He was talking about his brother that annoys him, but he put one of his hands on my face, and used the other to slap his hand that was against my face... what impression does that give you of him?? He WAS verbally abusive and controlling too... When he did that pretend slap, it scared me and hurt my feelings.. even though it wasn't directed towards me... It was just odd... what do you think of someone that would do that?
2007-12-24 05:54:24 · 24 answers · asked by Jess 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
haha no I'm not around this jerk any more. I'm just trying to make an estimation of how idiodic it was of me not to slap him back or something. hindsight is 20/20
2007-12-24 06:03:40 · update #1
He has too much anger inside, and the fact that he slapped his own hand shows that he knows if he hits you he's gonna be in deep trouble, or at least that you won't talk to him at all anymore. Speaking about slapping your own hand, I've punched walls, floor, thrown stuff, et cetera when taking some anger out... not that I'm abusive or need anger management, and it wasn't when others were around... just saying.
2007-12-24 05:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was not directed toward you I do not know if it was something that you should worry about.
However you said that he was verbally abusive and controlling too...Was this directed toward you? If so that alone may be enough to say hit the road.
If he makes you uncomfortable on a regular basis with thing like this you may be better off to end the relationship.
Is he generally a violent person?
These are the questions you need to be asking yourself and once you answer those questions I think you will have the answer to all of your questions.
2007-12-24 14:02:49 · answer #2 · answered by luckyme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, was he telling u a story like of what he did to his brother? Calm down sparky he didn't physically hit u. If it bothers u that much tell him how it made u feel. I think if he wanted to hit u he would've, why do a pretend slap when obviously he's capable of the real thing?! I wouldn't think to much into it, he's an ex over and done w/! People do gestures like that all the time when explaining a story.
2007-12-24 14:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
luckily your not around him anymore or a pretend slap probably at some point would have been a real slap. I agree that its not appropriate and he didn't have to go to that extent to make a point or give an example. Your right he is a jerk. But at least he is not your jerk anymore. Thank you lucky stars.
2007-12-24 14:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by jvw2300 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a weirdo and a bully who thinks he can get away with any bad behavior as long as it is directed toward someone "weaker" than he is. His goal was to frighten and embarass you. Most men of this type are essentially cowards, they wouldn't dare behave that way toward someone they thought would fight back, such as another man.
If it ever happens again, step back, look shocked, and tell him in a very firm voice that you won't tolerate that treatment.
2007-12-24 14:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would I think of him? It's a simple enough thing to do... to another guy. I think he's just insensitive to women, that's all. I wouldn't call that an abusive action in anyway. If you didn't like it though, maybe you should tell him that, so he doesn't repeat it with you or anyone in the future.
2007-12-24 14:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by lissa2882 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't actually hit you, but why would you be around him at all knowing what he is and his out of control anger? HE IS an ex, after all. Stop wasting time stressing over the past and move on.
2007-12-24 14:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't the brightest thing for him to do. Aren't you glad he's your EX!!
My husband , the good preacher boy, (after being together 13 years), slapped me with NO provocation at all AND in front of our two boys. I hit him in the chin with my fist and my 5'2"s put his 5' 11" DOWN!! Can you say "DIVORCE?"
I did..
2007-12-24 14:11:20 · answer #8 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do agree with anneta g. Tell him that action is not welcome and that you don't feel comfortable with that type of immaturity. He never intended to strike you from the sounds of it.
[Be wary: This was an old highschool poke that went around for months or longer but as a practical joke to see who'd flinch---silly as it may sound.]
2007-12-24 14:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is possible that someone involved in raising him did things to imply violence ..and perhaps on occasion may have been literally violent .. who knows but him. In any case..you say he is your EX so that is ok .. it means you CAN stay away from him. He was showing you he was angry at someone else ... and what he did while he was angry with someone else.. perhaps you could conclude he is angry with you and is showing you what he would like to do to you.
It is OK to avoid him so he cannot do anything to you.
2007-12-24 14:13:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋