What do I do about my husband cheating on me I am getting really depressed how do I get over him.?

Question

I cant bare it anymore im only 19 and dont want this anymore. Whats the best thing for me to do.

Answer 1

try an get help.... but hey.... YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE!!!!!! DO NOT STAy in an unhappy situation!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

If you are only 19 and married, first of all, maybe you shouldn't have gotten married. You can ask him if he would go to counseling with you, because sometimes that really helps. You need to communicate with him. He is cheating because there is something lacking in YOUR relationship, and it might not even be sex. I know how painful this is and if you feel like you can forgive him if he stops then maybe you can stay with him, but a relationship that is bringing you so much heartache and pain is simply not worth it. If I were you, I'd ignore him and find other interests or move out for a week or two until he realizes that he is going to lose you if he doesn't stop cheating. No matter who you are or who he is, you CANNOT let someone disrespect you and abuse you like this, regardless of the situation. Cheating is hurtful and if he knows that you are aware and he is deliberately hurting you then he is probably not somoene you want to spend the rest of your life with. You need to really sit down and talk to him about what he wants from you and your relationship without arguing or getting emotional which might be impossible. If he is as young as you are, I will say I believe that most people need to experience a lot and be with a good amount of people before they decide to settle down and he might just not want to settle down yet, but in that case, he should not have asked you to marry him. If i was in your shoes it would just be completely unbearable for me and I think I would leave if I had no children. Show him how important you are by NOT being there, and he will learn to appreciate your presence more. I hope things get better for you,

Answer 3

Honestly I can't just blatently say leave him. But it seems you are already planning on it.
To get over a man is simple, Concentrate on YOU!
Most women concentrate on him (like what's he's doing, why did he do this to you, are you no longer attractive to him.) what ever don't think anything about that. Think about you, everyday when you wake up say something nice about you to yourself, pray a little prayer, and remind yourself that HE cheated and HE is undeserving. and remind yourself that YOU are a faithful woman, and YOU deserve SO MUCH MORE. one thing I want you to remember is to NOT go out looking for another guy right away this will only be something you will later regret. If you don't have a job you enjoy and you can afford to take one that you do, do it. Like with me, if my husband cheated on me I would take the job at the ski resort and ski on all of my days off and live at the resort (you get discounts and free lift tickets at the one near my home). Don't hold back on making yourself something nice to drink, call up a good old friend and rant and remember that IT'S OK TO CRY! that's the first step to getting over him. anyways sorry to hear about the bad luck, and remember that you are well loved (by god and Jesus) and with good faith good things will come eventually.

Answer 4

You're 19, you have your whole life ahead of you. I know it's hard right now and you're hurting, but trust me things will get better. Better you found out now what a jerk he is and move on with your life. I say get a divorce.."once a cheater always a cheater". Why would you want to spend the best part of your life with someone who doesn't respect you nor give a sh*t how he hurts you. Dump him, get yourself together and don't look back. You deserve a hell of a lot more. Not some 2 timing loser....

Answer 5

U're young. Let him go, get an education, focus on your career, get to know you as a woman and what u want out of life independently and what u'd want out of a relationship then concentrate on a committed relationship and or marriage. Live your life first...trust me. Been there(I got married at 20) I am now 28 and I tell u what I wish I could have a do over and do all those things I wanted to do as a single person w/ no kids. Get out of the situation now why you have some life left and plz go live it!

Answer 6

This is a classic example of why when you are in a relationship you should not revolve you ENTIRE life around your mate. Many of us do this and forget about our friends, family, hobbies ect. Its just not healthy because if this happens then you are left in the dark. Everyone should always keep a "network" consisting of friends, family or any combination of the two. What to do now? Hang out with friends, family...go out start back at the beginning...what do you like to do? stay busy..pain does heal all wounds.

Answer 7

wow, 19 and married? thats young kiddo, you gotta play the field a bit and be SURE you love someone before you marry them. If i were you, id chalk it up as a mistake and move on. Dont worry about a relationship all the time, enjoy yourself, play the field and when you find someone, you'll know. Life is short, be happy...no matter what it takes.

Answer 8

I am 19 too but not married. However, how can you stay with and have feelings for someone who cares very little if at all about you. It seems like he is a real bum and doesn't deserve you let him go and hurt some other girl.

Answer 9

That's very sad. Talk to a counselor. Don't get in a new relationship until you feel better.

Nineteen is a bit young to be married. The next time you marry, I hope you are financially and emotionally ready.

Answer 10

I know it is hard but you need to go ahead and divorce him, you are 19 ..you have your whole life ahead of you and will find a good man, If you stay with him you are only setting yourself up for disapointment ..he will not change..you deserve better!

Answer 11

You don't say if you have any children. If you do I would definitely try counselling to see if there is anything left on his part to want to be married.
If no children, straight out tell him if he wants to run around with other women, you are leaving. You have to believe you are worth more than that kind of treatment, though.