Lets see ..
I am married, had a previous break up. We don't stay together because of my job. I don't love him, its not a complete love marriage. I feel it was a mistake. I don't think I am a bad person, it is just I want to be with my soulmate. Now why I married, because of family pressure, even himself was pushing me here. But at the end I was the person who thought this could be best for me. But now, I dont feel even a lil spark, what a unlucky person. Months before my marriage, my ex cheated on after being with me for 3 years. Now he cries that I was his soulmate. But I dont trust him anymore. I used to pray for him every day. I lost the faith also..
What shd I do in my life?? Serious advice needed..
2007-11-20 16:41:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He says he loves me, but his small things annoy me. I feel he does not deserve this. He knows in his heart that I dont fully love him. I can't even pretend that much, I am always serious and depressed. I am an working and rest everything works good for me other than my marriage.
I am scared of my parents. I love them so much. That is one of the reason I am married today. I know people say try, but I have never loved him at all. do you think still I can try?
Even he does not do anything to make me more into this. I cant ask because he says I dont do anything. I am just tired. If I say I need help, he feels bad because then he says, 'if yuou feel u dont love me, I will feel bad'. I am just stucked.
Parents are imp to me so I have not been able to do things of my own as it would hurt them.
2007-11-20 16:58:07 · update #1
I dont have any kids. I love them. But god is punishing me way too much..I was a religious person, now, I dont believe in god anymore. He never helped me when I was crying like hell.
2007-11-20 17:02:07 · update #2
You have ONE life to live and that's it. If you are lonely, you have your family and your friends, but they should not ever make decisions for you. It will be hard, but you need to get a divorce, start over, and find someone that will make you happy completely. It might take longer than you want but don't chose anyone just because of lonliness because you will end up unhappy. If you wait for the right one, it will be worth it. Live your life for yourself and your happiness and no one else's.
2007-11-20 16:46:06 · answer #1 · answered by *the dancing machine* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a religious person then I feel that you should keep praying for the right sign and answer, but really I think that you have all the answers in front of you which are that fact that you are not in love with the man that you have commited your life too and regardless of how much you try to convince yourself that you love him if it is not there then it is not there. Even if there are children involved (if any) you still need to get out of that relationship because you said that yourself that you are unhappy and that may affect the attitudes of your own children. I believe (cliche maybe) that there is that one person out there waiting and sometime we have to be patient, and about your ex he maybe just realizing what a good thing he lost and wants it back which I think you should put him behind you and move on towards your real soulmate. Well I hope everything works out for you Good Luck and keep on praying he is always listening!
2007-11-20 16:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by Ghost 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was your soulmate, he wouldn't have cheated. Don't be tempted to go down that road just because you're lonely. About the marriage, did you love him before? If you did I seriously suggest going to couples counseling just to see if you can make it work. If there's no way of making it work, start the divorce process but try avoid new relationships until it's done and dusted. After that, try going out with friends, you'll meet someone eventually. If you don't like going out much, try a respectable internet dating service.
Good luck :)
2007-11-20 16:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow your in the same boat as me. I'm unhappily married, just cause I don't feel love for my husband anymore. its so hard cuz I don' know what or how to tell him :( I have always believed there is someone out there for everyone. but how do you stay in a relationship with no love from one side??? I'm doing it and I"m pretending to love him. I mean I care about him but I just don't have that special feeling with him. I feel like my marriage was a mistake also. how does your husband feel about you now? if he kinda feels the same then you could get out alot easier. but if he's clueless to it ( like mine ) its going to be really hard. you need to do what makes you happy and if being with someone else does that then you need to leave him. ( wow I should take my own advice ) so much easier said then done. I wish you all the luck and hope everything turns out. I also believe everythig happens for a reason too.
2007-11-20 16:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by princess1226 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going though something Allot like this myself.We need to do what makes us happy.Yes some will get hurt,but haven't WE hurt enough as well?Its time to take A stand And do for us what we have been doing for others for so long.Making our selves happy for A change.
2007-11-20 16:51:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say go with your heart. if you cant do it any longer with him, just let it go. now if you want to give it a try then do so. but it sounds like your mind made up about not being with him and moving on. dont settle.lonliness is way better than being with a man you feel no respect and affection for.
2007-11-20 16:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by GG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should see a marriage counselor. It sounds like you are unhappy with life, and you need to start with you first, before you can work on your marriage.
2007-11-20 16:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by sarlha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy you have to do what is going to be best for you. If counseling doesn't,or hasn't helped improve your marriage, you may want to re-examine your marital status.
2007-11-20 16:53:00 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do what is right for you and not what is expected of you.......... this is your life no one elses..stand up to your parents and him and tell them all its over ............... and move on ...parents may never speak to you again but they should be supportive of you and what you want in life...they should want to see you happy........... tell them that when they get upset about it...............take care
2007-11-20 17:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what you need to do, you just want us to confirm your answer... leave him and live your life to be happy!
2007-11-20 16:46:42 · answer #10 · answered by Charles M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋