · answer #11 · answered by box of rain 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋