I am legally seperated from my husband, but we still live in teh same home he wants a friendship with all the benefits of a marriage. I am not allowing this to happen. I work at a fancy hotel and there is a fellow employee who has struck intrest in me he is not my type at all and I know all he wants is a sexual relationship he seems like that type. He is all wrong for me he drinks, smokes, hairy chest just the complete opposite of my type, but I find him so intresting I can't help to smile when ever he is around we joke and kid all the time the thing is he still in a bad marriage I'm seperated but he still living in the home is it wrong for me to persue this? Or is it just rebond and if so I don't want either one of us getting hurt.
2007-12-24 13:21:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Soon to be ex-hubby tells me to go out on dates with other men he say he wont sign divorce papers cause he is Catholic and it against his religion. I tell him I don't want a relationship I just want to raise my kids and finish school. I told him I have no time for men in my life right now. He told me to date a female that would make me happy. How ugly was that of him.
2007-12-24 13:49:49 · update #1
First of all I would not consider dating until your husband moves out. In some places , seperated spouses living in the same place could end up having sex at some point which will make the seperation no longer legal. If this other guy is in a bad marriage too, he is not seperated so you would be going out with a married man and your husband could use that against you in a divorce settlement. Get him out of the same house as you and then only consider dating single men and don't jump into a relationship for awhile as, yes it could very well be a rebound and sudden loneliness issue. Take the time to learn to live alone and are comfortable with that before you jump into something with another man. Go out have some simple fun, spread your wings alittle, enjoy being single again, take your time then if the right one comes along go for it.
2007-12-24 13:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by catehokte1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you and your husband are seperated, you may want to live in seperate places because it's going to cause problems most likely if you two are living in the same house.
The thing with the other guy may just be a rebound type of issue, but then again, I'm happily married to my total opposite. I have dated guys that were like me, and my husband is the very few that I've dated that were not like me at all. My husband and I have the best time together. Even though a lot of our interests are different, we still can find fun in almost everything. I can honestly say that my husband and I have never had a bad fight or argument. We've been married for 2 1/2 years and have been together for 5 years.We have a 10month old son and we are just a really happy family.
Different is not always a bad thing. :) Opposites attract.
2007-12-24 21:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by Megan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want either getting hurt then don't do it. Nothing good will come of this situation. By the way, what's wrong with a hairy chest? I've got a hairy chest. Most everything else too.
2007-12-24 21:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, I agree with some of your other respondents.... get a divorce, hon, free your self up, and in addition, quit playing a desperate lady, and leading someone on, that you know you really will never have any feelings for. He's desperate too, so this will just end up as two of you rebounding.... a sure failure. If he's a smoker (yukkkooooo ) and enjoys booze, and you don't, he for sure doesn't qualify for your list.
2007-12-24 21:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by ladyren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seperate fully and live in seperate places before I considered doing anything with this guy but thats me. You say that you know hes only after sex. So why are you even considering it then? ..... If you want another dead end relationship, then GO FOR IT!!!!
2007-12-24 21:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by beautiful diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until your divorce(s) is final. That way, if the two of you reconcile (hey, it could happen) then you don't have these extra-marital affairs hanging over your head. Too, that prevents you from becoming involved with a married man because until everything is finalized, you are still married.
2007-12-24 21:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did it for about 2-3 weeks before my ex moved out, cant be done in my opion,
2007-12-24 21:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
UMMMM...try getting a divorce before you start sleeping with other men. and once you do get a divorce, go after men that arent married
2007-12-24 21:25:56 · answer #8 · answered by t4850588 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋