Marriage & Divorce - 20 November 2007

My marriage seems completely crazy anymore. Everyone in my family (especially my mom who lived w/ us for 3 mths. & witnessed my marriage 1sthand) says I need to LEAVE. Meanwhile, all my husband's friends & family think that I don't contribute at all to the marriage. I guess that's b/c for the past mth., I've refused to pay household bills (leaving them for him to handle) & opted to pay off some of our debts instead so we can move forward one day (ie - buying a house, having a family, etc.) and I guess he's told them I'm leaving it all to him to handle. Furthermore, this guy isn't even allowed a DL until after he has a hearing - which they won't give him until the year 2010 b/c he has 14 "failure to appears" and 5 "driving while license revoked" in 3 different counties. Stuck as a taxi, I'm ready to call it quits (especially since all it seems he does n-e more is belittle me). But his family says this is the time I really need to step up to the plate. I'm just at a loss of what to do.

2007-11-20 01:50:08 · 21 answers · asked by fragglerockqueen 5

I let him to make his own decission...eventhough it's really make me down, I love him so much but his ex has his children to win the competition.

2007-11-20 01:38:58 · 12 answers · asked by samaara 1

I'm Kinda of Mad At My BOYFRIEND. How long should I wait to call him?
He was been pulling back lately. there is another woman involved(his wife). I'm trying to get him away from her. I'm going to let her mess up other than pressuring him. I need to some advice on being the perfect mistress for now. I mess up before by demanding too much time. I got it but the kids started school. I just need to know what makes the perfect mistress?

2007-11-20 01:36:52 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous

recently i discovered that my bf really has NO FREAKIN...CLUE.. why i am so angry...HE made a commitment and said he was gonna give a hundred percent in the relationship, lied about a kid he had from another relationship8 yrs ago- i been 4 as friends- then after i call him on his BS he says.."oh i got to pay a storage bill, i got other things to worry about..my kid with the other ***** is not important and i can't help you with bills" he makes no apologies for letting me down and his crap...after i asked him 8 months ago,"are you sure this is what you want and a commitment ot me is a very big thing!" i can't help now feeling so pissed off and resentful and i just want him to dissapear. it wouldn't be so bad if i didn't have my sisters kid here who is 2 - who does like him but never calls him Dad though. i just hate that when a man says one thing then acts like he can't be bothered to follow through!! and he always has to ask his Mom for permission.. your 29 yrs old, makes 100$ a week..

2007-11-20 01:29:01 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Stay for the kids if the relationship is over or the love is gone?

2007-11-20 01:27:05 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband works away from home during the week and sometimes on saturday our marriage is very strong we are still very passionate and we both are still very in love with one other but it hurts our family for him to be away I very seldom sleep and i'm always thinking of him and our 4 year old daughter is always acting out and I feel like its because she wants her daddy she wakes up in the middle of the night crying for him and always thinks that he is never coming back and we are constantly having to explain that daddy will always come back home to us but will this affect her permantly .......and then he makes very good money and i dont want him to lose his job because of our selfishness but then again money isn't everything and I rather have him home with me every night than to be weathly please some one help me I can't bare another night alone I miss the missing piece from our family! PLEASE Help me!!!

2007-11-20 01:26:00 · 17 answers · asked by cute_libra45 1

Basically things went horrible between us. I was married before her and really understand what i did wrong in that marriage and what my 1st wife did wrong. we were both at fault. second marriage my wife had so many trust and insecurity issues from childhood that she was a mess. Last fight before she left was horrible. she left and i didn't care at the time. lawyers involved. the whole 9 yards. now that its been 6 months i forgive her for what she's done. i know we can't be together but i need closure. I need to tell her that I'll always love her but we can't be together. everybody says not to do it but i do need some closure. i don't want to get back together with her but i want to do this. is it a bad idea? we haven't spoken in a long time and have said some nasty things about each other in legal documents. what do you think?

2007-11-20 01:25:03 · 17 answers · asked by survivor 1

Let me start by saying this is my wifes first real friend in a long long time (3 plus years). We had problems lately and she turned to this friend, another girl. Anyway, since we got back together it still seems that she wants to hang out with this friend all the time. This friend went home for a week, and the very day that she gets back my wife and her are hanging out. Thats fine, but im afraid she will continue to want to hang out with this friend a lot. This friend's in a relationship too, but not in same spot as me and my wife. We have a house and a family. If i let her choose she would want to see this friend everyday, but with jobs and such this isnt possible. I still believe that she thinks it would be ok to most likely see this friend every other day. some weeks, it would be 3 days a week, others 4 days a week. My question is when do i step in and say this is too much, we have a family, and you need to be home more, more attention to us. What is excessive, too much, opinions?

2007-11-20 01:17:55 · 5 answers · asked by supremyecy 1

My boyfriend and I met online almost two years ago through a chat room. We've gotten very serious in the past year and are living together. I've recently caught him chatting in far away state rooms, pretending to be someone else (black, tall, sexy, with a big d*ck) while he's not black or tall. He's sending these women fake pics and asking for their naked pics in return. When I busted him he said it's because he wants the pics and he uses the far away rooms because there's no chance of him hookin up with a chick that's far away. After that it escalated to text messaging with one girl and the **** hit the fan. He said he'd stop, well guess what....he didn't. He's just doing other forms of it. Dirty myspace surveys sent PRIVATELY and he still occasionally chats. I love him and I know 100% he's not physically cheating on me, but I can't seem to accept the fact that he's even talking dirty to these other women. It makes me feel worthless, useless, unattractive, unneeded. NEone?

2007-11-20 01:11:08 · 18 answers · asked by psuns 3

I filed for divorce last week. Last night I was out with a friend and my husband totaled our one and only car in a car accident. The car was in his name and his dad cosigned. I am only on the insurance though my husband doesn't worked I have made all the payments on the car. Anyways now I have no car. My question is can I get a new car in my name now that the papers have been filed for divorce or should i just bum rides from people till the divorce is final? I can afford a new car I mean I paid everything for the car it just wasn't in my name.

2007-11-20 01:08:45 · 15 answers · asked by hleichtnam 2

Like thats gonna make me love or like my husband? Besides to me marriage is just an ancient ritual thats mostly just a piece of paper that enslaves women to be a mans property.

2007-11-20 01:07:03 · 20 answers · asked by Death Girl Am 6

My husband and I have been married 7 1/2 yrs. She has done things and said things to me and is trying to come between us and he allows it. He won't listen to me or believe anything negative I say about her. In his eyes she can do no wrong. He doesn't treat me with respect or even caring. He says he loves me, but disses me all the time where she's concerned. We are christians and I've showed him some bible verses about how husbands should love their wives and put them first. He even argues with God's word. I bellieve he is a sociopath because he cannot see that he is doing wrong by me and has no conscience and is unable to care about the pain he is causing me. I believe in the wedding vows but I don't know how long I can live with the pain he is causing me. I would never try to come between him and his daughter but he is letting her come between us. He has another daughter that he has disowned for a stupid reason. He turns love on and off like a light switch. Advice please.

2007-11-20 00:59:52 · 17 answers · asked by kbear 2

My husband has a 36 year old stepdaughter from a previous marriage. She comes by our house on the weekends. When he's there, she looks and talks directly to him treating me as if I'm invisible. When I'm there alone, she walks in, goes through our cabinets helping herself to snacks without asking. She drops her children over for me to babysit without asking. The last time she did this, her son stole 5 of my son's video games. I sent her an email asking her to check with her son to see if he knew anything about the missing games. He admitted to taking one. When I told my husband I wanted his grandson banded from the house until he return the others games, my husband had a fit! We got into a hugh argument which he carried to his stepdaughter over the phone. She then wrote me an email cursing me out. I showed him the email and asked what he plans to do about the way she speaks to me, he said, "She's a grown woman, she can say whatever she wants."

2007-11-20 00:45:45 · 39 answers · asked by LS 1

I love my husband but lately he's been driving me crazy. I'm 3 months pregnant and he's never home. He works full time and is an assistant football coach at the high school where I work. He goes there after work so he gets home around 8 or so right when I'm ready to call it a night. Then on the weekends he still wants to go out with his friends and I have put the breaks on that but it aggravates him so then he gets mad w/ me that I want him to stay in and we have a horrible time. At first he was really excited about the baby but now I feel so alone and I am craving for attention. Is this just hormonal? He thinks I overreact but I just want him around and for US to do things... This is more of a venting session but any advice of how to POSITIVELY handle this would be great! :)

2007-11-20 00:41:16 · 17 answers · asked by *~Cam's Mommy ~* 4

9 years of partner
12 years of spouse
with partner he always bring his 12 inch ruler and but it between them as a barrier because he didnt want to cheat on his spouse
He met partner for eight years and never got caught
Ninth year new partner the wife knew
He says he did not commit adultry. She says he did
He says he always had his ruler wirth hi 12 inches apart never closer in all the yeaars of rhthmic sensual action
He told wife that if they were six inches apart they may have touched due to the nature of being a man but at 12 inches he never ever reached her though they had passionate action without ever touching
He made a point that they were always fully clothed eventhough she often wore tight pants and mini skirts. They discussed the wifes inability to meet his husband needParner wanted to get rid of the ruler He never did eventhough upon leaving he was mentally tortturedsensually for never touching
he worked, paid bills did husband sensual act ,Spouse socialized often

2007-11-20 00:41:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

he said that we should be together at that time we had different rooms from our spouses and that we wanted love and desire in a relationship should i believe him after two years that he still loves me and wants me if he doesn't get a divorce

2007-11-20 00:39:16 · 23 answers · asked by sue w 1

I have been out of work for 10 months now. My husband think I do not want to work. In the last 10 months I have had 4 different jobs. Now our marriage is taking a turn for the worst. We do not talk, sleep, eat, or do anything else. I feel really bad about my job situation, but I do not know what to do. Also this is also taking an effect on our two kids. Christmas is also here.

2007-11-20 00:36:44 · 20 answers · asked by sanna 1

My husband is in the military. We live in Florida. My family lives in Ohio. His family [except his father who lives in Florida also] lives in New Mexico. We just got back from a most needed trip to visit his family in NM.

Anyway, we are in debt now. We've never been in debt. It isn't a whole lot but it's much more than I'd like to be in. [$1,000] There were issues this year with our Thanksgiving plans. [See link below.] Now, we're having issues with our Christmas plans!

My FIL made plans with his 'new' family before he was divorced to go to NM to ski. Now that he's divorced my SIL will only be able to go. DH has decided [and told his family] we will also be attending this ski trip.

I have many issues with this. Leaving the fact that I truly dislike my FIL and I haven’t’ visited any of my family in over a year--we are in debt. Between this Thanksgiving trip, Christmas presents, and so much more we are just going to drowned ourselves not to add this new trip. We have just got back from NM. I’m just going crazy over all these road trips.

So, what is the best way to approach this situation with my husband? I don’t want to nag and accuse him of not being thoughtful but I don’t want to just give in, again. I want him to understand that while I don’t mind spending time with his family I really enjoy having the holidays just us. He’s been deployed through many and I just want some holiday we can spend alone. Thanks for your advice on my situation!

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Atd.XYyuGNMhZYY5.ymSQansy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071117112050AATOcNR

2007-11-20 00:35:48 · 8 answers · asked by .vato. 6

What is wrong with all you people out there that cheat and then post questions like "Should I end the affair or stay with my boyfriend/girlfriend?" Or "I'm in love with the person I'm having an affair with. Should I tell my spouse?" Has society become that degenerated that nobody stays faithful anymore?! What the hell is wrong with people?!

2007-11-20 00:32:09 · 17 answers · asked by Kathy R 5

well im out the door ,things are not going to work.in one breath she says i dont have to leave,then says she is going to rent out a room downstairs.this is all said within a few days.was it planned .i dont know nor care but do you think its some sort of tactic,head game.shes even stated how much it costs for a background check for any person who might rent it.the house is a fixer upper and the room she wants to rent out is trashed.there is no way any normal person would even rent it for any price.unless its someone she knows ,maybe or some freak.have you been here?what do you think?

2007-11-20 00:30:19 · 3 answers · asked by mr. y 5

for Thanksgiving.
I know I get a great meal at my wifes in laws but I'll get a great piece of breast and thigh at my new honey's place.

Maybe I can eat a big meal with the wife then start a fake fight and head over to my mistress and have her for dessert.

Hmmmm
decisions I do have.

2007-11-20 00:22:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

he says he cares about her and doesn't want to see her hurt. and that he wants and loves our life together should i be ok if he takes her to dinner for her birthday

2007-11-20 00:20:58 · 17 answers · asked by sue w 1

2007-11-20 00:17:17 · 26 answers · asked by Little Angel 1

We don't even share the same bed room and have not for the last three years. I told her I want a divorce and she says, why? I have connected with someone else. Do I tell her I have found someone else?

2007-11-20 00:14:01 · 14 answers · asked by WileECoyote8 1

My wife and I have been having problems, there are no affairs or weird stuff, we just fight. I really wanted it to work out, we separated about 2 months ago, and she is in counseling, I asked her about US going, and she explained to me that she wanted to work on her before our relationship. Well that has now taken its toll on me, because she is more self centered now and meaner. I feel bad because we have 3 children together, I grew up in a solid family, and wanted the same for myself and children, but I can't tolerate any longer her moods, and attitude towards our relationship. She puts herself first, and I believe always will. I am only responsible for my actions, from her forth, I am at the end of my chain and I really need some advice on what avenues I should consider or take.

2007-11-20 00:13:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

gifts you a dress ( on your wedding anniversary) of your favourite brand ... a brand which you always told your ex ... you loved and wanted to go to buy with) your ex is now beeen married for almost a year and has new born baby too.

2007-11-20 00:13:28 · 8 answers · asked by barley 2

Congratulations to Her Majesty for 60 years marriage. My parents are 50 years married in May next year. Divorce is 'too simple' now... the younger generations seem to treat marriage with distain. They tie-the-knot , then seperate very soon after. The commitment just isn't there for whatever reasons.

2007-11-20 00:03:21 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous