divorced?
2007-11-20 16:33:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would MUCH rather have folks who've been with their mate for a long time helping me.
2007-11-20 16:34:23 · update #1
Just because they've made mistakes doesn't mean they know the answers to a good relationship. Otherwise, we would only see people getting divorced once instead of 4 and 5 times.
2007-11-20 16:44:34 · update #2
Abuse prevention (especially if the person received counseling) is a WHOLE different kind of subject, and a good one.
2007-11-20 16:46:34 · update #3
Don't get my wrong. This isn't my first marriage, but I'm not going to try to tell people how to treat their mate until I've been married a LONG time.
2007-11-20 16:53:11 · update #4
Nick Z, That's what I think, too. It is like they are hoping we will try their advice for them, like they are experimenting on US!
2007-11-20 17:08:54 · update #5
Would you want a surgeon who had committed malpractice to operate on you?
2007-11-20 19:04:52 · update #6
Many divorced people are trying to work out in their own minds what went wrong and how it could've been better in their failed marriages.
They are trying to advise themselves. And while they are at it, they often end up giving the same advice to others too.
But the advice they think up is often something they haven't yet tried in real life. And they often don't know whether their advice is any good.
2007-11-20 17:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the first poster. Many times a divorced person knows what the mistakes are and actually bc no sane person would wish divorce on no one would actually try to help and share what they have learned so that you dont make the same mistakes they did. Believe it or not this life is about learning and growing and I say accept the advice given from those who have been there either still going strong or those who see the error of their ways. U can learn alot from both sides believe it or not.
2007-11-21 00:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by Candle Queen 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am divorced and try very hard to not judge or be critical. Nor do I suggest divorce as an easy way out! It is a miserable last option when all else has failed.
And it is up to the reader to accept or reject the answers they get to their questions, not take the advice of all answerers. We who failed may see the mistakes we made more clearly now, and try to help others not do the same.
2007-11-21 00:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People learn from their mistakes..and pass it on to others, in hopes of them not making the same mistakes.
With you saying this, does that mean I should not give advice to any one that has been abused, since I allowed myself at one time, to be in the same situation?
Good advice is good advice...take it or leave it.
Not divorced here..with dh for 8 years :0 )
Also, I am sure you are aware that there are ALL kinds of people on the internet, and not all are who they say they are.
If people come on here looking for advice, they need to keep that in mind as well.
2007-11-21 00:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are passing on information they learned from their mistakes...................
Ya know, if you take offense here, maybe you should join a chat group of like minded folks. That way your "expert" relationship advise will be accepted by the other mindless sheep in that chat room
2007-11-21 00:41:46 · answer #5 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it's because they've gone that route before and don't want you to make the same mistakes they made.
2007-11-21 00:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by yayaquack 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋