2007-12-24 14:31:49 · 24 answers · asked by nolegirl03 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hire a private investigator. Not really that expensive and they are very thorough. These days there are spy shops where you can also purchase cameras and spyware for the computers. Good luck.
2007-12-24 14:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by TVL 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think unless you know that you are willing and even wanting a reason to let the relationship go, it probably won't change anything no matter what you find out. I played dumb, but have never been dumb. I knew it was going on for 3 weeks, but I needed proof in a court of law, so I acted oblivious. Finally he slipped and I caught him. He never came home to even get his things. We'd been married for 22 years. I continued to collect proof after we separated, credit card bills, cell phone bills, and a sled certified PI report. I walked away from my divorce with 4 (half of the) houses, the new car, and alimony in exchange for not making him sell the business we started and made a success together. Always play smart, not emotional. Plan it, have some money put back. CYA
2007-12-24 23:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by bonnieboobabe 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow there is a lot of manipulation in these answers...
why not just ask him - confront him straight up - demand the truth.
Either way you already think he is cheating, the trust is already gone, cause you're already suspicious of all that he's doing. Maybe instead you can ask him "do you want to make this marriage work?" and then work on - couples counseling, a second honeymoon... something that doesn't require lying and deceit
2007-12-25 09:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is not coming home at night he is cheating. If he is doing things differently than before than figure out why. If he is disrespecting you he is cheating. But if this is bothering you try to stay calm and don't come up with anything unless you have a strong intiution about it. Always be prepared for the worst.
2007-12-24 22:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by special 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't. Clearly, you don't trust him, so the relationship is broken. Instead of trying to prove that he's cheating, you need to have a quiet conversation with him where you explain that you have lost trust in him--give your rational reasons, your fears, your feelings. Then listen to what he says.
Ask him if he'll go to couples counseling with you to help build your marriage back up. If he won't go, go without him.
Best wishes.
2007-12-24 22:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by stoneinthestream 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The second and third answers that you received, I agree with. If you cannot follow him have someone else do it and let you know where he is so that you can walk into where ever he is if he is in public. If he is working late check the parking lot at his work. I might be there at the normal quitting time to see where he goes.
2007-12-25 01:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Same way you catch a cheating wife.
2007-12-24 23:39:30 · answer #7 · answered by Bones 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Check phone/cell record(s). With all affairs, there is almost always a paper trail. Have there been any unexplained bank withdrawals? New clothing or underwear? Better grooming? Unexplained absences?
Install Spector Pro on your computer to see if he's emailing anyone else.
2007-12-25 06:28:17 · answer #8 · answered by Larry F 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Credit card charges. Cell phone calls dialed and received. Hire a private detective.
2007-12-24 22:36:46 · answer #9 · answered by Sober C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
spend the 3k to hire a private investigator. (3 weeks work)
or call the show "Cheaters" and they will do the work for you, but you "pay" by releasing the video. Depends on how much your dignity is worth.
I think the 3k is worth it. You can pull it out of him in the divorce.
2007-12-24 22:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by Xanadu 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋