If you decide to wait until you are married before you have sex and then find out that your husband/wife can't satisfy your physical needs,what kind of negative impact would that have on your marraige.
I know that sex shouldn't be the reason for getting married but can you actually go the rest of your life without being satisfied sexually.Would this put a strain on the relationship.
2007-12-24 15:37:22 · 12 answers · asked by upside 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
look. sex is sex, nothing is any different with anyone. The man inserts, grunts a lot, cums to fast, (yes, hes getting pleasure if he cums, so dont tell me hes not- its the male orgasm, its pleasure- deal), the girl lays there and takes her mans bad moves, makes fake sounds, prays for him to stop, and then rolls over and goes to sleep. Sex will put a strain on the relationship...but- the above is a description if you DONT love the woman or man your married to, but if you truly love eachother, than it will be amazing...its more emotional than physical.
2007-12-24 16:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by ~*~Adina Rose's Mommy~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do wait for marriage, part of the adjustment is going to be finding out how to meet each other's needs sexually, that will require compromise on both of your parts. It's the reason so many people do not wait, they want to find out before marriage if they are sexually compatible which in the modern world is an issue. It is important because we don't work as hard as in years past, have more leisure, and view sex as recreation and as something both partners should enjoy (not just the guy).
It is often a huge let down to find the person you married just doesn't desire the same level of intimacy, and if one person resents the situation the marriage will be in trouble.
2007-12-24 15:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a virgin until I got married and so was my then-wife. We were incompatible sexually and it eventually doomed our marriage. We were childhood friends growing up and we still maintain that friendship, but couldn't get past the fact that I liked making love and she thought it was dirty and would find any excuse not to have sex.
There's an old saying that goes like this: In a marriage if the sex is good, it's 10% of the relationship. If the sex is bad, it's 90% of the relationship. It's really true. A bad sex life is a bad marriage. My advice is, take a test drive before you buy. Your religion might not approve, but you'll potentially be saving yourself a lot of heartache in the end.
2007-12-24 15:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
People who tell you that you need to have sex before being married, just to see if you can satisfy one another, are full of malarkey.
I've never heard of any of my friends/family who waited until marriage say that they wish they hadn't. Lots of them wish they had.
2007-12-24 17:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by Lee K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two truly care about each other, you will be compatible. Too many men "test drive" a woman, promising her marriage, then decide they want to test drive a whole lot of other women and leave the one who they made this fake promise to. I say wait. If you really love each other, you will learn to satisfy each other.
2007-12-24 15:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by Sassie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it is a great thing to wait until marriage. i think over time you all will get into a rhythm where you will know what pleases each other. you'll be alright.
had to edit after i saw what the guy above me said. make sure you talk to your fiancee about your expectations regarding sex and other important things before you get married!!!!!!
2007-12-24 15:44:42 · answer #6 · answered by OhSoFly! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you wait till you're married ..the waiting might bring you even closer to whoever you're going to marry.. which will give you more passion & you will be more in love.
and then when you finally do it..FIREWORKS! and if you loved them enough then it wouldn't matter cos you'd both work at it ;)
2007-12-24 15:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him what you like,how you like it and what to do. It really isn't that hard and if he loves you he will want to do those things to satisfy you. You should do the same as well.
2007-12-24 15:42:25 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think sex is something that can become better with practice and communication. I agree with waiting.
2007-12-24 15:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sample the goods before getting married pal couldnt hurt...
2007-12-24 15:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋