I'm Kinda of Mad At My BOYFRIEND. How long should I wait to call him?
He was been pulling back lately. there is another woman involved(his wife). I'm trying to get him away from her. I'm going to let her mess up other than pressuring him. I need to some advice on being the perfect mistress for now. I mess up before by demanding too much time. I got it but the kids started school. I just need to know what makes the perfect mistress?
2007-11-20 01:36:52 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How to be the perfect mistress?
2007-11-20 01:51:08 · update #1
How to be the perfect mistress?
2007-11-20 02:06:16 · update #2
The perfect mistress (who does not really exist except in the minds of us foolish men) is the following:
1. Always available when he wants her.
2. Never talks about marriage.
3. Is always inventive and creative when it comes to bedroom athletics.
4. Is entirely self-supporting.
5. Keeps herself slim, smelling sweet and has eyes only for him.
6. Has no bad habits such as smoking and complaining,.
7. Says nothing when he forgets important dates like her birthday.
8. Accepts that he's not going to leave his wife for her.
9. Takes the necessary steps to avoid pregnancy.
10. Lies like a bi(t)ch about how handsome and clever and manly he is.
2007-11-20 01:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 4⤋
Haha, alright, I'll tell you how to be the perfect mistress. Expect nothing. Realize that you will always get the dregs of his time after work, wife, kids, other family, and friends. Never demand to meet any of his friends or coworkers, because he will be ashamed of you. Stay on your back all the time, since that is all he really wants. Swallow, go for anal, do every little humiliating thing in bed you can think of, odds are he is only using you for thrills. May as well give them to him. Don't let him spend any money on you; he already has responsibilities. Accept the fact that he isn't going to leave his wife for you. They hardly ever leave their wives, and most the time when they do, they also leave their mistresses. It's funny really, when you think about it. Realize that even if he does come to you, he will have another mistress soon enough. Check your pride and self-respect at the door because you'll never have his. Good luck!!
2016-05-24 07:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never be the perfect mistress!! Being a mistress does not inherit perfection ever! Of course he is pulling back. Any man that messes around on his wife is 9 times out of 10 going to pull back. he has used you, abused you, and reused you. Now, you are all used up and he is ready to stay with his Misses, not mistress. I mean, honey you asked the question, now take a good hard look at all the negative feed back you are receiving. This tells you a story in it's self. The positive feed back is few and far in between. You need to spend your holidays with a single man and let this man spend his life with his wife, and children if he has any. it is you that has messed up your own life. Let him go and never turn back. He would have eventually messed around on you too. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Now leave the married men alone.
2007-11-20 02:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The perfect mistress is ? Did you really say that ?
That just goes to show that he has fed you a tall tale about how his wife dosen't understand him.
The truth is that he dosen't understand his wife.
She is the one who's washing his dirty laundry and keeping his house clean and doing a million special things for him because he's her man and she loves him.
The woman who has a man of her own and keeps the homefires burning by fulfilling his needs.
Sometimes she is tired and refuses him, she hopes he understands but most times he gets upset if she says no.
But she has spoiled him and he takes her for granted and the dog in him dosen't want to be rejected.
That's where you come in !!!
You're always fresh as a daisy and smelling good and wouldn't dare disagree with this wonderful man.
You're a good listener and he tells his tale so well and belittles his wife because this is what keeps you interested.
You think that being his wife will make you happy???
Bless your heart you need to get educated about men like that. He's making a fool out of both of you and his children.
Everything he says and does is in the interest of his own selfish wants and desires.
You will pay a heavy price when he's ready to move on because maybe his eye has caught a glimpse of something new.
Do yourself a favor and call it off before he does. If he is pulling back, that's a great big clue.
If you take a good look at the situation and see him for WHAT he really is I don't know how you can stand him no matter how charming he may be.
2007-11-20 03:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by Dinabill 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure this answer to be perfect mistress or being perfect at anything. If truly care about him they way you sound, I would just back off little for yourself and the relationship. Let him be man make a choice what he wants, just be friend to him in this situation, really take a look the situation. As him how feels about you and his marriage to his wife, he needs make a decision. Don't pressure him either, give him space to breathe. I hope things turn out well, no matter what happens. Good luck to you.
2007-11-20 02:35:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing "perfect" about a mistress aka sllut. You're typical. A mistress only cares about themselves, about what makes them happy. Because if you truly cared about this man, you'd leave him alone. You'll realize he's the one with everything to lose - not you. All you'll have is a broken heart. He'll have that PLUS a broken family, broken wallet, and the emotional stress that comes with it. Besides, all he's doing is using you anyway. That's why when you start "pressuring him" he pull away from you. He doesn't want a real relationship with you. You just make him forget about his problems at home with the one he really loves.
He's pathetic. And so are you to ask such a stupid, ignorant question.
2007-11-20 02:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by gatsgrl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's been pulling back for a reason. Maybe guilt has finally set in, have you been pressuring him any? Are you happy with the situation your in with him? Are you happy being the one who only fills his sexual desires and being an ear to listen to how much his home-life sucks hence the reason you're around?
This man has a wife and children, he solemnly swore before God to stand by that woman until death due them part. Do you think that if you marry him he'll stand by you? There are going to be major trust issues if the both of you decide to be together should he ever leave his wife (which I doubt if he hasn't yet).
My advice, let him go and if his marriage is so bad, it'll break up on it's on and then you can be together. But in my opinion, he'll find someone else who will satisfy his need.
Good luck.
2007-11-20 02:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your not serious are you ? I don't think the majority of women seek out to take someones Husband away from them. I think two lonely unhappy people find each other and have their needs filled by that other person. If he has children, especially young ones, don't rock the boat. He's NOT ready to part without his children. If you truly care about him, you wouldn't want to take him away from his kids would you ? If the marriage fails, don't let it be because of you. Let him make that choice and if he stays with someone just for the kids, down the road their marriage will end in Divorce unless his needs change. You can't wait around and let your life drindle away waiting for him. It could be YEARS girlfriend !I'm sure you really LOVE him and if you do , you'll have to let him go but be prepared to hurt inside for a long time BUT time will heal eventually but you'll never forget him. That's a self sacrificing LOVE and telling him "Goodbye" will let you lknow what choice he will make cause if your phone don't ring several weeks after you let him go then you'll know he's not coming back and his choice to stay is his choice. Am I making sense ? I talk from experience and it was a hard thing to do . Some people on her can be so cruel. Until they have been in the same situation don't throw stones. Even Jesus didn't do that !
2007-11-20 01:51:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
What's the Self-Righteous Preaching & Pontification meter running at here - about 9,000% off the scale?
AS IF *any* of you people have room to judge. You cheat on your taxes, have your own affairs, steal from your companies, lie to your spouses about everything from where you've been (*some*one is going to those porn video booths) to whether or not you had an orgasm to you have a headache, you covet other people's riches and women, you are gluttons (1/3rd of America is 50 pounds overweight or more), you lust after others, you disrespect your parents -- and then when some troll hits the water with fresh chum you puff out your chests and act all high and mighty. What a hoot!
Call it the "Jimmy Swaggart Syndrome" or the "Jim Bakker Syndrome" or the "Preacher with the Gay Prostitute Syndrome" or the "BIll O'Reilly Dildo Up His Butt Syndrome" or the "Rush Limbaugh Hillbilly Heroin Syndrome" but we all know from experience -- the louder you scream at the sins of others, the more sins of your own you are covering up.
Plus you *know* this is a troll, people. Man, but it is fun watching you all fight and claw past one another to tell someone how quickly they're going to hell.
2007-11-20 02:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The perfect mistress, does not exist. Truth be told. You are a non-existent entity, how can that be perfect? There is that remote chance, he would leave the betrothed, but if he did.....what, you and he would have... is an unholy union, never to be blessed, never to be clean and pure...Baby girl, cut and run, now...."they lived happily ever after", does exist but not here......not here
2007-11-20 03:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by deborah l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being the perfect mistress is to be able to share your man with his wife without complaining. It is knowing that important holidays he will be with his wife and children, while you will be alone, waiting for his call. It is to be satisfied with being second best to his wife and children. It means you have to accept the fact that he will be ashamed for his family of origin to be introduced to you. It is to accept no trust in the relationship and not complain or question. It is to set yourself up for pain, disappointments, broken promises, and heartache and still be able to smile. Most men love when they have a mistress that will allow him to have his way with her and she does not interfere with what is important to him and that is his wife and children. As you can see, it would be most difficult for any man to hold his mistress in high regard as far as morals and dignity and self respect, but oh they are high up there in the sex category. Congrats!
2007-11-20 02:01:50 · answer #11 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋