if your medically challenged spouse gave permission?
2007-11-20 15:42:04 · 20 answers · asked by Jyssi Leeann 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am really split on this! Part of me says you committed yourself body, heart and soul to your spouse so to share any of them intimately with another would be wrong.
But the other part says your spouse knows you very well, and maybe understands that you have needs to be fulfilled to be a whole person so gave you permission to seek that fulfillment elsewhere.
Only the couple in the situation could truly judge what is right or wrong for them.
2007-11-20 16:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What could a medically challenged spouse really say. The only reason they would give permission is because they can't stop you anyway. Yes its wrong. You married for better or worse. This is the worse. At least leave them first. It may be bad to leave them but it would be worse having a relationship that hurts them right in front of there face. It would be really cold. Yes its seems like an impossible predicament BUT if you really love your spouse deal with it. Paralyzed or not they are the same person you married minus the sex. Sex isn't everything. Only you can make your decision. Good Luck
2007-11-20 23:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by smile4u 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It depends on what you mean by start something. If you are talking about just a sexual thing, then no there is nothing wrong with it. If I were paralyzed from the neck down, it would be totally insane for me to expect my spouse to do without sex. If this happened to me and I had a spouse, she would have my permission because I would kill myself. I have known people that were paralyzed from the neck down and I would rather be dead than live that way!!!
2007-11-21 12:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something I have asked myself on many occasions. Yes. I would have to be honest and say yes. I would seek out someone else for sexual pleasure. I would not however seek out someone for a relationship. [Easy to say without actually being in that position.] I would have to use an escort service. No one should have to be condemned to a life of celibacy because of drastic debilitating circumstances. It's something that you would/should talk over with your husband/wife. It would take a strong marriage to hold together through this tragic ordeal, let alone stay together as husband and wife. The idea is to relieve your urges, not jump into an affair. If you still love your spouse then, changes need to be implemented. Life can deal us some pretty lousy hands but, I hope that you can find peace in your decision.
Talon
2007-11-21 03:12:05 · answer #4 · answered by talon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each person has their own views of what constitutes as "right" and "wrong".
To me, if the spouse or partner has granted their permission to have an emotional or physical affair, then it's not wrong at all, because they are well aware of the arrangements and one is not disrespecting the other through deception, but I am no one to judge others anyways, I only have MY opinions.
2007-11-21 00:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by Quelararí 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are suppose to be with that person till death do you part. You are suppose to love for better or for worse. The spouse is giving permission because they can no longer have sex. Don't do it. There are so many toys out there and other things you can do in that department.
2007-11-20 23:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it was given permission no it is not wrong.It is wrong to tell the spouse that you did it.If it bothers you after then for you own self it is wrong.Just try not to fell in love with the other person .That would be wrong to all three
2007-11-21 00:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by freddy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We all knew that .... "marriage is a lifetime bonding between two people ... in sickness and in health" ...
How could you leave someone you love...especially this time ..... when he needed you most?
Tho, it depends on the situation .....if they both agreed .....that only means that things are properly arranged. Come to think of it .... even both partners who are able ...they can terminate the relationships anytime they want ... if that's what they agreed.
And kuddos for those love .... 'till death do us part' ... for their wife / husband and their determinations ...is that strong ... nothing can be moved even ....mountains.
Just hope that there's still wife or husband who could sacrifice for love ....
2007-11-21 01:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by always confuse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you even contemplate this idea.... of course he doesnt really mean it when he "gives you permission" !... my god you may as well pull the plug on him..... poor man! How would you feel if he wanted to do this to you.....it would break your heart wouldn't it.... think about your vowels when you married ....TO DEATH DO US PART!!!! he is still alive you know just sadly paralysed you should be sticking with him no matter what...is sex and all your concerned about!
2007-11-21 00:08:13 · answer #9 · answered by littlemisssaigon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. They just feel like they aren't enough for you. Sickness and health it says in the marriage vows. If your asking if it's wrong then you know the answer
2007-11-20 23:54:29 · answer #10 · answered by natasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋