Should i contact the other woman my husband has cheated with?

Answer 1

Yes, she may not know he's married. You do not have to be rude or anything, just sort of say, I know that you've been with my husband.

Answer 2

If I was married to you I would go elsewhere too. This is not about you playing girl detective and annoying strangers with your personal private business. This is about you playing childish games and being passive aggressive and not seeing that your problem is you and him, no one else. Go to amazon and buy the marriage books by leman, gottman, and go to a site called marriage builders. And read a book called the divorce remedy by Michele wiener Davis. Why? Because you seem like a nice person who has forgotten her dignity and her place as a woman and a wife, and thinks running around attacking people will make her life better. Your husband doesn't like you because you are not very likable. Get a grip and stop it. If you want to save your marriage then find out why your husband is lonely in his marriage with you. Find out what you aren't or are doing that is driving him away. Here is another book, the proper care and feeding of husbands by dr Laura You asked this question in a way that expects people will agree with you. I am not going to do that, instead I am going to give you tools so you can grow up and see what you are missing that is going on all around you. You have a bad attitude, an aggressive attitude that you are responsible for. Your husband reacted in a classic way that a guy who knows he is caught acts. Now, are you going to try to fix what is missing and try to find a way for both of you to be better with each other? Or are you going to embarrass yourself forever by attacking people? Some say affairs are a symptom of a dying marriage. Google why men cheat, and, how to get your husband back, and you will see there is a lot to learn. You may not like it, but this is your life and you have the power right now to fix it, or destroy it.

Answer 3

There is not enough information regarding your situation in this question to be able to answer your question accordingly.
Does she know your husband is married or not? How do you know he cheated, how did you find out? Did your husband confess? Why did he cheat?
I'd say sit down first and have a heart to heart talk with your husband. Cheating is usually a symptom of deeper issues.
Pointing blame at the other woman is only a minor part of the equation. It takes two to tango and if your husband was dancing, start the conversation with him first.

Answer 4

A lot of other people would probably tell you not to contact her, but if I were you, I would. You can find out things from her about him and about them that you don't know right now. However, you are still going to have to confront your husband about the 2 of them as well.
I"m just wondering if you still love your husband or not? And are there any children involved in your marriage?
Maybe it would be better to just separate for a while and get yourself a good man who will be with you only and not cheat on you. My husband has never cheated on me in all our years of marriage, but my ex cheated on me many times. I know how badly you are feeling about this situation because when you married your husband you both took serious vows to honor one another and he is not holding up to his end of that promise.
Whatever you do, just be careful because you don't know what she is capable of saying or doing to you.
Ultimately, you will have to make the final decision about how to handle this affair.
It's a shame you have to be dealing with a cheating husband on Christmas (Eve).

Answer 5

you must know your husband better than any body else.

if you want to lead a happy married life this relationship with other woman must end !

but how ???

you better interact with your husband .

If you contact the O T H E R W O M A N and find out that she is in continuous relations with your husband ??

If yes are you ready to continue your relations

if yes , contact her

Answer 6

you could, but what's the point. Your problem is with your husband. He is the one that is married and made a choice to be unfaithful. I hope that he has discontinued his affair or any contact with this woman. Just make sure that he is truly sorry for his indescretion, and vows not to do it again. If he does...then you have to walk,,,or else he will continue his bad behavior. I know that you are angry with her, but she may not even care about your feelings. I know, been there done that. Talked till I was blue...she didn't care and obviously he didn't either. Good luck.

Answer 7

Only if you are trying to fight over custody of him with her. Be aware that if you do this you are going to hear things from her that will hurt you terribly. Is it worth it? Is he worth it? Here's another way to look at it. Do you get what you need from hubby? Does his being with the other woman release you from any unpleasant duties? Could you share him without letting him know that you know he's cheating? Remember you have all the legal rights so you have all the assets.

Answer 8

sure i would want to say something no matter witch side of the conversation i'm on.
if i was the wife i would tell the other woman she can have him and keep him.
being the other woman i would probably tell the wife what a fool she is to let her husband go and not give him the attention he needs.

Answer 9

What purpose would that serve, unless you are pretty sure she's not aware she's playing with a married man (if she has scruples, then enlightening her would end their relationship).

I have to wonder why he's still your husband and not your ex or soon-to-be ex. Cheating is pretty much a dealbreaker in my world...

Answer 10

u goddamn right i would. wouldnt u want to know who ur husband---the man u swore to spend the rest of ur life with---cheated with. it would kind of explain what she has that u dont. but i wouldnt do it to fight with her. thats immature. ESPECIALLY if she doesnt know that ur husband was married in the first place. ur husband could have lied to her and said that he wasnt married. that happens a lot. but if she knows, have met u and stuff like that, then she is a dead biatch! hehe not like i would start a cat fight---thats just not like me.
but if she doesnt know about me, i would try to find a way to be able to have a meeting with her. maybe trhough her work or just casually bump into her. then talk to her like i dont know her and ur just being friends. and then sometime in ur conversation, bring it up and just blurt it out: the guy u are seeing is my husband. God would i love to see her reaction! but hey, everyone handles it differently!

Answer 11

there is no need to call her. its you husband you need to call. thats the one who made vows to you not her. what would be your logic for calling her. just ask your husband whats up than leave his butt right there in his pool of lies. you can call her only if your husband is not answering the questions you have, but know that she may not want to talk. but let her know that you are coming to her woman to woman. not girl to girl. GodBless