Marriage & Divorce - 24 December 2007

My boyfriend, always hangs out with "friends" without me. We do very little with friends together. He hangs with friends without me. He hangs with me alone. Is he cheating?? He shows ALOT of interest in his one friend's wife. I suspect them. Yet he assures me he would not have an affair with his friend's wife. I'm still not satisfied. How can I CATCH him. I wanna set him UP !! How can I do that??

Tired of being home alone, while he's "OUT" without me.

2007-12-24 03:08:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

i mean come on you can not cheat and get caught and get forgivin the first time and the second and the third and finally the fourth year in a row.

people ask me why i hate christmas .
now i am sitting here with 3 kids at 39 yrs old, no job, hating christmas because every year for the past 4 years he has cheated and got busted right around christmas time ( with in a couple of days)
but i finaly had enough and threw him out.

now what?
what do i do now?
where do i go from here ?
how do i survive?

i don't believe in love any more it doesn't exsist.
after all he was my high school sweetheart
any advise on where to go from here will be greatly appreciated

2007-12-24 02:33:03 · 24 answers · asked by franamal69 3

I would like to know how people react in their life's circumstances. In good times and bad times, what are you thankful for?

2007-12-24 02:21:55 · 36 answers · asked by dtmc542006 3

i have some trusting and jealousy issues with my hubby. i think because im insecure of myself and from the way i was treated with past relationships. it really got worse after i had our second kid who is now 10 mos. anyway. he also has trusting and jealousy issues also. so we dont let eachother go out or anything. well the other day i looked on the computer and his myspace account was loged in so as a jealous wife does i snooped. and i found messages from and to a co worker (who is female) and i saw him saying "sorry i didnt comment you back but i have a jealous wife" " she must think i have some kind of mojo. and then she messaged him back saying " well you do have a smile that melts women" now i was beond pissed at this and flipped out. we faught all week over it. and now sice that happed. things are worse for me. is he hiding anything else from me? why was he being sneeky? im his wife you know. can anyone else relate? and how can i get over myself and not be so insecure?

2007-12-24 02:16:09 · 10 answers · asked by Nicki08 2

how do you deal with a wife who grew up with a narcissistic mother and a father who enabled her mother's odd behavior? in addition, she grew up throwing temper tantrums to get what she wanted (also because her father enabled it plus she's very attractive so a lot of guy's just put up with her demands). so now i have a wife that knows she does this, knows her parents are disfunctional, the light in all this is she seems to know it and wants to break the cycle. however, her family is so involved in our life (i have a brother in law about 2 miles away and her parents are down at every single holiday). her mother talks to her and doesn't said rude things but if my wife has a negative emotion regarding me her mom uses that and just builds it from there trying to get her daughter back into the family compound. i think i'm fighting a losing battle and my wife is choicing dysfunction with her family over a happy family where i can teach her how love really is from my upbringing. I don’t put up with her temper tantrums or accept disrespect from her parents (whom I don’t respect given they seem to want our marriage to end so they can have their little girl back). I tell it like it is, ask her to tell her parents to leave if they’re being disrespectful to me or her (I’ve heard them talk bad about their daughter to my face), or tell her that no we’re not going to do something with your family every holiday. However I think I’m losing the battle. Her mother and her now have me as the bad guy when I married her it was me and her and her parents were the bad people. It’s nuts. I think we’ll go through a separation because I can’t change her unless she wants to be cut from the controlling apron strings of her parents and stop the dysfunctional life that seems to be from generations. She wants to change but can’t. I’m going to let her go to see if she can change. Think that is a good idea? By the way marriage counseling didn’t work, in the sessions it was all my fault. So don’t suggest that please. I just know if we split she’ll be miserable under the total control of her family and she’ll lose a good man and children. Any suggestions?

2007-12-24 01:42:11 · 7 answers · asked by survivor 1

2007-12-24 01:37:33 · 25 answers · asked by Carlos J 1

Iam 24 She is 19 Whe Have Been Engaged For 2yrs ...And Geting Married on 13May.... we had a Good One Year... But In 2nd Yers We Fighted too Much . How She Is Not Happy With me Becuse Of All The fights ... we are Not Meeting Each other For 3monts Time No Phone Call From Her Side.. I Only Call Her....The Reson For Fight Is Nothing... But It Got it worst... I said Sorry One Lakh Time But She Doesnt Understand It... We Both Did Mistake ... She Feels She was Right all The Time ...... Than To Ihave Let It Go ... But She Says She Dent Love Me anymore .... What Can I do To Get Her Confindence Back On Me...... She Things She Has Give Her Life in wrong Hand ....... ... Now What Can I do ..... Marrige is Round The Corner ...

2007-12-24 01:36:12 · 8 answers · asked by dev 1

2007-12-24 01:21:34 · 38 answers · asked by Bee 3

what are you going to do to improve yourself before He comes.

2007-12-24 01:13:18 · 6 answers · asked by Stevo 1

I have been married for two years, our marriage was never on a good foundation. My husband is two men, he says with words, "I love you" and, when he is home-- he shows it in his actions.

My husband has had a lot of trouble with other women--and showed this during our marriage. We have been a constant going back and forth, "I love you, and now I show you that I dont." We are in counseling and my husband decided to reveal some truths---while we were engaged , he talked, by phone, to a married women from his past. They talked of their love for each other , but decided that it probably wouldnt work out? And then, he confessed that during our marriage--he sent a birthday card to this woman and signed it "I love You."

How can a man marry a woman he does not love (me)? Why do men string one wife along and have a "double life?" When is your marriage over?

2007-12-24 01:10:14 · 13 answers · asked by skyward 4

My fiance has a 7 year old daughter. He loves her very much and so do I. Before I met him, 1 1/2 years ago there was this woman and they had a short good time together.He said it was less than 10 times and he always wore a condom. He also found out that she was with another man when she went to NY & Miami.After a year she calls him and tells him she has had his baby and he couldn't believe that call. He will be going to get a DNA test to see if she is his.

The thing IS.. his 7 year old's mom took her to see the little girl already and has told her about the 'sister'! She is too young to have known this so soon without even being sure.

Should we tell her it's not true or leave it alone. If it is true we don't want her to tell everyone about this so fast. It's hard, any advice?

2007-12-24 01:05:04 · 24 answers · asked by HotJewels 3

my husband and i separated and i have a bank account bu its only in my name and we dont live together anymore , im going through a divorce but currently still married! should i open a new acount with a new number or u think he woulnt have access at all?? is it secure

2007-12-24 00:55:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Since birth,my father abandoned me..i never recieved any support from him since he is in the USA right now.but i met him when i was 18 years old but iam confused "how iam going to accept everything" ......after this moment....he go back to USA he didnt try to reach me again.
actually i dont care about him..coz i have a successful life right now...by the way thanks for my mom.she teach how to be a strong and to be responsible.

2007-12-24 00:34:53 · 11 answers · asked by annapoohtz 1

I am 27 years old..and i got married when i was 23..it was arranged marriage..i loved my husband very much. i respected him and his family but i felt do to low self esteem i thought i nor my family was good for him. so i always talked about divorce..i wanted to save him from mental agony.so i finally divorced him. but he begged me not to divorce him..i didn't listen as i thought he was saying not to divorce so that he would not look bad with his family and he maybe he didn't like me..but simply wanted me to still be married to him for the sake of not being embarrased..BASICALLY i brought unnecessary thought and problems into our realtionship..i assumed alot ot things. but NOW after being divorced over a year..i feel like a new person..i feel i am confident in myself..i am more clear headed, mature person ..and now i am dying to get back with him..each and every time i see improvment in my life..it pains me that i didn't show this to him during my marriage ..what shall i do..?

2007-12-24 00:34:25 · 4 answers · asked by maxine m 1

2007-12-24 00:24:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

The reason I asked this is because he was married before and he went to see his daughter back home and he is telling me that he is staying at a hotel. However, his ex wife and daughter stays together and last night he didn't talk on the phone with me long as usual. I really think he is staying with her and possibly doing a little more. He has already lied and told me that he wasn't married and to fund out he was before. Can I trust him?Im much younger at 23 and he is 35. I need help from someone because I feel bad.

2007-12-24 00:22:51 · 10 answers · asked by cindy 1

OK the story is, last night my husband presented me with an early Christmas gift....a new bridal set. When we got married 5 years ago, we really didn't have the finances to get a really extravagant ring. So I got my husband a few things for Christmas, but I am now a stay at home mom. I have some money....Does anyone have a suggestion of what to buy my guy?

2007-12-24 00:17:22 · 17 answers · asked by Angelbaby79 3

I fell in love with someone who was my perfect match. He was funny and exciting and fun to be around. For 2 yrs., we enjoyed each others company and couldn't stand to be apart. We wrote each other love notes, gave each other surprises, played jokes on each other, laughed til our cheeks hurt....He waited on me hand and foot, knew my every need before I did, and could read my mind. He was like a male version of myself...my soulmate.
Then, we moved in together. After 2 yrs., I have discovered a bad temper. I have discovered a manipulative and controlling side of him that he NEVER let on to me previously. I have discovered lies that were told to me. I have met his men friends who hint around to a past of gambling, lying, and womanizing. I knew he could be a flirt, but only with me. He lied about his age and his education. He has been married twice. First one ran off with another man and 2nd one caught him talking to me. He claims she was addicted to Oxycottin.

2007-12-24 00:10:36 · 25 answers · asked by maplesyrup09 2

2007-12-24 00:07:42 · 13 answers · asked by Luna 1