Who do u love more? ur kids or ur husband/wife? A lot of people tell me u can never love anyone more than u love ur kids no matter who he or she is. Is that true? can u love both ur children and ur husband/wife equally?
2007-12-24 15:25:50 · 24 answers · asked by Ruby 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey there Ruby,
Love in itself has no defination and cannot be measured. You see, the love you feel for anyone is totally different that that you will feel for another, so in other words it cannot be compared.
The love i feel for my husband and my daughter is completely different, i love them both equally and i love each one more than the other but the bottom line is the love them both.
My mum, (who is very wise btw) once told me, i love all my childeren the same, but i love the one that is sick more till they get better and the one that is away more till they return home and i love the young one more till they grow up to be older wiser and stronger. So you see, love can never be described or quantified. WE JUST LOVE and LOVE more and more.
2007-12-25 04:52:43 · answer #1 · answered by Hope 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am happily married with three kids. I love all of them. The love you have for your kids is different than the love that you have for your spouse. If I had to choose in a life and death situation who lived and who died, the kids would live. My husband has said that he would make the same choice.
2007-12-25 00:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your priorities change as your kids get older. My kids are grown now, and I love my husband more than ever. I still love my kids, but they are not here with me day and in a day out.
When my kids were little, as all kids do, they need alot of attention, so you have to divide your time between your kids and your husband and include family time.
I think I've always love my kids and husband equally, and I hope my husband and I have passed that value on to our kids, so as they find their mates, they have as great a marriage as their parents have had.
Happy Holidays!
2007-12-24 23:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by Maris 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love my husband more than anything in the world. HOwever, my son is part of me. THerefore, i love him as much, just in a different way. OUt of all my friends, I am the only one who seems to be happily married. It hasn't always been this way. We have had our ups and downs, but he is my life. My son is my world. In a few years, my son will be in college. I will miss him so, but I look forward to the time that I get to spend with my husband. It could be a lot of fun!!! There are 2 types of love...love for a spouse and love for your child.
2007-12-24 23:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by getta_gotta_good 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That would be really hard to measure. I'm thinking of my one daughter. She loves both her husband and children. There would be no way to say she loves one more than the other. When I was married, I definitely loved my children more and that was a mistake. Too late now.
2007-12-24 23:30:50 · answer #5 · answered by phlada64 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To me it wasn't a matter of who I loved more....I loved them both. To me it's a question of who benefits most from the relationships we forge.
In my opinion, children benefit the most when the see a healthy loving relationship modeled in front of them everyday from their parents. That's why I think it's important for a couple to pay most attention to making sure their relationship is strong. It's an investment in their children's future as well as in their own happiness. Unfortunately, my ex-wife didn't see things that way, but that's water under the bridge for me.
For you, good luck and best wishes for the new year!
2007-12-24 23:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the age of the kids. When my kids where little they could do no wrong as they got older I turned more to my husband. After all the kids grow up and move out and your left with your husband
2007-12-24 23:32:37 · answer #7 · answered by Lynne D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ruby, I'm not married yet with the father of my son but we all live together and love eachother very much. my answer to your question is that for me LOVE is something that never dies. It's either you dont love a person or you do. I love my son equally as I love his father I would give up my life for both of them. It depends I think on what you really feel, but one thing is for sure you may no longer love your husband but you cant give up your child, but you may love them or not love them equally it is up to the person giving that love.
2007-12-24 23:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by cyndy e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my husband differently than I love my children. I love my parents in a different way and my friends in another way. I also love my son differently than I love my daughter. They are all different relationships. I love different people for different reasons. I understand some people more than I do others so I feel closer to them than I do other people.
2007-12-25 01:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by curlies55 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure that this will make any sense, but here goes:
I love my wife and kids equally and totally, but the deeper relationship is with my wife. My kids will eventually move on to start their own families, and then it will be her and me again. We both happily make sacrifices for our kids, but we also make time for the two of us with that goal of having a healthy lifelong relationship in mind.
2007-12-24 23:32:07 · answer #10 · answered by edthespartan 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋