Ok, it starts like this my husband comes home from working a 12 hour shift .Goes to bed, then when he gets up he don't seem horney or anything like that. Until about 20 or 30 min before going in to work he starts getting a heart on. Now here I am thinking why you get one on right before work why not when you are at home, it seems alittle weird to me and I'm the wife, I feel like if he's horney he should want to have sex where he will not have a big thing standing up when he goes to work. I'M CONFUSED ABOUT THIS CRAP....
2007-11-20 15:45:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well my husband also works 12 hours and hes on call..
hmm what kind of field is your husband in?
he also doesn't wanna have sex he said hes tired and i understand but there's days that i really want it and i wont do it because i know hes tired sometimes i do it myself, but most of the time i kinda make it known to him i want him and he goes for it, plus for me i think its exciting to do it before work i don't know there something about it.
When i worked i us to love doing it before i left to work its so yummy
2007-11-20 16:22:26 · answer #1 · answered by LEO GIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is text book. He is exhausted and it sounds like much of his time is spent at work. Cut the guy some slack. Discuss your concerns. He get reved up right before work because he is waking up. And I'm sure its gone before he gets to work. PLUS.. it has something to do with you if it is BEFORE he leaves for work. (not during work) Maybe with the long hours and off schedules, you two just need to make some time for each other. See if you can't get a weekend with just the two of you. I think its normal and nothing of huge concern. But if you are concerned about the status of your marriage... TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT.
And best of luck. I hope you both are able to resolve the problem.
2007-11-20 23:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by lexing1010 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its a guy thing maybe while you both are getting ready he gets turned on by your naked body and he wants to tear that stuff up. Im the same way and it doesn't mean i'm doing nothing wrong. It's the way hormones work
2007-11-20 23:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jose S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's funny is that I have that problem in reverse....I am not in the mood but a little before I know he's leaving for work, I end up getting all worked up and wanting to but he has to get ready for work then! lol
I just assume it's bad timing.....
2007-11-20 23:49:23 · answer #4 · answered by myl0vely 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Could be he's too exhausted after working 12 hours... then after he gets some rest he's ready to go. Also, it's very common for men to just wake up that way.
2007-11-20 23:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by Elle 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
men are weird about sex, especially once you get married. they either never want sex, or only when the woman makes the move. you've got to be straight forward with him and tell him you have needs.
2007-11-21 00:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by SimpleMo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ive done 12hr shifts for a long time. it does strange things to your body chemistry and internal clock. just roll with it and be there for him. its pretty hard to be excited about anything short of sleep after that shift.
2007-11-20 23:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by loribean2003 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE WHEN HE GETS HOME HE IS SO STRESSED FROM WORK AND TIRED..SEX IS NOT ON HIS MIND..AND HE WANTS TO BE IN A GREAT MOOD BEFORE HE GOES TO WORK..SO HE GETS HORNY...AND WANTS YOU TO PUT A SMILE ON HIS FACE FOR WORK
2007-11-20 23:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by cOVagUrL 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be reading into this way too much. Don't you know that his other head has a mind totally of its own?
2007-11-21 01:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by only1sol2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for a man to wake up with a hardon. He could have been haveing a wet dream before he woke up.
2007-11-21 00:01:05 · answer #10 · answered by Sexy Blue Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋