2007-12-24 13:33:42 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some women are so insecure with themselves that they will put up with almost anything because they can't face being alone. Nor do they have the confidence in themselves to start over. I met an elderly woman once who had an abusive live in male friend from her school days. They were not married. He had tried to physically harm me . I pressed charges, he got arrested and i asked her why she put up with such a man . She said it was better than being alone. Not for me sorry. I wouldn't put up with that. Also some guys are great con artists and could sell a freezer to an eskimo as the saying goes. Some women are so in love with the jerks, they make excuses in their own minds for these guy's actions. Not me!
2007-12-24 14:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by catehokte1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same boat for 40 years. After 5 affairs (maybe more which I do not know) I decided enough is enough. We had a fight and he wants to keep the other woman (a foregn maid) and at the same time come back home for his food and sleep. That was the last straw. Told him either he stay away from women or he has to leave. He decided that he need the other woman more than the family and have since left. I feel more relax now. No more arguing an staying awake wondering if he is with another woman. Let go would be a better choice than to hang on the something that yu know will never work. I am happier and less frustrated. THANK GOD.
2016-04-10 23:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some have chosen to forgive, and if it was just a one time event, it won't happen again. Then we have to take into account what drove him to cheat in the first place. Sometimes the wife has a "strong personality" which translates into domineering, controlling, etc.
Now if it was just a shackup job and one cheated, I'd say run for the hills. But when marriage is involved, which is MUCH more than just living together, that's something that needs to be fixed if at all possible.
Please don't judge women who stay and fix their marriage. Just because you can't do it doesn't mean others can't.
2007-12-24 13:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because:
1) She is afraid to leave,.
2) She can't support herself.
3) She won't have the same lifestyle if she leaves.
4) She will lose all her friends that are their friends.
5) She won't let her win.
6) He won't give her a divorce because he is not going to marry the other woman,
7) She doesn't really care.
8) She is glad he isn't bothering her for sex.
9) She smiles every time she gets ready to go play tennis at the Country Club while the other woman is changing diapers and wondering how she will afford formula.
2007-12-24 13:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany J 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's called love and forgiveness. More people should try it. Some people are honestly sorry when they make a mistake and deserve another chance.
Those of you who say you wouldn't stay with a cheating partner probably haven't been with a cheating partner or truly in love. You cannot say what you would do until it happens to you. So try not to judge others who can forgive and try to go on with the committment they made to their spouse.
2007-12-24 13:42:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
how can a wife stay with someone who is unfaithful to them it is probably because she loves him with all her heart and ont want to let him go. If he has a child with another woman and the wife knows and she can deal with it than good. Theres more to marriage than walking out but facing the facts and moving on.
best of luck
2007-12-24 13:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
...depends on what you look for in a relationship.
Believe it or not, trust is something that may not be a big deal in a realtionship for some people. Sometimes they just need security or to know that that person they married is theirs legally, but couldn't care less about them not being theirs in their soul....
I would be much more angry with someone who had a child with a cheater, as opposed to someone who cheated but used protection. Sometimes it's just about sex, but if someone got pregnant that is a blatant, in your face, I don't care thing to do...Just disrespectful.
2007-12-24 13:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because she likes being cheated on and feeling degraded?! She wants to eventually get a STD?! What other reason could there be? Theres no reason for it. Some women thrive on being mis-treated.
2007-12-24 13:42:57 · answer #8 · answered by beautiful diva 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont really know if i could stay with my husband after having an affair and got someone else pregnet, but, if he just had a one time affair then i might be able to get over it, but not if he got someone pregnet.
but good luck with your choice
2007-12-24 13:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by carriendewayne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Beats the he!! out of me. Seems a lot of people can look the other way or forgive and forget. That's not for me. Love is like stud poker. Once out......always out.
2007-12-24 13:38:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋