Marriage & Divorce - 20 November 2007

Marriage Myth 8: Married people have less satisfying sex lives, and less sex, than single people.

2007-11-20 17:20:29 · 19 answers · asked by ♥Kimchi♥ 4

My husband and I have an 11 month old daughter. When I got pregnant he dragged me to live with his mother eight hours away from the only place I've ever lived. He allows his mother to treat me like complete crap. I became very depressed after the birth of my daughter but started a full time job in April and that has really helped. He has not worked or been enrolled in college for over two months now; he is waiting to leave for basic in Jan. I work a forty hour week, do all the house chores (asking him to do anything is such a big deal I may as well do it myself) and breastfeed my baby. I know he neglects her when I am at work (as in not spending any time with her) so he can play video games for over eight hours a day. Even when he worked/went to school he only worked 20 hours a week or was failing classes. He treats me like a maid or just some woman he lives with. I don't even get a 'thank you' for being f-cking wonder woman. He gets defensive when I try to talk to him.. help?

2007-11-20 17:13:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

we have been together for 10 years and we seperated for a year we got back together this last Dec. and he had never slept with anyone before me now, he has slept with 3 other people and our sex life sucks! why is that? Am I not good enough or is he just too comfortable with me and donesnt feel like he has to prove himself?

2007-11-20 16:53:10 · 7 answers · asked by Stephanie B 1

I've been married for three years. My wife and I separated in July and I am trying to get some new ideas for coping with some things that continue to bother me - for example

I discovered after getting married that my wife is used to having her family act as a "safety net" when she gets in financial hot water...so i'd routinely "find" unpaid bills or nsf notices, etc

My 14 year old (from another relationship) moved in with me after I got married... she doesn't care how her actions affect others in the household, UNTIL she's in trouble (like running my cell phone bill up over $500, or getting caught stealing)

My wife has problems setting and maintaining boundaries with her daughter - sometimes toeing the line with neglect.

I've not been able to keep my cool with some of the things they do. Counseling hasn't helped. I'd like for my family to be a source of pride for me, but they alway seem to be wrecking my peace of mind, and I wonder if they give a sh--.

Am I expecting too much?

2007-11-20 16:46:48 · 11 answers · asked by Shell Answer Man 5

haven,t seen any yet with a slow build up what slow filth but i do watch

2007-11-20 16:42:55 · 16 answers · asked by becca 2

Lets see ..
I am married, had a previous break up. We don't stay together because of my job. I don't love him, its not a complete love marriage. I feel it was a mistake. I don't think I am a bad person, it is just I want to be with my soulmate. Now why I married, because of family pressure, even himself was pushing me here. But at the end I was the person who thought this could be best for me. But now, I dont feel even a lil spark, what a unlucky person. Months before my marriage, my ex cheated on after being with me for 3 years. Now he cries that I was his soulmate. But I dont trust him anymore. I used to pray for him every day. I lost the faith also..
What shd I do in my life?? Serious advice needed..

2007-11-20 16:41:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-20 16:40:32 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

a married freind told me he have some feeling toward me, and since then i ignored him and did my best make him realize that i don't have anything for him and i don't accept this at all. but the problem now that frankly speaking i am thinking about him a lot , and the last thing i need now is that i just broke up with my boyfriend 2 month ago and i was really really hurt , i don't need any other pain so what to do

2007-11-20 16:39:56 · 26 answers · asked by DIDO 1

There's so much pain inside of me and I need an outlet ftor my misery. What do you suggest?

2007-11-20 16:39:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I found messages back and forth from her and my husband. They weren't actually sexual or anything, but they were definitely flirting. I have already confronted my husband about it, and I want to say something to this women about leaving my husband alone. What advice do you have on what I should do or say to this woman and my husband?? Thanks for the help!

2007-11-20 16:35:04 · 16 answers · asked by Brown_Eyed_Girl 4

divorced?

2007-11-20 16:33:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Being in the middle of a custody "battle" i am find myself torn in the decision i should make.First i will say that main reason i was attracted to my ex is because he is such a great father, admitting that bring me to this.
We share a son who will be three soon.We both love him dearly and we both want what is best for him.However right now our opinions vary on what is in his best interest.
He says we should shuffle him back and forth,i say no,as i have worked my *** off at establishing a routine for him,as far as taking him to daycare,bedtimes,eating habits etc.I say he should stay with me most of the time as his fathers career his extremely demanding and i know that i will be picking up his slack the majority of the time,and why should i continue to live my life around his.
I want what is best for our son but i am not sure if he is just wanting the equal time to avoid paying child support.He says no but me my child have been struggling money wise to pay basic bils and i need the$

2007-11-20 16:29:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I cant bare it anymore im only 19 and dont want this anymore. Whats the best thing for me to do.

2007-11-20 16:27:56 · 25 answers · asked by The girl next door 2

I was really felt like I didn't mean much to him. I'd do things for him, and get lackluster responses, and whenever I was upset about something, and I spoke to him about it, he always claimed it to be such bad timing, or he'd be silent for a few minutes and say he'd call me back. Apparently, he had better things to do than hear my feelings about our relationship or my grandmother's death (yes, my grandma's death). He nickeled and dimed me through our 2nd anniversary, after I got him a digital camera but he didn't get me anything on our first because he got laid off. I first met his parents after 3 years in our relationship. And when I found out that he was lying about not knowing how to cook so he wouldn't have to do anything special for me in return, it was the straw that broke the camel's back. I said I wanted to leave. I went to Europe for 3 months to clear my mind. Now he's changed. He's making an effort. He asked me to move in with him a month after I got back.

Is it too late?

2007-11-20 16:21:11 · 11 answers · asked by Angelisurifrie 1

That who on yahoo answers think that marriage life is just like living in a hell?? I think it is? Thank for your answers!! Please don't get offended by my question , people who are happily married...

2007-11-20 16:13:03 · 12 answers · asked by anamika s 3

spend one day with the love of your life and /she dies
or life a lifetime with a close friend...no chemistry though.?

2007-11-20 16:06:56 · 12 answers · asked by Mit 2

Last weekend my husband stayed out til 3am at the local VFW type club that he goes too and after a long night of drinking decided that he'd say yes to giving the bartender a ride home. He's been getting to the point lately where he won't miss a Friday night of going out, no matter how tired he is. He's never asked me once to go there (mainly because we have a 2 yr old who I have to stay home with if he's going out (but it doesn't mean we can't find a sitter) to hang out with him but I've also never asked if I could go either. Lately he's been staying later than normal too. And won't answer his phone, he'll say he didn't hear it or something. Last weekend I surprisingly showed up there to find him leaving at the same time I was pulling up and the bartender was in his car. He told me later that he was asked if he could give her a ride home because her ride had left and he said ok. Should I be concerned? He never given me any reason in the past to not trust him. Am I overreacting?

2007-11-20 15:46:21 · 15 answers · asked by mama158432 2

Ok, it starts like this my husband comes home from working a 12 hour shift .Goes to bed, then when he gets up he don't seem horney or anything like that. Until about 20 or 30 min before going in to work he starts getting a heart on. Now here I am thinking why you get one on right before work why not when you are at home, it seems alittle weird to me and I'm the wife, I feel like if he's horney he should want to have sex where he will not have a big thing standing up when he goes to work. I'M CONFUSED ABOUT THIS CRAP....

2007-11-20 15:45:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-20 15:44:56 · 25 answers · asked by kiwiwaz 1

If you have been married for 15 years and your husband never remembers the wedding anniversary or aknowledgies it at all what would you advice?

2007-11-20 15:42:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

4 years ago I met this guy in college. He adored me a lot; however, he scared to talk to me because I always acted like I don't care. We are also from different cultures. We secretly loved each other for 2 years. Before I graduated I told him that I am leaving. He looked very upset, but he told me good luck.

I moved to different states. I missed him everyday. I searched for him. I found his website. He wrote poetries about us. He claimed--he loves me. He does not know where I was or what to do, but he will wait for me. I contacted him. He was very happy. I was not ready for a relationship; therefore, I turned him down. He was hurted. Although, we kept in touch as friends for over 2 years. He wrote 22 poems about us. He has been supportive and respected my goals. He has never bother me about anything. On the other hand, I kept push him away and made him upset. He mad at me for 3 months. Luckily,he talked to me now. He said, he wants to be friends as always.

What do you think

2007-11-20 15:42:34 · 12 answers · asked by Hope 4

if your medically challenged spouse gave permission?

2007-11-20 15:42:04 · 20 answers · asked by Jyssi Leeann 2

i m 22 years old and i love a girl frm last 1 year now we want to marry and our love is known to her parents and they took her to their villege now she wants to come to me but her parents kept her under vision in her room she cant run from there can anybody help me to take legal action against her parents cause she is 19 years old and they are forcibly marryng her there she refused so many proposals but now her dad is doing her marriage in court as he gave bribe to all people regarding this please help me for this any legal advice !!! she tride to go to police but they r with her dad as he gave bribe to them also..i dont know wht to do?????please help....

2007-11-20 15:41:55 · 9 answers · asked by sameer 2

I'm married to a great guy that I love with all my heart.
My first true love (6 years ago and not sexual type of first love) is a unreturned love but we remained very close friends throughout the years. I was never able to completely get over him I haven't talked to him in months nor have I thought much about him.
but....I had a dream last night that I was at the mall with some people and he showed up and gave me a shy smile and hugged me. We talked a little about how I ended up feeling as I did about him. Then, he wrapped his arms around my waist and hugged me sweetly and didn't let go. We stayed like that with my arms around his neck for a while. I felt safe and warm and loved. He said "People will see us" referring to my friends and I just told him I didn't care and we held each other in this safe, warm embrace a while longer and then I woke up...

All day I was smiling and I felt as if everything would be ok (not that anything was actually wrong to begin with)

Interpretations?

2007-11-20 15:38:38 · 8 answers · asked by myl0vely 1

2007-11-20 15:38:15 · 12 answers · asked by Ghiacy 3

After months of horrible, untrue allegations in a custody battle, my ex filed an emergency restraining order for me AGAINST my own children. The courts granted it!! I have not yet been allowed to present one shred of evidence to the judge... I'm terrified for my kids, as he doesn't even know the basics of child-rearing. After tomorrow, I have no idea when I'll be able to see or talk to them again. My lawyer is no help.....she hardly returns calls, completely unorganized, etc...My $5000 retainer has run out, I have no money left to hire new counsel. I can't believe this is happening! What kind of world do we live in when a man can leave his wife and children for another woman, legally assault and harrass his ex through the courts, and take the children when he's had no interest in them other than the past year? They are 7,5,and 3, I have been a stay at home mom since the day they were born. I was granted physical custody of them thru the divorce, he has weekends. What can I do?

2007-11-20 15:31:34 · 8 answers · asked by MegJessEm 1

He constantly says things like "it's MY money" and "well I will just take you off of MY account" and "it's MY name on the pay check, you dont work for the money." and when I go out and spend, any amount at all really that isnt for bills or groceries he gets upset, yet every time I look at the bank account info I find yet ANOTHER stupid purchase. THe latest was an E book on how to gain muscle mass for 47 bucks! WHY is it that I cannot buy myself a winter coat that i really really NEED ( becase according to him "we really cant afford it" )and he can buy that? How do I get him to share fairly? I am trying to find a job yself but with a 2 year old and a 3 week old child care is just more expensive than we can really afford, even with me working.

2007-11-20 15:30:34 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am married for 1 year.. Mine is love marriage.. I had a nice time till 2 months.. Problems have started frm then.. My husband has started spying me and started behaving in a weird manner. He says he is always busy with work and does not have time for me... I have spent only 5 months with my hubby coz he is always busy in business trips and leaves me in my mom's place.. Now he is abroad and he has left me in India.. Now he says he wants to get seprated from me and does not want to see my face also. I am really worrired.. he has not sent a visa also for me.. I am so depressed and dont know where to go.. He does not call or mail me also.. If I drop a mail he wil reply..If not no news from him.. He has changed his number.. He has not informed my parents also regarding this.. I called his parents, but they are also shoutin at me.. Really depressed... Need good help

2007-11-20 15:28:48 · 30 answers · asked by Sweety 1

i know there a lot of shelters for battered women but what about men? if guy is battered and has no friends or family to turn to where can he find one?

2007-11-20 15:27:27 · 11 answers · asked by Peter P 1

I am so proud to be my husband's wife! He is such a good person that it makes me proud to stand beside him.

How are you and your spouse tonight?:)

2007-11-20 15:24:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous