I am married for 1 year.. Mine is love marriage.. I had a nice time till 2 months.. Problems have started frm then.. My husband has started spying me and started behaving in a weird manner. He says he is always busy with work and does not have time for me... I have spent only 5 months with my hubby coz he is always busy in business trips and leaves me in my mom's place.. Now he is abroad and he has left me in India.. Now he says he wants to get seprated from me and does not want to see my face also. I am really worrired.. he has not sent a visa also for me.. I am so depressed and dont know where to go.. He does not call or mail me also.. If I drop a mail he wil reply..If not no news from him.. He has changed his number.. He has not informed my parents also regarding this.. I called his parents, but they are also shoutin at me.. Really depressed... Need good help
2007-11-20 15:28:48 · 30 answers · asked by Sweety 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just wanted to add on somethin.. I have got help of my relative and got a visa done.. I will be seein him in 2 days.. I am goin without his knowledge.. I tryin all my best to patch up.. I just need some advice legally.. What type of a case can I file against him.. Coz I have no idea regarding it..Will I get a compensation on this..
2007-11-20 15:51:15 · update #1
I hope for the best you as you visit him & try to patch up your cracked relationship. May be your presence may bring a change of heart & he start the same love & affection for you which he had when you married him. The things which you should keep in mind in during this visit is to avoid any talks with him that irritates him regarding his parents behavior towards you in his absence, also avoid reminding him regarding his avoidance during his stay abroad towards you. Just see how he behaves with you, in the beginning he may not feel comfortable by your presence, but after few days he may change his attitude & start enjoying your company there. These are all the positive things which I suggest you to do while you are next to him in a foreign country. In case he behaves rudely & try to give mental harassment by his words & behavior, make a note of all these in your mind, with details of days & time when he do any such act. In case you are being accompanied by some one else, then such a person should be made witness to all his behavior & attitude. In case he becomes physically violent towards you make a police complaint against him & get a true certified copy of such complaint. Do keep in touch with your relatives back in India & provide them with the latest information regarding his behavior & all his negative acts whether physically or mentally inflicted on you. These can be conveyed to them by email, which should be saved or by telephonic conversation which can be recorded here by them regarding whatever you tell them. All these will be the piece of evidence that will be required by you for any sort of litigation against him in case he doesn't change his attitude & behaves in a refined gentleman manner with you. What else legal option you have to get relief can be discussed once you find this cracked relationship with him failed to mend during your visit abroad. What I want that your side of case should be kept crystal clear during all this time you are alone with him abroad at the same time you should be able to collect evidence that may be required for any sort of litigation by you against him. Hope now you feel bit comfortable as you pack you baggage & prepare for this journey.
2007-11-20 17:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think people here have seen many phases of life. Its always worth taking advice. In this world every one has got their own issues, does not mean they cant help you. People here, they come to share everything which can give some light in their life.
Dear, I m an Indian. I can understand what you are going through. I would ask, do you really think he loves you? If yes, where is that love? Compromise and adjustments, we do, but when u r sure that he loves u. Then it worth compromising. Otherwise you are a slave. You are making some one happy at the cost of ur happiness. Life is one time. I know now u will have parents problem, they will try to make you two together blah blah, if not they wont be happy. I think if ur husband does not want u, and does not love you, be real strong and send the divorce paper. You dont have to beg. Suggest him if you two can talk and sort out the issues. If not go for a 'D'. Indian community needs to accept the fact of 'D' if the marriage does not work.
India, is what US was back 50 years. People has good values, but they also need to stop torturing them for reasons like society, family crap. DIVORCE him, get a good job. Be independent. But for this you shd make sure that he does not love you anymore and wants a D as well. Good luck. no need to get scared at all. Just be bold.
2007-11-20 16:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to remember...Every day is a new journey and a new opportunity. You have the power over your life to do anything and be anyone. No one can define who you are but you. If you don't keep that in mind, depression can overtake you. Counseling can really help. There are programs that can help you get counseling, especially as a foster kid. A counselor can go a long way in helping you learn to reconnect with people. Usually kids in the foster care system are trained to not connect with people. You need to reestablish that instinct. Personally, if I were you and depending on WHY you were removed, I would not bother reconnecting with your bio-mother. If you were taken from her, there was probably a good reason. Even if she has changed, it may not be enough to help you. My sister's bio-mother was removed from her mom because of drugs, and even though she is now clean and back in my sister's life, she has a drugee mentality and only succeeds in upsetting my sister and trying to leech off her. It's a sad circumstance...but it also varies from situation to situation. Lastly, remember one thing. In life, we all get two families. The one we are born into and the one we choose. Often, the one we choose can provide more love, caring and understanding then the one we are born into. Just because you are cut off from your bio-family, that does not mean you can't still have an awesome family. Good luck and Hope this helps.
2016-05-24 09:59:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u will read may amaze u 4 a minute!
the whole thing is about him, and all what he is doing is to cover something mysterious, what i think is, he met another women and making an affair, cz he lost interest in u, and that means that he is in an affair, u may be a lot surprized when u go there to him! he will shout and hurt u more, but that doesnt mean not facing hin, u should face him and have courage for that, u cant live a life like this, so all what u can do is getting divorce cz he doesnt deserve u, u are a love giver, and he takes but without giving any of it back, u need to step forward and show him his mistake, BECAREFUL WITH EVERY STEP U ARE MAKING U SHOULDNT RUSH AND OVER REACT, BE WISE WITH UR WORDS AND ACTIONS.
hope u make it and am sure u will.!
2007-11-20 17:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by A's 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has some kind of hidden agenda. He is not to be trusted. Has he taken any life insurance policies out on you? A person who has treated you this way is a very cold and calculated person. Please stay away from him, because he does not mean you any good. Don't worry about the parents; because you married him, and you need to divorce him as soon as possible. Stop calling the parents, and definitely stop calling and writing him. If he wanted you, and if he loved you, he would be pursuing you, and you would believe in your heart that he loves you. Learn how to love yourself, and get some medical help for your depression, and I guarantee life will get better everyday.
2007-11-20 15:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by butterfly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like its going to end before it started. He is behaving like this in the beginning of your marriage. There is still long way to go. You cannot go-on compromising your whole life. It is better to get out of marriage and move on. One more thing what did you see in this man before marriage to fall in love with him. Poor thing you made a mistake in understanding him before marriage. Never do this mistake again in your life. Always think well before getting committed to anything. Now instead of patch-up get a divorce from him. He doesn't deserve you. It hurts, but Time is the best healer, you can overcome it. GOOD LUCK.
2007-11-20 22:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi sweety...firstly nothing can be solved by crying and getting depressed....this way u wont be able to think right...i know it must really hurt to be betrayed by a person whom u gave urself to...but u have to get over it.Its time to take matters into ur hands and make a plan/goal for your life.There are mainly 2 things that u can do:
1.u can leave him,and start a new life
2.U can go after him over there and try to save ur marriage.
But let me tell u,do u really want a person like him?i mean,u sayy that this ws a love marriage,and see within a few months he has betrayed u...God knows wt he will do after a few yrs..the matter cd gt bad if chidren are invoved..so in a way it ws gd that u came to know his true colours bfr its too late...so ya pls leave him...this guy is not worth it...ul get mch better than this...jsut dont lose hope...and believe in urself.
p.s. pls do confide in ur parents...they have a right to know,and also u need their emotional support....and never ever take crap frm anyone...nt his parents or anybody else...always stand up fr urself and ur rights...remeber,wt dsnt kill u,only makes u stronger....all the best and take care of urself.
2007-11-20 15:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by gayatri 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you are in pain. It sounds to me that he has started a new life. You can too! I know that you are so depressed right now but accepting that fact that it is over will do you good. It will hurt, but day by day it will get better. Thank God that you didn't have children with him! With that being said, you can sever all ties and try to start a new life for yourself. You deserve to be happy on this earth. Trust in God and he will guide you and give you strength.
2007-11-20 15:51:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very much lucky friend that you havnt get pregnant when he was with you, there are a lot of persons whose are struggling with cruel world with their babies . Be get separated with that inhuman as soon as possible.
There are so many things to do to keep your mind fresh .
Just ignore your past & go ahead , a new World is waiting for you. Who knows that your real prince is waiting on the other side of the new World?!
Best of Luck!
2007-11-20 15:53:32 · answer #9 · answered by Gargi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I think that you will be given alot of advice from people here about your situation you are in.Mine advice is short and sweet .Please there is signs that things are going to become hard for you.He could be very controlling towards you.Make decisions early in the marriage and get out before it gets nasty if it is like this now.All the best.Also do not have his parents shout at you.
2007-11-20 15:36:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋