Do U Think She Will Be Happy with Me?

Question

Iam 24 She is 19 Whe Have Been Engaged For 2yrs ...And Geting Married on 13May.... we had a Good One Year... But In 2nd Yers We Fighted too Much . How She Is Not Happy With me Becuse Of All The fights ... we are Not Meeting Each other For 3monts Time No Phone Call From Her Side.. I Only Call Her....The Reson For Fight Is Nothing... But It Got it worst... I said Sorry One Lakh Time But She Doesnt Understand It... We Both Did Mistake ... She Feels She was Right all The Time ...... Than To Ihave Let It Go ... But She Says She Dent Love Me anymore .... What Can I do To Get Her Confindence Back On Me...... She Things She Has Give Her Life in wrong Hand ....... ... Now What Can I do ..... Marrige is Round The Corner ...

Answer 1

OMG...don't get married. You already know that it's not going to work. Why put yourselves through a horrible mistake. It's cheaper (both financially and emotionally) to cancel any plans that you have.

Answer 2

Both of you ought to back off of your marriage plans. Arguing over silly stuff is childish, and in a way, really not your fault. You are likely a product of our public school system, and as a teacher in public schools we have failed all of you guys.... we have failed you in how to communicate without resentment and rage, which you feel toward her.

The two of your are reduced to pouting and fighting like a pair of three years olds, and it is not not your fault...but it does mean that your marriage would have no chance... We sent you out into the world with no life skills,.... we don't teach you how to shop for a spouse, how to budget money, that kids early in your marriage will just destroy it (note the high divorce rate among new parents.... google it anytime). And for all of this, I am so very sorry. None of your teacher even ever told you that every letter in a paragraph does not begin with a capital letter. And you likely failed every assignment in writing. At 24, you have been out of school 6 years, and still can't write. At 19, she is just barely out of school, and not it college, so unlikely she has taken any college courses in communication, so she is no better off than you are in her abilities to negotiate your problems.

Hon, you and she are no where near being able to make a marriage work. Both of you need some counseling in human interactions.

And get into counseling. (There is a whole lot of difference between, "Why the hell isn't the house clean. Christ, all you do is sit around all day and do nothing, and I am working my socks off....." and "Gee, Marsha, I hate house work too. Maybe we can work out a way where we can both give 3 hours a week to keeping our apartment clean. When do you think we could create a schedule?"

In the first it's all her problem, in the second, you are not only claiming ownership of the problem, but showing you wish to help in its solution.... big difference. Do you see why?

You aren't ready either for marriage, a committed relationship, nor to be a parent without lots of counseling. This marriage wouldn't last three months....trust me.

Get three sessions in counceling.... together or alone. Take paper and pen... you are about to learn a lot..

Good luck, hon.

Answer 3

DO NOT GET MARRIED. Marriage destroys great healthy relationships!!! Your relationship is already over. Face it and move on.

Answer 4

Don't get married. The relationship is over, she doesn't love you and you two can't get along. Move on.

Answer 5

i would put the wedding on hold till u sort things out but by what u have said its over epically as she said she dose not love u no more

Answer 6

Don't get married!!!! Problems don't get better after you are married, they get worse. She is a teenager anyway - WAY too young!!!

Answer 7

time to rethink if you still wanna pursue with the planned wedding...before it's too late...

Answer 8

dont get married